I am seventeen, and about two years ago I began talking to Scott, a guy who was two years older than me. I had known him since I was four years old, and we began to form a relationship. We did not date at that time, but we stayed close, talking almost nightly and eventually he decided to enlist in the marines. In February of 2008, we came to terms with the fact that we had real feelings for each other, and within a month we couldn't deny that we were in love. Although we shared our feelings, we did not commit to one another for the simple fact that he said that although he loved me, I deserved more than a military life. He said I needed someone who could be there to protect me and be there for me. Sometime in May, I tried to get over it, and In June I went out with a guy named Preston, and we stayed together for six months, and although I loved him, I don't think I ever fell IN love with him. Scott came back to visit for Christmas and got in touch with me about 3 days after Preston and I decided to take a break. We hung out a few times, and I realized that I wasn't even close to being over him. He still thinks I deserve better than a military life and he says he still loves me and always will, but that he cannot leave me with the possiblity that he may not come home. Preston is amazing in general, but I still love Scott. I need some advice on what to do about this.

You can only do what your heart tells you. If your heart tells you that Scott is for you, go for it. Surely he can't think that you wouldn't know of the possibility of him not coming back.

As from his standpoint, he is trying to protect you. And that's commendable, however, you have to really sit down and talk to him about it if you want to get anywhere.

How old are you?

Magic! That's the idea of being in love. If there is no spark, there is no magic. When there is no magic, there is no love. The guy Scott surely loves you and want to protect you of not hurting yourself because he knows exactly what will happen to your relationship should you go further due to uncertainty of life for him being a military personnel. Preston, as you've said is undeniably amazing but you must choose between them. So easy to choose, just go where your heart tells you to go. Never forget to sit down and talk to them separately & privately.

For the time being you don't need to be with anyone because you love Scott and at the moment he doesn't want anything serious.

You won't be able to open your heart to someone else while your heart is with someone else. You won't be able to have a healty relationship with no one.

You need to let go of Scott and then your be able to get involve with someone. Right now Scott isn't capable of being in a relationship.

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Talaniman toy seem to offer such good advise can you please read my why has he left? Male pride? Question and help me out I feel so lost at the moment!