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melinda86
Dec 28, 2008, 06:05 PM
My boyfirend family is Greek and my family is Veitman but it so hard to plan a wedding because his side of family is not asian and there so many thing that we had to do.
What should we do to make this day happen

jjwoodhull
Dec 28, 2008, 06:08 PM
You need to discuss all the traditions in both your cultures. Then you need to decide which ones are most important and how you will incorporate both cultures into your ceremony and celebration. Have your parents met yet? It's important that they be introduced and allowed to voice their opinions.

Wondergirl
Dec 28, 2008, 06:12 PM
What a wonderful combination of cultures! The food at that wedding reception will be fantastic! I wish I could attend.

Mix the two ceremonies into one (that would be so much fun!), or would it be possible to have two ceremonies? The parents and other elders in both families will offer many ideas. I work with two Greek women. I'll ask at work tomorrow.

Starbucks21
Dec 29, 2008, 03:40 PM
As far as the traditional vietnam culture and the traditional greek culture and combining them... good luck

As far as the people, as long as there aren't any huge misunderstanding or what not... it's like normal people

Vijay436
Dec 29, 2008, 03:53 PM
It is your life plan and do what makes you and your partner happy, family will always come back to you when the dust settles down. If they don't they were not there for before anyway.

dontknownuthin
Jan 5, 2009, 10:55 PM
I think that the question is more how you will meld your customs for the long haul - in your life. I would suggest you have some very candid discussions with your fiancé about things like whether either of you will stay home to parent when you have children, who will make financial decisions and how; where you will live long-term; what family visits will be like (how long... will your family stay for months at a time? Will his?) How many children will you have - what religious traditionms will be followed with the children, and so on.

Then plan your wedding as a reflection of the life you want to have together. You could combine the traditions in one ceremony, or you could marry twice - with both traditions (I've heard of it done by many people - my cousin had a Ukrainian wedding in Ukraine, and then came home with her husband to the US where they had a Catholic blessing of their vows and a second reception with Irish traditions like bagpipes and such.

The beautiful thing is, it can be whatever you want it to be! You could have a Vietnamese rehearsal dinner and a Greek wedding day, or vice versa, as another option.

Best wishes - you will have a lot of passion, color and excitement, and I will imagine blending those two cultures, family will be very central to your lives - which is really lovely.

survivorboi
Aug 3, 2009, 04:28 PM
First of all, V-I-E-T-N-A-M

If it was to me, just go with the marriage that your most familiar with. Unless the family of whoever side makes a big deal, don't worry about it. You really don't have to have proper "traditional" marriage to live happily ever aftar =D

(Watch some YouTube videos of those marriages)

JudyKayTee
Aug 3, 2009, 05:09 PM
First of all, V-I-E-T-N-A-M

If it was to me, just go with the marriage that your most familiar with. Unless the family of whoever side makes a big deal, don't worry about it. You really dont have to have proper "traditional" marriage to live happily ever aftar =D

(Watch some youtube videos of those marriages)



After, A-F-T-E-R.

N0help4u
Aug 3, 2009, 11:21 PM
dontknownuthin agrees: Not really necessary to correct spelling but didn't want to give you a ready, JKT... the advise was good.

JKT you ready?
Ya no you doesn't havta correct AFTER
After all jist look at all de mispilt wordz der already is anyho.

'n I advise you that de advise was good.

Dontcha lub me!

survivorboi
Aug 4, 2009, 07:05 AM
Wow nohelp4u

JudyKayTee
Aug 4, 2009, 11:28 AM
[QUOTE=Comments on this post
dontknownuthin agrees: Not really necessary to correct spelling but didn't want to give you a ready, JKT... the advise was good./QUOTE]



What are the odds that two people would do the same thing - correct another person's spelling - and only ONE would be corrected?

And I thought the red/green, reddie/greenie issues had already been explained and explained and explained. By the way, it's reddie, not ready.

This is one of the reasons I think it's important to read other posts, other threads - to get a "feel" for the person posting. The quote directed to me in the previous thread (which explained how AMHD works) by this person was: "No offense, but you might give it some thought as the point of this site is support and help, not finding fault with others ..." Again, what are the odds that now I would be the only one "corrected following this lengthy back and forth?

For anyone who missed it, here it is again - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/office-politics/sneaky-backstabber-340063-3.html#post1777352.