I have been out 3 times with this girl. Pretty standard stuff. We met for a drink on the first date, got on pretty well, thena day or two later I rang her and we arranged to go out again.

The second date was very good, I bought us a nice meal, we kissed at the end of the night, she said she wanted to go out again.

We then had the 3rd date, she bought me dinner, initiats hand holding etc, she had her car so dropped me off at home, we kissed in the car, all very nice. I said maybe we could meet in the week, she said that would be nice. She said she'd drop me a text once home, it is about 30 minutes drive.

She then texts to say she has got home, and that she thinks we can't go out again.

Curious behaviour? I texted back and said OK, no problem if that's what she wanted, but asked if there was a reason. No response as of yet.

Is she acting slightly odd? Thoughts would be appreciated. I quite like her and if she isn't interested, no problem, though if there was something else I may like to know what it is.

If she said she didn't want to go out again I would respect that and not push the issues further


Although I do think it's unfair of her to not give a reason, but that's life, she doesn't have to, especially this early in the game

If she said she didn't want to go out again I would respect that and not push the issues further


although I do think it's unfair of her to not give a reason, but that's life, she doesn't have to, especially this early in the game

True. Although what is the surprising bit is not her saying she is not now interested. If she wants to do that, no problem, it is early in the game as you say. What is the problem is that she initiated all the hand holding etc, and acted as if all was cool.

Anyway, her loss, if she wants to tell me she can. I am old enough to not worry about confused/unbalanced women or time wasters!

How old is this women?

And yeah that is kind of odd. But people change there mind so fast! Even more so when you are just starting to go out.

Don't take this to heart man.

Give her space and see what she does

Respect though for not crawling on your knees and going

But whyyy we can make this work

;) :) ;)

I am old enough to not worry about confused/unbalanced women or time wasters!


I would definitely say that's what she as at this point, confused seems very appropriate

Em I think this is totally unfair. There's nothing worse than being on the receiving end of mixed signals.

As a woman, or person for that matter I can't understand what the problem is.

I partially disagree with Noodles, I think you should ask again if you get the chance. If for no other reason than to avoid such a situation in the future, and if it becomes difficult pose this as the reason for an answer.

Really though, I can't understand a reason for this, although there may be issues she's trying to deal with herself and that is fine. But an answer is the least you deserve if you have acted like a gentleman.

As an aside, I think there is too much pressure nowadays for people to act like respectfully. Although I agree with respect in all ways, I think it leaves men and women not knowing where the line is. A perfect example is this situation, is it prying to ask or are you entitled to pose questions for this rejection. I say ask, I don't believe it's disrespectful on your behalf, in fact, it's disrespectful on her behalf to not give a reason, whatever that reason may be.

Yeah, chock this one up as a probable loss. It is strange that she would have tolerated/initiated so much of this stuff and flipped so quickly - but it happens. Is it possible that she was already involved with someone and is worried that they are catching on? Otherwise, she might be pretty mercurial and doing you a favour. Maybe she just wasn't that into it - but again, her initiations...

how old is this women?

and yeah that is kind of odd. but people change there mind so fast! even more so when you are just starting to go out.

dont take this to heart man.

give her space and see what she does

respect though for not crawling on your knees and going

but whyyy we can make this work

;) :) ;)

She is 32. Been single for 6 months. She has been ultra keen. In fact tonight, it was her who initiated the kissing. Makes it seem weird.

how old is this women?

and yeah that is kind of odd. but people change there mind so fast! even more so when you are just starting to go out.

dont take this to heart man.

give her space and see what she does

respect though for not crawling on your knees and going

but whyyy we can make this work

;) :) ;)

Oh yeah, no way am I crawling for any woman. I have done that in the past, how needy! I texted in response, said it was no problem if that's what she wanted, but thought it weird considering how well we got on, and asked if there was any reason. I am doing no more than that.

Em I think this is totally unfair. There's nothing worse than being on the receiving end of mixed signals.

As a woman, or person for that matter I can't understand what the problem is.

I partially disagree with Noodles, I think you should ask again if you get the chance. If for no other reason than to avoid such a situation in the future, and if it becomes difficult pose this as the reason for an answer.

Really though, I can't understand a reason for this, although there may be issues she's trying to deal with herself and that is fine. But an answer is the least you deserve if you have acted like a gentleman.

