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random_chick
Jan 8, 2009, 05:55 AM
Can stresss cause depretion in teenagers??
Clough
Jan 8, 2009, 06:30 AM
Hi, random_chick!
Stress can cause a lot of things in a person, one of them being depression.
Is there a particular reason that you're asking this question? If so, what would be the reason, please?
Thanks!
random_chick
Jan 8, 2009, 06:34 AM
Well lately I have been depressed. And I thought it was due to me doing my coursewok and exams.
Clough
Jan 8, 2009, 06:40 AM
A lot of pressure on a person can also lead to depression.
What do you think while you're depressed that might be a result of the depression, please?
Thanks!
random_chick
Jan 8, 2009, 06:43 AM
When I'm depressed all I want to do is die. Or slit my wrists.
Clough
Jan 8, 2009, 06:48 AM
You do know that those wouldn't be wise choices for you to make, don't you?
random_chick
Jan 8, 2009, 06:53 AM
Yh I do, just that when I'm depressed I think it is the only way to stop it
Clough
Jan 8, 2009, 07:14 AM
You don't have to hurt yourself in order to stop depression.
What are some things that you're interested in and involved in, please?
I do apologize for my Internet connection is really slow because I'm on a phone line and sometimes I get disconnected frequently.
Thanks!
Clough
Jan 8, 2009, 07:19 AM
I'm going to call in some really caring people from this site who'll be able to also help you here.
Please don't despair, but be of good courage that you have a lot to live for rather than hurting yourself!
Stringer
Jan 8, 2009, 08:16 AM
GOOD MORNING Random_Chick...
It is my pleasure to meet you. I see that you are "offline" can you come back to say hi?
Stringer
Alty
Jan 8, 2009, 10:00 AM
Hi Random Chick.
I've suffered through depression for most of my life, in fact, I've been on anti-depressants for 7 years now, and they do help.
For most people depression is a temporary thing, but for others it is a chemical imbalance that does require medication to correct.
Have you talked to your doctor, that would be a good step to take.
There are other things that can help as well, there are hotlines you can call, and of course, there's us. :)
We're here if you need to talk, I hope that everything gets better. Keep one thing in mind. I know it's easy to think of ending things when you're depressed, but really, there are a lot of solutions to this, and hurting yourself isn't one of them. You are a unique and special person, you're here for a reason. You deserve to feel better and you will, one day.
Until then keep your chin up, I promise you, it will get better.
kp2171
Jan 8, 2009, 10:19 AM
Absolutely it can. Been there, done that.
I've been through one really rough patch of depression. A job opportunity fell apart at the last moment, I had a new house (bigger bills), and the stress of being a new parent. I had a lot of reasons to be grateful for my blessings, but all I saw were my struggles.
No fun when the best part of your day is when you are sleeping.
And I certainly had the "would it be better if i wasnt here" thoughts on more than one occasion.
Also, don't neglect the "seasonal disorder" issues that are tied to less light and being shut in. couple that with the stress of classes and all the holiday noise and its common to feel much of what you are feeling, whether you are a teen or older.
jrebel7
Jan 8, 2009, 10:24 AM
Hi there R_C, I am so sorry you are having issues with depression. I go through periods of that and can identify with the feelings you have expressed in your posts. My cousin took his life as well as a good friend of my daughter's. If they had only waited three minutes, I believe they would be here today. In one moment's time, so many lives were changed and not for good. We miss them so much and their lives were filled with such promise.
Stress can certainly lend itself to depression. There are so many factors that lead to it but also so many things, like others have shared that can help pull you out of it. If you are having exams, chances are you are not sleeping enough, probably not eating the right kinds of foods, maybe too much fast food and caffeine, and not getting exercise.
Depression can be a complex issue to deal with and for some, as Alty says, requires meds. Some simple things I suggest is drink lots of water, as you are studying, then take a brisk 15 minute walk every so often. Don't forget to deep breathe, taking in air through your nose slowly and deeply to the count of 4 and out through pursed lips, slowly to the count of 6, exhaling more air than you took in. This will get lots of needed oxygen through your system, to your brain, which can help a bit with your state of mind. Do this just three or four times while in a relaxed position every hour or so. (If you do it too many times in a row, may make you a bit dizzy! I've done that, not fun.)
