Do long distance relationships ever work. We both really love each other. We met over the internet and ave only met once so far vut he's coming again next week. But after that I won't see him for ages. The problem is I miss him everyday and its hard not seeing him. I know he wants to give it ago and I do too. But I do wonder if it will ever work

They can. I've been with my boyfriend for a year tomorrow and we started going out when he was doing a tour of Korea for the army and now he's stationed in NC while I'm in CA. For the first 5 months of our relationship we never got to see each other but now we see each other for about 2 weeks every 2 to 3 months. And we have the best overall relationship out of everyone I know.

But the thing is for the relationship to work you have to have the mental mindframe of 'I don't need to be in a relationship' because you are alone quite a bit... you're more independent than if you were in a relationship with someone you had the option of seeing everyday. If you're the type of person that always needs to be in a relationship a long distance will be incrediblely difficult for you. All the luck to you, though!

Thanks I really want it 2 work though

I once had a long distance relation.. but it didn't deal with me that type of relationship..
.I just tell you this if he really wants you and you really want him... you can work it out together for sure...

Well, I could say some worked while some will not. But I don't usually believe on dating online not unless the guy would come to your place and stick with you or fix things for you so you two could move together in one place. I once had long distance relationship, it took 2 years but after then he felt sorry over us when he was tempted to another woman in his place and can't forgive himself for doing that and suddenly he disappeared. And now I have this foreign guy who had just come to my place for soccer training and eventually got interest on me but things didn't go through with us because he doesn't know what he really wants.
Sweetie, I could say you're not alone. Things may happen so fast between you and that guy but the game isn't always over. Learn to compensate and strengthen yourself in ever circumstances that life and love brought in. that is how I spoke to myself. Just play fairly and in smart way.

My husband met online and was in a long time relationship for awhile they do work as long as your strong enough too make it work. What worked for us is that we both got web cams and saw each other everyday even though I couldn't touch him I still felt close to him because he gave me a couple of his shirts to sleep in and it made the distance thing feel a lot better

I'm wiv my bpyfriend. I'm 16 and he's 21. So a 5year age gap. It isn't really a problem, but he goes out wiv mates at the weekend, and I get worried that he'll see a girl, flirt wiv her and end up doing stuff wiv her. When I try to tell him how I feel, he just says he'll never find any else, and he doesn't let me explain the way I feel and then I just end up getting annoyed wiv him. I need help about what to do really

You need to feel more self confident and secure before you lose him to your insecurities.
Insecurities turn guys off AND are a number one reason for break ups.

I will tell you truthfully, it is extremely hard to keep a relationship like yours going. I don't know why a 21 year old would date a 16 year old (no offense). There is a HUGE gap in maturity and lifestyle there as I am assuming you live in America right? At any rate, you do need to control your own insecurities, however I could see how you might have them with the age gap and all.

I live in england not america

Well, whatever. My point of view is simple. So what? What does it mean if he flirts? I don't mean to sound harsh, but really. Flirting can be misconstrued as so many different things anyway... just talking to a girl can be called "flirting" sometimes. He is your boyfriend, and you are his girlfriend, period. Until something else disproves that, don't worry about it.

Realize too that if he was going to leave you for somebody else or cheat it is better you find out now than 3, 4, 5 years or more from now. But accusations and worrying about it will only push him into it.

Ny boyfriend always thinks I'm going off with some other guy and no matter what I say it never stops. I've asked him to stop before but he never does. Its starting to really annoy me now and it isn't good because I take it out on him and then we both shout at each other. And when I say I love him, it's like he doesn't believe that either.

When I ask him about why he thinks I'm going with some other guy, he just says he's scared because I'm so beautiful and I mean everything to him, but he's scared that some other guy will take interest and I'll go with him. What can I do? I need a bit of help

He has jealousy ,and some deep insecurity issues, and he must learn to deal with them.

In addition to telling him to stop, help educate him as to why he feels that way, which means educating yourself.

