View Full Version : I dumped my boyfriend, but I'm feeling sad about it.
beachbum88
Jan 14, 2009, 02:39 PM
I am a college student. A little over a year ago I began dating a guy I met through a friend. Everything was wonderful. We had a great time hanging out, joking, doing whatever. He brought me flowers for no reason. It was too good to be true... which turned out to be our problem. After the first 4 months or so, things changed. He started expecting me to do things instead of asking me to help him. He made me feel bad about going home to see my family. He was jealous, suspicious, and controlling most of the time. I stopped hanging out with my friends because I didn't want him to get mad at me. My friends and family said that I seemed depressed, and that he was bringing me down, but when I was with him I was usually felt happy. We argued all the time about stupid little things, and sometimes over big things as well. We talked about our issues but nothing ever changed. I decided it was time to break it off a few days before my birthday because I didn't want him to spend his money on me if I felt that we couldn't work things out anymore. Now that it's over I feel sad. I know that the things we had are gone now and I miss them. I just wonder if I did the right thing or if I should have stayed with him.
Justwantfair
Jan 14, 2009, 03:10 PM
You did the right thing.
Breaking up is not an easy process, stick with it. Good luck to you.
BlackVY
Jan 14, 2009, 03:14 PM
Hmm does seem like the right to do... being with him was bringing you down as your family said.
I guess some guys do that, they are the perfect guy in the start of the relationship, but when they think they have the girl hooked, they change. You need to find someone consistent, someone who trusts you and doesn't control you.
Good luck with things, and hope you'll find your prince someday... and happy belated birthday for whenever it was... lol... Peace :)
SimpleguyJoe
Jan 14, 2009, 10:59 PM
Sounds like you guys had a great honeymoon phase then once things got real you just did not click. He seems a tad to immature to have a real relationship right now. Being jealous gets you nowhere and it might be awhile before he realizes that. So you did the right thing.
Just stick it out, you will probably want to go back to him at some point thinking things will be different. Don't because they won't be, just stick to your guns and you should be all right!
nehasharma
Nov 22, 2010, 07:46 PM
I have done the same thing... jst a few days back... I loved him... he loved me too... but the fights and the insecurities were a way too much... I've dumped him... feeling sad for him and for myself too... bt I am headstrong that it was perhaps d best thing to do