Hey I'm 16 Kevin
Ive really have strong feelings for my girlfriend and I always seem to be there for her at all times. But lately it seems like
1. I'm boring her?
2. I'm always here, she's got me nothing to worry about now

We still are strongly together but just these little things lately that makes me feel worried and unloved
Like she being out a lot, or she is busy when talking to me or sometimes doesn't start the conversation until a long time or (am I just paranoid about these little things)
I haven't tried this yet. But I search over nets and it says to make her miss you is to not contact her/disappear until she contacts you?
So by doing this

I don't go online at all. What so ever? And wait until she texts or calls me? Or what's?
Plus its school holidays at the moment so I don't see her at all. Until her birthday in 3 weeks or something

What should I do exactly? To try to make her miss me.

As a teen

As a 16 yeaor old I would assume your g/f is roughly the same age. Whether you guys want to admit it or not, the chances that you'll be eachothers boyfriend and girlfriend forever is veeerrrryyy slim.

You guys are still developing, still maturing and growing up (hell I am still and I'm 21) give it time and communicate with her, like I've posted on many others threads, COMMUNICATION is the key in any relationship.

Hope This helps!


P.s. keep in mind she's got emotions running wild right now, as do you! You're young yet.

Disappear or stopping contact with her won't make her miss you but it can't push her away from you. So if you don't want to lose her don't consider any of these an option.

I agree with the above post that communication is the key. If you've any concerns express them to your girlfriend, this is the only way the relationship can grow or last.

Also, don't let this relationship consume your life. Hang out with friends and do other things outside the relationship but the two of you need to have a life outside of the relationship in order for it to be healthy.

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You guys are still developing, still maturing and growing up (hell I am still and I'm 21) give it time and communicate with her, like I've posted on many others threads, COMMUNICATION is the key in any relationship.

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yeah I'm not disagreeing to your answer but like. I miss her a lot when she is away or out for maybe just a few days. But I just want to see if she feels the same thing. Cause I haven't tried it but yeas.. if you know what I mean

when I say don't contact with her. Doesn't mean for along time. Its just like a small test. Which could make me feel better of how she feels


I can't explain =='

It soounds like it's really bugging you.

Testing her is not going to do much, do what I said. Since you guys are still dating don't ignore her and sit down and talk with her let her know what's bugging you and tell her how you feel about her. Telling her this will let her know where you stand thus she can get a better understanding of if it's what she wants. If so then ask her what she wants out of this relationship and give it to her. After you tell her how you feel and what's bugging you she might just relaize it's not for her and if so, don't push the matter, let it go.

All you can do is communicate, tell her how you feel and tell her you're willing to wait until she knows what she wants.

Communication is the key.

Rather than ignoring her, just tell her straight how you feel. As a girl, I'd say I'd rather that. You shouldn't ignore her, if she's having seconds thoughts about you, ignoring her might provoke her and you might lose her.

Lovelifebehappy is right nobody likes being ignored even if it's a test.

COMMUNICATION
COMMUNICATION
COMMUNICATION

Talk to her! Let her know! As a 21 year old guy I've been where you're at! Being open is the best remedy to a successful relationship!

This is a valuable lesson to learn. Cutting contact with your girlfriend would be playing games and you don't do this to someone that you care about.

Expressing how you feel is the way the go so go and do it. Would you like it if she stop talking to you? I don't think so.

when I say don't contact with her. Doesn't mean for along time. Its just like a small test. Which could make me feel better of how she feels

This is not the way to have a mature relationship.

I guarantee that if you test her, you'll fail! Girls don't like boys who play games, those boys get booted to the curb very quickly.

Talk to her, if you love her as much as you claim then talking should be a breeze. Tell her how you feel, that you miss her, care for her and want to know if she feels the same way.

Also, you need to find your own interests, you can't live your whole life clinging to someone else. A relationship should make you feel good, not desperate.

Good luck.

This is a valuable lesson to learn. Cutting contact with your girlfriend would be playing games and you don't do this to someone that you care about.

Expressing how you feel is the way the go so go and do it. Would you like it if she stop talking to you? I don't think so.

