There was a check list for break-ups... I want to thank this person. Ash123 I believe. The guy I was on a roller coaster ride with, finally said he needed to clear his head. He fell in love with me, I fell in love with him, way to soon after his divorce. I am abiding by this list of things to do. I know he loves me, but I am following this guide - haven't called, text or anything... I miss him terribly, but giving him space to figure stuff out.

My career has taken off. I am focusing on this... and tons of men are asking me out.. I don't know why... it has to be fate. BUT I can't stop thinking about him. My heart aches to be with him... how do I get this to go away... I love him so...

One more question for whoever might know... the no contact guide - no text, no calling, no stopping by - let them call you... when they call - how do you handle this... or if they text you... and then they don't for a while... he text me all day Monday, and then nothing, and then called me too, Monday morning. I didn't hear the phone ring so I called him back - I told him I missed him... several times, he told me he didn't go out over the weekend, and went to bed early... and wanted to know if I went out anywhere... and wanted to bring by a jacket in his truck, but stated, "I didn't want to bother you."

He still hasn't brought my clothes back, or bathroom stuff, and he has a pie in his freezer, he wanted to fix for us... we didn't live together, but I was there all the time. The first time he broke up with me, he wanted to bring all that stuff back!

How do I handle it when he comes back? I'm a good gal, I know he will be back!

Julie

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You have not healed enough, and your recent contacts are not helping at all.

The reason I say that is, from your other posts, he has cheated, and though you still have feelings, what have you done to resolve those issues?

Now I think your whole No Contact is to get him back, and your asking for trouble, as resolving issues take s a lot of work, and communications, not NC.

Do one or the other, but for the right reasons, as you'll go back on the same roller coaster ride if you don't.

Make up your mind is he worth your time, or should you be moving beyond this.

My question, what has changed since the break up besides missing each other? Have you forgiven his bad behavior, if so why? If your such a good gal, why are you so willing to give that to a cheater?

Seems to me he has done nothing to make you think he has changed or is ready to be loyal. Worse than that, your decisions are more about your feelings and your ignoring the facts in front of you . That can't be good for the decision making process, can it?

More questions than answers here, and that only the tip of the iceberg.

This is my new boyfriend... he hasn't cheated. I met him while he was going through his divorce. He is messed up... bi-polar... he says one thing, then obviously means another... he is so up and down, roller coaster ride.
He is now 5 weeks out of his divorce. Just ended our relationship to get some time to heal after a 21 year marriage... it's messed me up now.

Oh believe me, that other guy is toast! History! I shouldn't have started dating this new man, but we fell, and he kept asking me out. He gave me keys to his house, to taking care of his dog, to loving me... and he is just messed up. He wasn't even divorced yet, now he is, and it's just messed up. He called tonight - doesn't want to go out with me, yet tells me his life. I started crying. He said he was going to bring back all my stuff. He's the one I haven't called, text or anything - and he calls me tonight. I am just sick... he hurts me so.

I want to tell him so much, I miss him... and I did tonight on the phone.