I am 14 years old and I have been out of my parents house for almost a month. They are following through with what they have to do legaly to account for me. Im not a runaway, I was technically kicked out. Today they are in court as we speak for the accouring situation and a chins law statement. I am unable to show. I was told that a warrant will be issued for my arrest, is this true? PLEASE HELP asap!:confused::confused::confused::eek::eek::eek:

1) What were you kicked out for?
2) Are you legally emancipated from your parents?
3) What were you doing that you were "unable to show" for a court hearing?
4) What crime did you commit in order to be going to court in the first place?

I am 14 years old and i have been out of my parents house for almost a month. They are following through with what they have to do legaly to account for me. Im not a runaway, I was technically kicked out. Today they are in court as we speak for the accouring situation and a chins law statement. I am unable to show. I was told that a warrant will be issued for my arrest, is this true? PLEASE HELP asap!:confused::confused::confused::eek::eek::eek:


I don't know what an "accouring situation" and "chins law statement" are BUT I doubt a warrant will be issued for your arrest.

In "most" cases - and I'm in NY - there is an order to place the juvenile in custody and then the juvenile is transferred to a juvenile facility which he/she lives, goes to school. It's not an arrest as such (although it pretty much is the same thing - it's an order to locate you and place you in custody). The people who are harboring you - allowing you to live with them - can be arrested if they don't comply with the Court order.

Your parents may request that you be declared a person (minor) in need of supervision, in the permanent custody of the State or as a person who needs assistance temporarily.

In some States they can emancipate you which means they no longer have any responsibility for you and your actions - physical custody, financial support, any other contact.

In some circumstances - and I don't know the background - they can get a restraining order against you.

Without more details about why you were "kicked out" (and what the chins law statement is) as well as where you are, it's hard to say.

1) What were you kicked out for?
2) Are you legally emancipated from your parents?
3) What were you doing that you were "unable to show" for a court hearing?
4) What crime did you commit in order to be going to court in the first place?

1)I was kicked out because they were tired of my "bull" when in all honesty I'm the one who put up with the most ever sense I turned my life around
2)No but hopefully that will happen today and court
3)I am staying with a friend and he has to work today and was unable to get me up there because of the short notice. I was just notified about the last night at 11 o clock
4)No crime just that they were wanting to put a chins law on me if ever I were to go home. A chins law is where the house rules become county rules for me and if I were to break the house rules then I would get legally punished. And what I meant by occouring situation is what is going on. And is this an expert or a lawfully educated person?

1. no you will not be emancipated at today's hearing.

2 since you did not show up, most likely they will automatically win or at lesat get most of what they ask for

3. Most likely you will be declared a deliquient and while they don't call it a warrant, they will call you a run away and have a pick up order for you.
** same thing but with juv you have a lot less rights in some areas.

4. You can not just stay with a friend, they can be charged with interfering with custody or more and they can be arrested for keeping you as a run away.

1. no you will not be emancipated at todays hearing.

2 since you did not show up, most likely they will automaticly win or at lesat get most of what they ask for

3. Most likely you will be declared a deliquient and while they don't call it a warrant, they will call you a run away and have a pick up order for you.
** same thing but with juv you have alot less rights in some areas.

4. You can not just stay with a friend, they can be charged with interfering with custody or more and they can be arrested for keeping you as a run away.

The parents that I'm talking of though do not have custody of me which is a long story that I don't think you'll want to hear. And how do you know that I won't be emmancipated?

1. no you will not be emancipated at todays hearing.

2 since you did not show up, most likely they will automaticly win or at lesat get most of what they ask for

3. Most likely you will be declared a deliquient and while they don't call it a warrant, they will call you a run away and have a pick up order for you.
** same thing but with juv you have alot less rights in some areas.

4. You can not just stay with a friend, they can be charged with interfering with custody or more and they can be arrested for keeping you as a run away.

Agree with all the above. You can't be emancipated unless you can prove that your parents are causing harm to you. And even if you are emancipated, you're not old enough to have a job or live by yourself; you'll get placed into a foster home before they let you stay with friends.

the parents that im talkin of though do not have custody of me which is a long story that i dont think youll want to hear. and how do you know that i wont be emmancipated?

No, we do need to hear. We can't give you accurate advice with only part of the story. If they're not your biological parents and don't have custody of you, then why do you live with them and why are they going to court over this?

