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AnonymousGuy23
Jan 1, 2009, 05:12 PM
Ok well I met this girl from on-line of all places, a chatroom... She is absolutely amazing, sweet, intelligent, and stunningly beautiful.. I had decided to give her my MSN after we had been talking for awhile in this chatroom and we clicked so well... We've been talking for 2 months now and we have so many things in common with each other it is unexplainable to say the least.
She told me she loves me and she sounds so sincere when she says it... we talk and text all the time and we're constantly thinking of each other... I love her too and I told her so a few days after she had told me. It's not something I think either of us like to just throw around although it seems we both fall easily.
We are both coming out of long (in love) relationships... she and her ex who had been together for 3 years and have been broken up for 5 months... my ex who I was with for 2 years and have been broken up for 8 months.. I'm not the rebound and neither is she we have both already had that.. we were both guilty of talking about our ex's more than we should have and maybe neither of us were entirely over them but I am entirely over her now and I am so in love with this new girl we've decided to take it into a long distance relationship...
This girl is extremely beautiful and she has a lot of guy friends, just earlier today she was talking about getting a gift in the mail a video game from someone completely anonymous.. she is hit on a lot but she truly does seem to want to be with me and love me. Her ex though who had left her is now wanting her back and saying things like she is still his and she just doesn't know it yet and he doesn't know when to give up.. he had called her the other night drunk telling her he was going to come and rape her that she belonged to him and all that junk.. I was furious and offered to call and tell him off but she declined, maybe she thinks that I could not handle the situation although I'm pretty sure I could. She tells me she is COMPLETELY over him and I believe her but I'm getting jealous and sick of this crazy past ex of hers always bothering her. And the fact that he ended things with her and wants her back and she still has some pics and even (dirty) videos of him make me uneasy.. I'm not sure what to do but I know I love her however the ex is starting to get to me... what do I do? What should I do..
PS she says she loves me more and more each day and I think she does but she gets very uneasy when I question things which I tend to do and I know I shouldn't but it's hard not to, I overthink things way too much... I am working on that flaw of mine however.
Thanks to whoever is willing to read all of this and help with my situation it is truly appreciated!

411Help
Jan 1, 2009, 05:15 PM
If she says she loves YOU and not HIM, then what's the problem? You have trust issues that need to be addressed. Unless you fix these, your relationship with this woman will not work out.

talaniman
Jan 1, 2009, 06:43 PM
Leave this alone, and work on your flaws harder, before she is uneasy enough to leave you ALONE.

I'm sure she can handle her own business, so let it drop.

bmc_imr4308
Jan 1, 2009, 10:28 PM
Man the best thing for you to do is jut to forget about her. I know it will be hard for you to do that and all, but if this ex keeps popping up and she still has pics and videos of him and her then that should be a sign for you to get out. She may say that she loves you and all but that most likely is a load of . If she truly loves you then she would get rid of those things and just be with you. In my opinion she is just using you and that you need to get rid of her.

grindin
Jan 2, 2009, 06:32 AM
2 months and you guys are in love. Damn relax for a bit.