As an aside, I think there is too much pressure nowadays for people to act like respectfully. Although I agree with respect in all ways, I think it leaves men and women not knowing where the line is. A perfect example is this situation, is it prying to ask or are you entitled to pose questions for this rejection. I say ask, I don't believe it's disrespectful on your behalf, in fact, it's disrespectful on her behalf to not give a reason, whatever that reason may be.

I did ask. But I am not begging or hanging around. There is a difference in my view.

Oh there is absolutely a difference. I just don't think it's fair to not get an answer and it would bug me but if your OK with it then that's the only person who needs to be! :)

Oh there is absolutely a difference. I just don't think it's fair to not get an answer and it would bug me but if your ok with it then that's the only person who needs to be! :)

I am not sure if I am OK with it or not. If I don't get an answer, then I don't. I will see what happens.

Ok then, it's not really advice your looking for then is it? You just want to check your not going mad? :)

Suppose it's a bit of a rant on my part but I do believe everything I said. Having said that, I'm from Ireland and as I believe it we don't have the same 'dating system' as Americans do (which is where I am supposing you are from) so maybe my advice is null and void, I don't know!

Ok then, it's not really advice your looking for then is it? you just wanna check your not going mad?? :)

Suppose it's a bit of a rant on my part but I do believe everything I said. Having said that, I'm from Ireland and as I believe it we don't have the same 'dating system' as Americans do (which is where I am supposing you are from) so maybe my advice is null and void, I dunno!

No, I am from England. Same system!

Lol!

Well then!!

How did you meet her? And what ages are ye?

32 that is kind of dodgy..

By the way I'm from sutton surrey :)

I would have thought that. She would have at least given you a reason.

But oh well

Your not crazy. I think its odd

Regards

32 that is kinda dodgy..

by the way im from sutton surrey :)

i would have thought that. she would have at least given you a reason.

but oh well

your not crazy. i think its odd

Regards

Exactly. I wanted to make sure I wasn't going totally mad and imagined that if she acted the way she had done, this type of behaviour is now odd.

I am thinking I probably haven't heard the last of this!

lol!

Well then!!!

How did you meet her? and what ages are ye?

We met internet dating. We are both 32.

Up until this odd text from her it was incredibly normal, and going along at a good pace.

Ya your not going mad. But maybe this was her first time meeting someone form the internet and got freaked.

If that's what it is then I'd say she'll be back :)

Ya your not going mad. But maybe this was her first time meeting someone form the internet and got freaked.

If that's what it is then I'd say she'll be back :)

I can see that if she freaked after the first meeting not the 3rd. Bear in mind we had the second date kissing, hand holding, and 3rd date kissing! That is not nervous!

I haven't heard the last of this, the question is how I respond if she does give me an answer. If it came at the moment I would tell her to pi*ss off and how I hate game players, lol.

Jees you sound like a pissed woman!! Lol no only jokin

I'd say if she does call meet her for a coffee and see what she has to say. What's the worst that can happen she is a b***h and your not down anything or she turns out to have a good reason and you might be able to be happy or at least... :p

Jees you sound like a pissed woman!!! lol no only jokin

I'd say if she does call meet her for a coffee and see what she has to say. What's the worst that can happen she is a b***h and your not down anything or she turns out to have a good reason and you might be able to be happy or at least.... :p

Sounds like a plan. I'll leave it with her.

Not sure I will be able to contain my annoyance if I do meet her though, but we'll see!

Ha ha!

I know what you mean in a similar situation at the moment with someone I have been seeing but sure what can you do?

I mean other than rip their arm off and beat them round the head with it... too much?

ha ha!

I know what you mean in a similar situation at the moment with someone I have been seeing but sure what can you do??

I mean other than rip their arm off and beat them round the head with it......too much?

Too much, ha ha.

I can't be bothered with people who psycho analyse everything and then make knee jerk decisions.

Communication is not that hard!!

Are you talking about me?

No only jokin, your right. Leave it to her, but don't write it off. Life's too short for that.

Are you talking about me??

No only jokin, your right. Leave it to her, but don't write it off. Life's too short for that.

People could learn from your communication skills!

You are right, I have not written it off yet. The ball is in her court. What happens will happen.

Once bitten, twice shy though.

The thing I find really funny. Is a person not talking to you for weeks.

Then finally when they do.. they shout at you. Because you did something like 4 months ago to piss them off.

Its like ! If you have a problem please just tell me right off the bat.
So you can get all that stuff off your chest
And I can know where I stand.


It is so important.

It's the head games I can't take.

You are right.

You could've left it at that. That was all I needed. Lol!

In America, we just get another date as why make drama based on a female changing her mind. That's what they do.