1)I was kicked out because they were tired of my "bull" when in all honesty im the one who put up with the most ever sence i turned my life around
2)No but hopefully that will happen today n court
3)I am staying with a friend and he has to work today and was unable to get me up there because of the short notice. I was just notified about the last night at 11 o clock
4)No crime just that they were wanting to put a chins law on me if ever i were to go home. A chins law is where the house rules become county rules for me and if i were to break the house rules then i would get legally punished. And what i meant by occouring situation is what is going on. And is this an expert or a lawfully educated person?



Yes, I am an expert... and a "lawfully educated person."

You've received pretty much the same answers from everyone. The question is whether your parents want the County or State to take custody or you OR want you back in the house.

And, of course, your friend can be arrested for harboring a minor if he doesn't cooperate.

I don't understand the short notice on this -

No, we do need to hear. We can't give you accurate advice with only part of the story. If they're not your biological parents and don't have custody of you, then why do you live with them and why are they going to court over this?



Out of greenies - this is another "tell me what's going to happen based on part of the story" post. Absolutely no way to know what the situation is, how somebody (at 14) turns his/her life around, if the "parents" even have custody or are foster parents.

Too many unknowns here to give accurate advice.

There is no way you can be emanicipated since that is something you have to ask the court and show that you are able to support and take care of yourself.

Your friend could face charges of contributing to the delinquency of a minor.

I feel you are leaving out the critical information as to why your guardians feel the need to go to these drastic measures.

No, we do need to hear. We can't give you accurate advice with only part of the story. If they're not your biological parents and don't have custody of you, then why do you live with them and why are they going to court over this?

Ok if you say so. My biological mother was arrested when I was for her co-worker/friend Cassey and husband Jeff came and picked me up from the jailhouse and after a year of living with them my mom signed her rights over then they adopted me and later they divorced I went with cassey got full costody of me and she remarried ernest and in 2007 I trusted ernest as a dad because jeff was not in my life at the time and I saw ernest as a dad so I told him that I had lost my virginity and that I didn't want him to tell cassey because I knew I would get beat and ernest flipped it around and said that he wouldn't tell her if he could see my breasts and it ended up that he was feeling them and asked to finger me and and then a week or so after that he raped me but I didn't tell anyone because I still didn't want my secret out and on April 24 I got drugbusted and cassey was giving the decision to either let me go in handcuffs or take me to a rehab. I was in rehab until july17 and while in there I let out everything that happened with ernest and I along with jeff and his new wife got a restraing order against cassey and ernest both. Cassey didn't believe me so she told my counselor in rehab that jeff and eva could have me. When I was released I went to live with jeff and eva(current parents) but jeffs paycheck still to this day is getting money taken out of it for child support to go to cassey for me because cassey refuses to waste her time going to the courthouse and sign the papers. I have not spoken to her in almost two years but yet she is the one who has custody of me

So who is trying to get the order on you?

I'm sorry these horrible things happened to you, but your digging the hole deeper.

You need to file charges against Ernest, too.

There is no way you can be emanicipated since that is something you have to ask the court and show that you are able to support and take care of yourself.

Your friend could face charges of contributing to the delinquency of a minor.

I feel you are leaving out the critical information as to why your guardians feel the need to go to these drastic measures.

I am possibly pregnant and am a and I quote "disgusting little snot nosed 14 year old whore that only thinks i knows how to take care of myself"

So who is trying to get the order on you?

I'm sorry these horrible things happened to you, but your digging the hole deeper.

You need to file charges against Ernest, too.



A long time ago someone should have legally straightened this out - I don't know at this point if the foster care system or a juvenile facility is the worse thing that could happen here.

So who is trying to get the order on you?

I'm sorry these horrible things happened to you, but your digging the hole deeper.

You need to file charges against Ernest, too.

Charges have been filed for 2 years in June and the da hasn't gotten around to even investigating. Nothing is going to be able to be proven about ernest. My little sister (that I claim because I raised her for three years) is still in that house with him when all children should have been removed as soon as the accusation were made in the first place but no one at the tulsa offices seems to give a flying .(excuse my launguage) and what order are you talking about?

There is no way you can be emanicipated since that is something you have to ask the court and show that you are able to support and take care of yourself.

Your friend could face charges of contributing to the delinquency of a minor.

I feel you are leaving out the critical information as to why your guardians feel the need to go to these drastic measures.

