OK new subject. Lets say you are meeting your girlfriend at the bar to visit friends. She shows up about an hour earlier than you do. She has a few drinks before you get there. You show up, order a drink and your girlfriend tells the bar tender to put it on the tab she started because we are together. How would you handle it? Be a big man and pay the bill... ask her to cash her bill out first then start a new one together... or maybe she should have just cashed out then started a new tab... what would you do/say, etc...

My angle: Yes; When you arrive and she says to put it on her tab, say

"No, honey, tab out and I'll start a new one" (that is, assuming you'd be buying for both)

pay the bill whether she was there earlier if you would normally be paying for the date in whole.

if paying for a few extra drinks is going to throw my checkbook out of wack then I probably shouldn't be out anyway.

if the tab is excessive then OK... you shouldn't be paying for her three friends also.

actually, my wife tends to play pool and socialize at the bar. Friends will say "look at that guy! hes hanging on your wife!" well... the boy better be buying her drinks, and she's going home with me anyway. =)

actually, my wife tends to play pool and socialize at the bar. friends will say "look at that guy! hes hanging on your wife!" well... the boy better be buying her drinks, and shes going home with me anyways. =)

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Very funny!!

OK good answer. But you maybe missing the point. If I walk in the bar and my girlfriend says to put all on her tab she started and of course I will be paying. I think you should pull the girlfriend aside later and say look. When I come in the bar and I'm paying the bill do not tell the bar tender what to do. I will first ask you (gf) if you have a tab. If she says yes. Than I would say, bartender keep the tab because we are together. I think the whole message is who is in control when it comes to paying the bill.

I hope to hell this isn't with the same women.

You worry about too much man. Just share the freaking tab.

I'd let her run the tab then kick in my amount at the end of the night. I'm a big feminist. :)

I hope to hell this isn't with the same women.

You worry about too much man. Just share the freaking tab.
Wrong answer. Try again. I'm not worried about it.

Then why the hel lare you posting.

And if your STILL with that NUT bag we can't help you. Period. ENd of story.

Something isn't right here at all.

Then why the hel lare you posting.

And if your STILL with that NUT bag we can't help you. Period. ENd of story.

Something isn't right here at all.
Hey wildcat21 my post and I'm asking a question. Don't give me crap about another issue. Get off my post or answer the question. Geez

No more help me. Help yourself. She has driven you insane.

No more help me. Help yourself. She has driven you insane.
That is exactly what I'm doing. I'm helping myself. Coming here and discussing relationship issues. She can't drive me insane. I will not allow it. Besides I thought we where not going to talk about her. Maybe she is making you insane?.

I'd tell her to cash hers out first then start a new one.