A few years ago, i met a boy on holiday.
We spent the week together, and we were inseperable.
I got every feeling in the book- butterflies, i was happy, couldnt stop smiling, exited etc.
I wanted to be with him every second of every day.

2 years on, I havent seen him since (in person) but we still keep in touch. And every time we talk, I still get those feelings, and i ache to be with him. I know I have never felt this way about anyone before, and that there is definately something different.

Is it love?
Please give me some advice, becoz this is killing me.. I find myself crying over him almost every night.

Its infatuation.

its infatuation.

I don't know what that means?
Lol.

You sure have invested a lot into someone you knew a week and haven't seen in two years. Why haven't you hooked up?

I think you have been keeping the feeling going, because that's all you have of him.

You sure have invested a lot into someone you knew a week and haven't seen in two years. Why haven't you hooked up??


We've made many plans to hook up, he's invited me down, but somehow the plans are changed.

Well the only way you can figure out whether there's something here or not is to see him in person.

You are in LUST not love!

I liked him for a while,
But now we're together,
things arent the same.
Am I going off him?

How old are you?

How long have you been together?

What has changed?

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its infatuation
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I don't know what that means?
Lol.
It means you have intense feelings, but he doesn't. Your holding on in your mind, when you just need to cherish the memories, and move on. He doesn't feel the same as you.

You had a great week. An intense week. Those were feelings of giddy excitement and yes, infatuation.

You've known him now for 2 years? What has stopped you from pursuing a relationship?

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when you just need to cherish the memories, and move on. He doesn't feel the same as you.

I've been trying to move on for 2 years, and nothing has changed.
There have been moments where he seemed interested, but then they change.
Its back and forth with him- but I want to be with him so much it is unbelievable.

How old are you?

How long have you been together?

What has changed?

I am 17.
Been with him for almost 3 months.
The way I feel about him has changed. We don't have as much fun anymore.
He is all about the sex, and sometimes I feel used- but he claims he's never liked anyone as much as me.

I don't know what to do about not feeling the way he does.
I can't help it.
But the feelings I had for him before were amazing.
I don't know what's changed, and I really want to like him.
I'm just finding it difficult right now.

You can't force yourself to like someone, it is there or it isn't. You are 17, and I am sure this isn't a life or death decision. Move on if you don't want to be in this relationship.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/do-really-want-boyfriend-293239.html

Often when we know somebody a little we really don't know them and we like even love things about them. Then when we actually get to know more about them that we didn't expect we see the real them is not who we romanticized they were.

Infatuation.

At that age you shouldn't be worrying about this type of stuff, there will be other guys. Why waste time in life wondering if this guy is who you are going to be with?

Also, perhaps try not giving yourself away so quickly and let the relationship build on more meaningful stuff.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/love-292968.html

This has to be another guy right??

Feelings change, for whatever reason and we change with them, and move on.

Long story- but basically.
There's a boy who I met a few years ago on holiday; totally fell for him, and I think that he is the potential love of my life.
Problem is, he lives 2 hours away on the train.
I haven't seen him personally in 2 years, but we've been in touch a lot this past year, and he's asked me to go and visit him.
I really want to. But I am almost 16, and my mum won't let me go until I am oficially 16.
It's bugging me, because I want to be with him, and every time he asks me to come down, I keep finding myself making excuses not to go, and it makes me really upset.

What should I do?
Please help me!

Hey Hun-
You need to tell this oy what's going on, tell him your mom is not comfortable with you traveling so far alone on the train. If he really cares he won't mind and YOU won't feel bad for making excuses. Plus you said your almost at 16 already. Ask yourself, Is it worth the wait? If so be honest with him and yourself, If it is meant to be forever, IT WILL BE

I've been waiting for him for 2 years.
So I'm sure another month or two won't hurt.
Thanks for the advice.

And I'm sure it will be forever! (:

Thank you so much x