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KertAllikvee
Jan 4, 2009, 11:31 AM
Hey everybody, I know that the following text will sound like bullsh*t to you but I just need some advice.. I have been with this girl for 6 months and past 3 have been very painful... I know that I love her but I don't know that does she love me back even if she tells it is kind of hard for me to believe it... I mean I have given up smokind and drinking for her... But what she did, she started drinking although she knows that it hurts me A LOT... and when we have a date or something then she always brings his Best Friend with her and I don't know maybe I am scared to say all the things I think and after the date I have to tahe sh*t for not talking to her as much as she wanted to... I mean that I hate her Best Friend because when she got to know her, then she started doing wrong things like drinking and their practically always together.. and I feel left out... I need some advice because I don`t want to lose her and I want her to be happy as well and sorry about bad language

N0help4u
Jan 4, 2009, 12:00 PM
Tell her that if she wants the two of you to talk more then she should leave her best friend at home because you don't see why you should have to discuss things like your relationship around a third party. It sounds to me like she isn't real into the relationship if she has to drag a buddy along.
I would tell her that I want a date where you two can talk or you don't see any reason to continue in the relationship.
You may not want to lose her but it doesn't sound like she is all that committed anyway.

sully123
Jan 4, 2009, 12:01 PM
I would say get out of the situation, I think she is just bringing you down. If you have to question that much in a relationship, it isn't the right one. There are so many people out their to meet. Sounds like your heading in the right direction, but I don't know about her.

ja77
Jan 4, 2009, 01:41 PM
It sounds like 3 of you are in this relationship - not just the 2 of you -

You need to have a honest talk with your (gf) communication is a must in any relationship. Tell her you do not think it is right that you have no private time together, when it comes to talking about your personal stuff.

I always feel it is good for couples to have there own time with there friends etc, but there also has to be time for you to be together to.

talaniman
Jan 4, 2009, 02:31 PM
I suspect she brings her friend along to not have private time, and to use you for their amusement. Either learn to say no, or disappear from their life. Your no better than a designated driver for them. Sorry.