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jesskim123
Jan 7, 2009, 09:57 AM
My boyfriend finished me because I cheated on him but I'm sorry but I'm still in love with him. How can I get over him? HELP:confused

evoqus
Jan 7, 2009, 11:00 AM
Oh boy! You have a definite dilemma. Most likely you may not have a chance getting back with this guy. I'm a man (100% REAL OLE SCHOOL) & I tell you we are very territorial in an almost animal sense when it comes to that issue. You need to dig down deep within yourself & ask yourself why did you do it & try to work on yourself. Another thing people these days overlook is avoiding situations that could cause them to be unfaithful. Don't beat yourself up too bad. We are all imperfect humans, & are prone to error. Take some time out to yourself and surround yourself with good people. Your pain will pass with time & just take it as one of life's lessons. Just be fair and more cautious with next good guy you get in your life.

liz28
Jan 7, 2009, 04:17 PM
You live and you learn and I hope you learned a valuable lesson. Which is to never cheat on someone you love.

Now you've to accept that the relationship is over and let go. Start your healing process and take it day by day. It's going take time and it will be hard but in the end it's worth it.

You can't undo time because I am sure if you had the chance to you wouldn't have cheated on him. Know that cheating can really hurt someone and not all people forgive that act of betrayal. Also, you can't get nor win someone back that doesn't want to get back with you.

Start your healing and you can always come on here for support. This will be the best time to stay busy and when thoughts of him enter your mind, think of something else. Get rid of anything that reminds you of him or put them away until your over him. Don't call, text, or email him because this only delays the process.

lovelen
Jan 7, 2009, 06:48 PM
You should go in the relationships section.. there is a lot of reading that can help you out.

ylaira
Jan 7, 2009, 07:02 PM
1. Resist the temptation to contact him.
2. Read other posting like yours here in Ask Me
3. Learn from this experience.
4. Forgive yourself.
5. Be busy and get productive.
6. Take your time to heal before jumping to another relationship.

kctiger
Jan 7, 2009, 07:07 PM
First and foremost, I don't think the problem is being in love with your ex, I think it is more about you being able to forgive yourself. Do that, and then you can start to get over him.

All you can do in life is own up to your mistakes and learn from them. The rest, well it takes care of itself. We all make mistakes, and in the end, whether you are the victim of the mistake, or the cause, it is how you are able to over come the results that define you.

Forgive yourself... then rebuild from there!