If eating better, exercise, fluids (75% of all Americans - not sure where you are from... sorry I didn't check profile yet - are dehydrated to some degree... too much coffee, tea, cola, rather than water and juices) don't seem to improve your state of mind, then wihtout fail... contact your physician. Also talk to a family member or a friend and sometimes just sharing the despair you are feeling, helps to lift part of that feeling.
Please... keep posting here. You will find much encouragement and just good friends here on this site.
Many more people will come on here that can help more than I but I do know some of these things I mentioned seem too simple, but do work. As I said, if not, do as Alty suggested and speak to your doctor. You may need an anti-depressant for a short time only... but if not, realize that all our systems are different and if you need them, then get them and feel better. Best to you.
Alty
Jan 8, 2009, 10:31 AM
Rebby and KP are right. As for anti-depressants, most people only need them for a short time.
Realize that most meds take 5-6 weeks to start working, so see your doctor now. If you don't need meds your doctor will tell you and hopefully find an alternative for you.
You're young, school can be tough and stressful, so many things going on when you're a teen, but really, it does get better.
We all care what happens to you and trust me, there's nothing you can't share with us. We're here to listen, so come back and talk to us. The people on this site are great, Stringer, KP, Clough, Rebbie, they're all wonderful people, and I'm sure more people will come to offer some advice and a shoulder to lean on.
We're here for you, know that, come and let us carry some of the load.
Starbucks21
Jan 8, 2009, 10:51 AM
With all the pressure from school and life it's self... a lot of teens get depressed
The thoughts of you causing yourself bodily harm (being slitting your wrist), can progress into worse things and I do recommend professional consoling. There is nothing wrong with needing help every now and then.
As for the medication... which one? Did you start having these bad thoughts while on it? This could be a bad side effect of the medication your doctor needs to know about. If they started before just keep in mind... It's OK... we all have bad moments... It's what we do with them to make us better
Most depression medications are a build up medication and they can take several weeks.
Stringer
Jan 8, 2009, 10:58 AM
With all the pressure from school and life it's self... alot of teens get depressed
The thoughts of you causing yourself bodily harm (being slitting your wrist), can progress into worse things and i do recommend professional consoling. There is nothing wrong with needing help every now and then.
As for the medication... which one? Did you start having these bad thoughts while on it? This could be a bad side effect of the medication your doctor needs to know about. If they started before just keep in mind... It's ok... we all have bad moments... It's what we do with them to make us better
Most depression medications are a build up medication and they can take several weeks.
I may be wrong Starby but I don't think she is on medications. They were suggested by others.
Starbucks21
Jan 8, 2009, 12:44 PM
I may be wrong Starby but I don't think she is on medications. They were suggested by others.
Ok... From the post I wasn't sure if there were or it was talk about going on... Better safe than sorry
I still think consoling would be the best option and certain medications monitored by a licensed healthcare professional. Yes it's not uncommon for teenage depression when there's a lot of stress, the best fix is often therapy
The problem is so common I bet there are even support groups where OP is.
starbuck8
Jan 8, 2009, 01:54 PM
Ok... From the post i wasn't sure if there were or it was talk about going on... Better safe than sorry
I still think consoling would be the best option and certain medications monitored by a licensed healthcare professional. Yes it's not uncommon for teenage depression when there's a lot of stress, the best fix is often therapy
The problem is so common I bet there are even support groups where OP is.
Stringer got me confused with you! I'm Starby!
Starbucks21
Jan 8, 2009, 02:04 PM
Stringer got me confused with you! I'm Starby!
Lol I did not intend to choose the name starbucks to confuse you... that was just what I was drinking at the time when I picked the name. It also cost some dollar amount and 21 cents.
But you can be starby...
starbuck8
Jan 8, 2009, 02:11 PM
can stresss cause depretion in teenagers???
You need to come back and talk to us sweetheart, so we can help you. Stress and depression go hand in hand. Actually few people know that stress in itself is an actual disease. It releases chemicals into your brain, and that is what causes a form of depression. The front part of your brain is sending off signals and to put it simply, your brain is mis-firing. You need something to balance that out. Whether it be in the form of medication, meditation, holistic or herbal remedies, exercise and such. You need to see your Dr. and describe your specific symptoms, and your schedule, eating habits, sleep patterns, and so on, to get a specific diagnosis.