Yea you are right, you guys are all right! I read lots of pages and they say cut contact and stuff. Which isn't the solution. I'm going to tell her how I feel
It will be her birthday soon and I'm going to take her out to city for lunch and buy a tiny cake for us both to celebrate and the next dayy is the party where everyone else is invited
And I decided if I should buy a rose, and write a essay of how I feel and leave it under her pillow and text her to surprise her?

I will do this for sure.. but is it too much? Cause I'm already giving her a present? And taking her out?

But I want to do this..

No contact is advised when you break up, not when you're still going out.

As for the gifts, only you can determine if it's too much, you know her, we don't.

Just have fun, stop overthinking everything. Relationships are supposed to make you smile, not pull your hair out.

yea you are right, you guys are all right!. i read lots of pages and they say cut contact and stuff. which isnt the solution. i'm gonna tell her how i feel
it will be her birthday soon and im gonna take her out to city for lunch and buy a tiny cake for us both to celebrate and the next dayy is the party where everyone else is invited
and i decided if i should buy a rose, and write a essay of how i feel and leave it under her pillow and text her to suprise her?

i will do this for sure.. but is it too much? cause im already giving her a present? and taking her out?

but i want to do this..

Sweety, you can do what ever you want. She's going to love it.

Good luck!

This is not the way to have a mature relationship.

I gaurantee that if you test her, you'll fail! Girls don't like boys who play games, those boys get booted to the curb very quickly.

Talk to her, if you love her as much as you claim then talking should be a breeze. Tell her how you feel, that you miss her, care for her and want to know if she feels the same way.

Also, you need to find your own interests, you can't live your whole life clinging to someone else. A relationship should make you feel good, not desperate.

Good luck.

Yeas you are right this is not a mature way.
Yes I will tell her how I feel by writing a poem/letter of how I feel and surprise with a rose.
I have always plann to do somethng biggg. But I don't know if she thinks I'm doing too much?
Cause I'm already did other stuff?

But o well I'm going to do it cause I haven't recently done something like this and ever really wrote down how I feel

At this point in the relationship and your current issue, writing down your feelings aren't as passionate as you may think.

To be honest I would tell her right to her face honest and sincere! Stay strong and you will prevail as far as she goes, in the end it's her choice!

Good Luck

At this point in the relationship and your current issue, writing down your feelings aren't as passionate as you may think.

To be honest I would tell her right to her face honest and sincere! Stay strong and you will prevail as far as she goes, in the end it's her choice!

Good Luck

Yeaas I don't see her face to face until 24 jann so. I will plann what I need to say and ill type out the resolution out here

Thankks for showing the mature way

By the way is there anything else I need to know?

I think your all set.

Everybody has given great advise so all should be okay.

Kevin you sound very romantic for your age, I think what you are looking to do is very sweet, just make sure you do not go into over kill and make it too much.

You and your girlfriend as others have said on this page need to have better communication together which I think would fixs a lot of your problems.

You also do not need to write a full on essay regards how you feel, I have always been a big thinker of actions speak loader than words, why not write a poem etc, that's short and sweat.

[QUOTE=ja77;1461057] just make sure you do not go into over kill and make it too much.QUOTE]

I understand what your saying but I don't know. What you mean by over kill it? And making it too much?

Don't play games. Tell her exactly how you feel. Games playing only leads to more game plying.

I absolutely love what Altenweg stated above.

I think you are insecure and that is very common at any age, especially inanewer relationship. I'm not sure I totally agree with even bringing this subject up my friend.

She is with you, she likes you, it sounds as if that is not enough for you. In fact, it sounds as if what you want is what you are giving to her, she may not be like that and forcing her to satisfy your insecurities may end up changing her and your relationship.

Before anything I'd investigate why you are so insecure about this relationship and if you find no answer than explore the options above. I'm just not sure what you expect her to do or say when you breach the subject to her?

Your original proposal is foolishness and all here agree that it will end badly. I will go against the grain here and mention that talking toher about why she does not show you the affection you think she should is also dangerous, peple are different and thusly express themselves differently.

I will also mention that sending her poetry and flowers is a very thoughtful idea, however that too can scare her. If sheis not an affectionate person than this could have the reverse effect. Think it over awhile, either you will accept the situation or you will act doing what you think is appropriate, just look at all the angles.

