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gara
Dec 21, 2008, 06:08 AM
Hi , I got fired today from my work I was working now for almost a year , I Moved from my country to another country , my father his the one who found the job for me because me I'm only 18 years old he said to me get some exprince from work and then I will send you to college so I excepted the job and I was so excited because it was the first time for real work to me I did good in the first six month I never though I will reach that far I bough every thing I dreamed to have clothes games lap top and all the latest thing , the last three month I got depressed all my friends they left for college and I'm alone in the country , when my father saw me I'm doing good in the job he tried to keep me so I can get use in to the country and live my life here but I didn't like it I told him that I don't want to work and he got mad so I keep my mouth shut and I countinued but I didn't do any thing good in the job so they fired me , I'M SO DEPRESSED I THINK I'M LOSER , but I always say to myself at least you done something great you did good so far and I was good in my high school and in my life also I never smoked in my life I use to pray every day and do all the good things , my father got angry when he found out I got fired and I don't know why ? Please help how can I pass this feelings? and also I'm I a looser?

N0help4u
Dec 21, 2008, 06:35 AM
First of all you need to take a good look at things in perspective and try to figure out what you could have done different.

What country are you living in now?
Is it your dad that you live with now?
What kind of work did you do?
How did others relate to you and what impression did you give them?
What changed that you went from doing really good for the first 6 months to not doing good?
I doubt it was simply depression but you can't take your moods to work. No matter how hard it is you have to put your mind in a different frame when you are there.

You may just have to take the initiative and GO out and look for another job. Your dad wants to see you taking a proactive approach like this. When he sees you are being responsible for you then he will start to let go of his disappointment.

Also spending your money on all the latest gadgets could be seen as not being very responsible. He may feel that if he sends you off to college and you are in a dorm you will be spending your money on things and not taking care of necessities. So again you need to show your dad your more responsible and try saving a portion of your money when you do get another job.

I have a feeling you are doing little things that your dad, employers and so forth take as not being responsible enough.
Like you are depressed for not being in college rather than living in what you need to do for the minute. You need to take a good look at what needs to be your priorities and goals and work toward them. Things do not happen overnight you need to be responsible and show initiative.