With that said, having the thoughts that you are having need to be dealt with. There is never a good reason to consider suicide. You NEED to talk to a professional. I'm happy you came here. That is a good start. We are here to help you. DO NOT make any life changing, or God forbid, ending decisions, when you are in this frame of mind. You need to pick up a phone and call a friend or family member, come on here, call a crisis line, or anything you can do to get through the immediate feeling of urgency and depression. I know you might not understand how things in the brain work, but if you exercise even for a few minutes, it releases chemicals in your brain that will help with the immediate feeling until you can get to someone who can help you.
Please come back so we can talk with you more!
starbuck8
Jan 8, 2009, 02:12 PM
lol i did not intend to choose the name starbucks to confuse you.... that was just what i was drinking at the time when i picked the name. It also cost some dollar amount and 21 cents.
But you can be starby....
No problem. It just gets confusing at times! ;)
Alty
Jan 8, 2009, 02:13 PM
Starby, had to spread the rep, but I love your post, very kind, caring, accurate advice. :)
Chery
Jan 13, 2009, 04:57 AM
If this is the first time that you've 'felt' stress in your life, you really have to consider yourself lucky. We've all have some amount of stress in our lives, i.e. new schools, new neighborhood and friends, new family members, mom and dad splitting up, etc. Well you name it, it has happened and since we are warmblooded emotional human beings, these things just don't happen and leave us cold.
Sometimes, all these things added up, when we've ignored them so long, will eventually 'gang' up on us and then, bam! - we are hit with something we cannot understand and it drags us down so low that we don't know what to do anymore. Well, honey, it's OK.. just try and think back on all the things that bothered you and take care of one issue at a time, let it bring out anger, frustrations, or any other emotion you need to feel.. then talk to someone about it - even with us here. There is no need at all to keep things to yourself and think that you can 'handle' it.
When faced with any issues that bothers us, don't keep it inside, face it and work on it and then go forward from there. Don't forget to get help - there is nothing at all to be ashamed of there - that's what all the help groups and professionals are here for.
Good luck dear, and keep us posted.
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random_chick
Jan 15, 2009, 06:46 AM
My mom and dad have split up. It isent the first time I have been stressed. Thank you for your advice
Jake2008
Jan 15, 2009, 09:06 AM
Depression in teenagers is one of the things that is underdiagnosed, and misdirected simply because parents and therapists often think 'its just the teenage years', and somehow the behaviour is normal.
Many times it is, but prolonged feelings of worthlessness, sadness, excessive sleeping, eating or not eating, withdrawal from everyday normal routines and friends, and otherwise slipping constantly into depression, over a long period, is not normal.
Situational depression or depression that naturally follows the death of a loved one, or a major upset in life and that has a cause, will not generally change an otherwise functioning individual, into someone who thinks of death and dying as a solution.
Thoughts of suicide does not necessarily mean that a person will actually do it, but it is certainly a red flag, and goes beyond 'normal' feeling blue. Cutting is an expression of severe emotional pain desperate for release.
While I respect all the opinions here, I do urge you also get a complete physical, and start with your family doctor. Be honest with how the depression is affecting your life, and the thoughts you have. Only then will you be on the path to healing. If it is clinical depression, treatment is the only way to go.
kp2171
Jan 15, 2009, 09:14 AM
Sorry to hear it. Been there, done that.
I know there's all kinds of stereotypes about what it means to be a teenager... mood swings... angst... etc. well, the truth is, no matter how much it doesn't make you feel better, there's good reason for it.
Take any "stable" adult... put them in a place where their physical appearance is changing, friends are changing, social construct is changing, and hormones are fluctuating like mad... even the most grounded person would struggle, suffer, and hurt.
The hormone changes alone can make an otherwise grounded person feel off balance. As much as its easy to just assign "typical teenage" behavior as a rebellious rage, a push for self identity, or whatever other label we want to throw on it... there are real physiological issues at hand... meaning chemical "imbalances"... not just inexperience and less perspective.
Add into that the extreme highs and lows tied to relationship interests... and all the hurt that comes with learning how to like others, accept rejection, how to learn that failed relationships teach you about your needs and set you up for better relationships...
Its just a lot to ask of anyone.
I think I was just out of college... graduated... employed... things were rolling along fairly well... but there was still some uncertainty about what I was doing (was it the right thing for me)... uncertainty about love (two big loves lost... what am I doing "wrong"?)... when I asked my mother "do you ever feel your age"?
