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Dec 26, 2008, 06:38 AM
I need to choose between to men that I love and what's best for my daughter (which is neither of theirs).
I'd been seeing my boyfriend for 2 yrs. We've been through hell but we stuck through it (until recently). But he told me he tried more for the sake of my daughter than for us and that he cares for her more than me. He had refused marriage and the possibility of another child until last night. It was our first real discussion about the future. The problem is that I've been seeing my best friend since we broke up 3 months ago.
My (ex) boyfriend is a closed in diabetic 28yr old; a work-a-holic and video-game addict. But he's witty and honest and loves my daughter. We have some great memories that mask the pain I've felt with him. He was left a house when his grandfather died but it's in shambles, he's no good with finances and again only recently agreed to help me fulfill my dreams of normalcy with a family and agree to help himself be well.
My friend is a very open 23 yr old; he's cried openly to me and we communicate freely and he loves my daughter too. But sometimes he's a little too emotional. He wants a house and family and has money saved and plans for the future. He's stable emotionally and financially where my ex is not.
I love them both but for different reasons and don't know what to do. My daughter loves them both too but the history with my (ex) boyfriend is greatly weighing on my choice. I could have the same things with both men (family and home) but do I choose the man that needs fixing or the man that's already passed that all and is ready for stability? I just don't know what to do.
I'd been seeing my boyfriend for 2 yrs. We've been through hell but we stuck through it (until recently). But he told me he tried more for the sake of my daughter than for us and that he cares for her more than me. He had refused marriage and the possibility of another child until last night. It was our first real discussion about the future. The problem is that I've been seeing my best friend since we broke up 3 months ago.
My (ex) boyfriend is a closed in diabetic 28yr old; a work-a-holic and video-game addict. But he's witty and honest and loves my daughter. We have some great memories that mask the pain I've felt with him. He was left a house when his grandfather died but it's in shambles, he's no good with finances and again only recently agreed to help me fulfill my dreams of normalcy with a family and agree to help himself be well.
My friend is a very open 23 yr old; he's cried openly to me and we communicate freely and he loves my daughter too. But sometimes he's a little too emotional. He wants a house and family and has money saved and plans for the future. He's stable emotionally and financially where my ex is not.
I love them both but for different reasons and don't know what to do. My daughter loves them both too but the history with my (ex) boyfriend is greatly weighing on my choice. I could have the same things with both men (family and home) but do I choose the man that needs fixing or the man that's already passed that all and is ready for stability? I just don't know what to do.