I understand that and so does he. I was stopped for walking up to quicktrip after curfew the other night and the police ran me but found nothing about runaway so they let me go they also ran russell(my friend) and just said don't let it happen again. When just nights earlier there was a runaway report on me that the police found when my other friend amandas mom called the police to escort me home because everyone except my boyfriend and russell and a few police officers thnk that I'm lying about all of this

Yes, I am an expert ... and a "lawfully educated person."

You've received pretty much the same answers from everyone. The question is whether your parents want the County or State to take custody or you OR want you back in the house.

And, of course, your friend can be arrested for harboring a minor if he doesn't cooperate.

I don't understand the short notice on this -

What do you mean?

A long time ago someone should have legally straightened this out - I don't know at this point if the foster care system or a juvenile facility is the worse thing that could happen here.

Yeah tell me about it

There is no way you can be emanicipated since that is something you have to ask the court and show that you are able to support and take care of yourself.

Your friend could face charges of contributing to the delinquency of a minor.

I feel you are leaving out the critical information as to why your guardians feel the need to go to these drastic measures.

Well OK what I meant by me straightning my life out was getting away from huffing and pills and alcohol on my own and then retrieving the knowledge that I missed out on when I was too caught up in drugs to focus in school and I did that all on my own. And yeah even though I am only 14 I hope you can agree or at least understand me when I say expierience skeaks A lot louder than years. 14 means nothing when it comes to living my life lol

Also I just recently got in contact with my biological father for the first time in 10 years my plan as of right now is to go live with him in Arkansas he has no clue what is currently going on because eva told him before all of this to back off and well he is clueless to the situation and I spoke to him this morning and ill have to call him back in 4 hours because he is at work. After I talk to him I will probably talk to eva about the emancipation and things can get worked out that way because she realizes that I refuse to live with them but she just wants me to be safe

You can only go live with him if your parents allow it,

You can only go live with him if your parents allow it,

I know. They just want me to be somewhere safe. I have been calling around for the past hour to talk to authorities about my situation and I just got off the phone with the juvenile bureau and I will have to give them a call back and expain to them what my plans are and that I couldn't make it to court and why and I was told by my youth pastor neighbor that I need to make that call and I asked if I even could make that call and she said not only can I but I need to also.

Your bio father needs to be fully informed about what is going on.

Why don't you call the juvenile authorities in your city and explain to them everything you have shared with us. You need a responsible adult's help right now.

Is there a runaway shelter you can go to in Tulsa? They would have the people or access to the people that could help you.

Also there will need to be legal paperwork giving him some legal custody, guardianship or something, if not parents can merely change their minds anytime

Your bio father needs to be fully informed about what is going on.

Why don't you call the juvenile authorities in your city and explain to them everything you have shared with us. You need a responsible adult's help right now.

Just got off the phone with many and now I'm about to call the bureau back

Also there will need to be legal paperwork giving him some legal custody, guardianship or something, if not parents can merely change thier minds anytime

Right thank you for informing me of that :)

Is there a runaway shelter you can go to in Tulsa? They would have the people or access to the people that could help you.

Tried that already they wouldn't take me because they were running low and I have a safe place to go already

I just want to say kelsolette21 that I am so sorry that you are going through this. I am so naïve to the world although we all probably know that people live like this and hear about it from time to time you are the soldier braving the storm. I want to extend my prayers and my best wishes to you as you continue your struggle and growth process. I also want to ask you to ask for help and take it from organization or from a group that is qualified to assist children in these situations. I want to remind you that life is long God willing and now is your time to worry solely about growing up and learning about life. You have choices and sometimes those choices get cloudy because of desperation and necessity, however life choices have consequences and you can minimize the damage by getting help now. God Bless you sweetie. Please be safe!

The legal answer - and this is a legal board - is that you are going to have to go wherever the Court sends you and under whatever circumstances the Court sends you there. When you get wherever "there" is you can continue to look for a better place, a safer place. Do you have an adult you can talk to - a relative, a teacher, a counselor?

It is important that you not let where you've been define where you're going so that you will be an adult with emotional baggage, certainly, but without emotional baggage that holds you back.

At 14 you can take responsibility for your own safety, protect your own personal limits, make your own phone calls for help.

And you just may have to do that.

Everyone will be thinking about you so if you could come back and let us know you're all right it would be appreciated.