And she smiled a little and said "no" without any hesitation.
We learn from our experiences. We hopefully make better choices over time. But it was both comforting and a little disconcerning to hear what she said.
The good news was that, even if she grew up in a different time, with different stressors... I understood that she understood where I was. Shed been there before herself. As a teen, I never felt like her experience was applicable to me. Well, it was. Read the threads here and you will see 35 year olds struggling with the same noise that 15 year olds do... just different scenarios and setups... but some of the same, basic, human struggles we all deal with.
The frustrating part of this was to not take it as "is this never going to get better?!"
I think it does. Its just you can experience some really bad times along the way.
Some of my biggest heartbreaks taught me how to love better. Sure... it sucked for far too long... but eventually I was able to move on and figure some things out.
My parents separating... the death of my grandfather (my father figure growing up)... the loss of a good friend... all of these things challenged me mentally, sometimes knocked me flat on my back.
So... all this noise I've written... guess its just to say many of us have been there too, in some way or form. That might not make you feel less alone in your darkest moments... but the reality is you are stronger than you think you are.
I really believe that.
rainbowreedbr
Jan 15, 2009, 11:08 AM
Yes, it can. Stress sucks!
Ging1994
Jan 15, 2009, 09:46 PM
Yes it can also cause weight gain or loss ansomnia many things best thing is to manage it
random_chick
Jan 16, 2009, 05:52 AM
Thank you for your help. But I don't want to tell my mom or dad about it because they will have ago at me fornslittin my wrists. If I told the doctor would he have to tell my parents??
Jake2008
Jan 16, 2009, 08:09 AM
Random_chick,
If you have already slit your wrists, that red flag just turned into a big flashing light to me.
When you cross that line of thinking about it, to actually harming yourself, it is time to get yourself to a doctor, or clinic, or counsellor of some kind, even an anonymous source such as a kid's help line.
The worry about your parents finding out is secondary to where you are heading right now. It doesn't matter that they find out, you are in serious trouble here, and although you're coping from day to day, you are not coping well.
You are inches away from help. You may think this will pass, but it won't, as nothing is solved. I don't know where you are, but if you can give me that information, I will find places for you.
The biggest mistake you can make right now is not helping yourself.
starbuck8
Jan 16, 2009, 08:58 AM
Sweetheart, you really do need to do what "Jake2008" said and talk to someone! This will not get better on it's own. You need help to deal with this. You're obviously upset about your parents getting divorced. Do you blame yourself for that happening? Because if you do, I can tell you right now without a word of a lie, it is NOT your fault! Your parents are the adults, and these are their problems... many of which you may not even know about. Are you afraid that if you talk to your parents about how you are feeling, that it will add to their problems? Please don't worry about this. Their worst problem would be not to have their daughter! I know they would want to help you with what you are dealing with.
If you just can't bring yourself to tell them, then you really do need to tell someone. A school counsellor, a therapist in your area, a friends mom, an aunt, or just anyone who you trust. Also, as "Jake2008" said, if you can tell us your area, we will try and find you numbers you can call. You don't have to give us this info on the board. You can PM us, and you don't have to give specific info, just your area. Also take a look in your phone book. (or 411) You should be able to find the Kids Help Line, or a Crisis or Suicide Help Line. Please call one of these places for help. Hurting yourself will solve nothing honey! I know it feels hopeless right now, but it doesn't always have to feel that way.
Please keep on talking with us. Next time you feel like hurting yourself, call someone or come here and talk to us okay? We do care!
random_chick
Jan 22, 2009, 05:49 AM
Yh I have always thought that it was my fault. I told my dad and he said I can't be depressed so I told my best friend who then told me to speak to her mom about it and her mom has been a real help as well as you on here. I live in wolverhamton.
qween bee
Jan 23, 2009, 12:49 AM
Yes, it deff can. I actually went through depression. Like I was diaqnosed w/. It and had to take medsz because of all the stress my mom was causinq. Trust me the last thinq you want is depression. Try surroundinq yourself around positive thinqs. Qet rid of the stress you have. Try doinq a sport or some type of activity to take your mind off whatever is stressinq you. [i took kick boxinq] well hope everythinq works out. If you have any questions, feel free to askk :]
random_chick
Jan 23, 2009, 05:40 AM
Thank you