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2nd time mother
Jan 3, 2009, 12:24 AM
I was going with this guy for 41/2 yars he help me raise my son and we were going to get married... well I broke up with him last year because he was very controlling and a MOMMY BOY... now he wants to get back in the picture he have change a whole lot but I don't have any more feelings for him and every time I see him he disgust me can I make this work or just move on... p.s. anytime I need something he is always there no matter who I have been with and also I'm pregnant again by someone else and he still wants to be with me
N0help4u
Jan 3, 2009, 07:40 AM
Every time I see him he disgust me can I make this work---that is your subconsciousness warning you that it is not good.
Never get back just because he wants to.
IF you do decide to give it another chance you can't simply take him at his word that he has changed. He may even have all the right words to claim he has changed but you would need to ask him situation questions and questions about what things he has changed and what made him wake up and how he changed.
liz28
Jan 3, 2009, 11:58 AM
If you can't stand him then why even consider getting back with him.
Don't get back with him only because he accepts and take care of your kids and also it unfair to your child if you can back with him only to break-up with him again. Some times it's best to leave things alone.
If you don't have anymore feelings for him you would be leading him on and I'm sure you don't want to do.
You might be giving him false hope by taking things from him. He might be thinking "If I do this for her she'll take me back", but you know you won't. It's good that he helps you when needed and with your child but be careful of his help because you know he wants to be with you.
Also, I hope your getting suppoort from your child father.
artlady
Jan 3, 2009, 12:02 PM
You don't care about him and yet you want what he can provide for you.That is using someone and it is cheating both of you.
You will be living a lie and how long do you expect that you can play that game?
Be honest and thank him for all he has done but let him have a life and maybe find someone who really cares about him.That would be the moral thing to do.
ja77
Jan 4, 2009, 07:18 AM
You answered your own question.
This guy
"disgust me"
So No Love - Friendship lost then.
anytime I need something he is always there
So when it suits you for him to be around and help with things you like to use him.
I'm pregnant again by someone else
Move on and leave this guy.