[QUOTE=ja77;1461057] just make sure you do not go into over kill and make it to much.QUOTE]

i understand what your saying but idk. what u mean by over kill it? and making it too much?



I mean be yourself - do not act like someone else and also do not go OTT.

I agree with you with making it nice and making it special, but be yourself more than anything else.

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btw is there anything else i need to know?[/QUOTE]

Know that relationships are hard work and the two people involve most work together in order for it work.

It seems like the two of you are in a long distance relationship which could be even harder.

Relationships are about trust, compromise, and communication. If you've those then things could work out and the relationship have a chance of lasting.

In the meantime you've fun. Have fun getting to know one another and address any issues you have as they come up.

Okay thank you all
I try do my best.

I understand communication is the key. But as from my friends point of view and mine. I think I'm always paranoid of what's going on in her mind and I reckon at times I'm expecting too much. And also I've being going out a lot nows. Because my brother told me off the other week and I realise, I missed out some of the biggest school moments of my LIFE, school graduation outting, interview day outting a lot of parties... I didn't realise much until the past week, so now days I've apologise to my close friends and also being catching up with the others now.

When I mean by expecting too much. I reckon that. I expect her to be talking to me all the time or at that certain time, but I realise she got stuff to do too not just talk to me.

Yea I understand communication is the key. Yes I do tell how I feel but its being while that's all.

I think. I'm expecting too much, that's what's pressures her cause I text and call to see where and what she doing at times and when she not on I think she angry at me and stuff.. but I realise now that yeas

Got to have my own life

And communication is the key. Being open and honest

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You can't really do anything to make someone miss you. That's just something that happens naturally that you cannot force. But what you can do is try too figure out why her missing you will make you feel complete... there lies your true problems.

I agree that u have to be straight forward with her.. once she sees that you're up for the talk about what she's feeling maybe she'll be able to open up rather than stay away that is IF she is feeling differently.. As a girl in a long term relationship.. Im telling u making her feel that she can talk to u about anything even if they were her negative feelings.. might bring her closer to u.. Anyways hope all goes well for u:)

Everything is not going my wayyy.
She hasn't being on for a long time (week) and when she goes on.. she's busy. Then next day seems like she's down so I ask her what's wrong ' she says she doesn't feel like socialising' I ask whyy? What's wrong? ' she says I don't know , etc...

I fearrr the end
I told her how I feeel but no reply.. guess give her some time or she is busy

Kayveen, don't let these women play mind games with you! The force is strong with you, I sense that. The sooner you learn to MAKE THEM CHASE YOU the better. Start acting like a suave dude, and give her the impression you don't care one way or another.

Oh, and as far as the female posters on here go... you know I love you! :)

Listen.. I know I told you to talk to her.. but from what you're telling she obviously doesn't want to talk and don't say that she is busy.. I think that she should not be busy for a guy she's in love with or smthing.. so don't give that as an excuse for her.. She should listen to what you have to say.. and if she wouldn't listen.. I think you should step away a bit as well.. do some other things to take your mind of things.. Im sure you're a great guy.. you shouldn't let her take advantage of the fact that you are trying to talk to her.. so just let it go for a while.. and if after a few days she doesn't do a move.. then I don't think it's going to go well from there.. I really hope things go well for u:)

Kayveen, don't let these women play mind games with you! The force is strong with you, I sense that. The sooner you learn to MAKE THEM CHASE YOU the better. Start acting like a suave dude, and give her the impression you don't care one way or another.

Oh, and as far as the female posters on here go...you know I love ya!! :)

I just had to something because as you should know females always got something to say.

In a relationship I don't think anyone involve should be chasing the other person. There should be a mutal interest between both parties because it does take two people to make a relationship and I know if I had to chase someone down in order for us to be together, than I don't think I need to be with them.

Also, to platg like your not interested in someone, when you are, would just be playing games in my book.

However, I think the girl that the OP is seeing actions are telling him a story. I am should if it because of her age but it seems like she isn't really into this relationship. If that is the case there are other girlds out there because you can't keep reaching out to someone and that person isn't reaching back. Go with your gut instincts because they never prove you wrong.

Well before I said things were turning bad.. but today she started conversation with me and apologise for how she was acting and doing (which surprised me) so yeas. Atm its okay.
And yeas we talked.

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