There are a lot of books about, jealousy, insecurity, low self esteem, all rooted in FEAR, on the market, or just Google these items for some insights, as to why he acts that way.

Its really his problem to deal with, but I understand your concern, and care.

I hope he can deal with his issues, good luck.

Thank you. But how can he become less jealous and everything and what can I do to help

I don't think there is a whole lot you can do unless he realizes for himself that how he is acting is unreasonable. Jealousy is a relationship killer. You have to let him know that these thoughts he has are unfounded, and that you are not going to leave him for another guy...

I agree with tal that maybe the two of you should look into some books on the subject... May I also suggest that a couples counseling may be a good idea... Having an outside voice can usually help because the person is more apt to listen to their opinion and be less confrontational.

"Jealousy always has the opposite effect you want it to"

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I see you both have some issues, that you may not be experienced in dealing with, so as you educate yourself on these subject, maybe you both can help each other, but between the distance, your age differences, and personal issues, and having unprotected sex, there is bound to be conflicts to be resolved, and fear that neither of you knows, exactly how to cope with your own feelings as of yet.

I hope you take a lot more caution when dealing with each other, as all your actions have consequences that your not ready for, and will change both of your lives forever.

For now maybe your mom, or an older female, can explain why and how to deal with your feelings better, and understand his as well.

I've been wth my guy about three months now but I've started fallingfo someone else and I really like him. He says he likes me too, and if I didn't ave a boyfriend he would want to be with me and make it work. But I don't know what to do. Please help

The grass isn't always greener on the other side, either give your boyfriend all of your heart or leave

Rome, I couldn't have said it better myself.

You're being unfair to your boyfriend and there's nothing worse than feeling you have been betrayed. Don't cheat. Leave if that's what you want.

Tell them you would like to date both of them, then make a decision. I am sure they would understand.

No one can make a choice for you.Clearly,if you were that into your BF of 3mths. You wouldn't be feeling something for the other guy.

Just remember how you treat people in relationships says a lot about your character and it often comes back around as well.

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You can't control how you feel about someone but you can choose your actions and what you do about it.
Lose your BF as you obviously don't like him enough to go the long haul with him.

Then do yourself a favour and give yourself a couple of months break from both of them.

That way you'll heal any emotional wounds you have , you won't just go with the new guy as a rebound and your old BF won't think you left him for someone else.

I don't think I love him anymore, but why am I so bothered that he wants to get back with his ex, and he says she makes him happy but why does that makes me feel so heartbroken and wan him back. And he thinks I just don't want him to be wiv anyone else but me

Why are you even talking to each other, about his business, if it stirs up old feelings, and confusion?

Because every time I try leave him alone he always texts me and calls me

If he's your ex and his activities bother you, then you're not over him yet.

Time to cut contact - don't answer the texts and remove him from your phone, Facebook, whatever.

What's the point of being upset with no good reason? He's moved on, now you need to as well.

Human nature keeps us all wanting what we can't have, but you answered your own question when you said you didn't love him anymore.

Why let someone you don't even love keep you in turmoil? Let him go back to the ex and make him your ex and move on.

There's a great guy out there just waiting to meet you - one that will treat you right!

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Since this is his ex that he is getting back with, I am going to guess that he is moving in circles. I think you need to use No Contact as it is meant to be used and not have any contact with him even if he initiates it. You are within your rights to hang up on him.

Look at it this way, he isn't learning from his previous mistakes. Learn from yours. There is a reason he is an ex.

Keep yourself busy-mind and body. Give yourself time to heal. After you have discarded all the baggage from the past relationship, when you are ready, you will meet someone new. Just give it time.

Don't pick up his calls. Ignore his texts. Don't even read the messages. Have someone else delete the texts for you if you have to.

Otherwise, change your number so that you don't have to play his mind games anymore.

I'm guessing you already blocked and deleted him from IM and social networks?

Ignore him and don't let him get to you. Concentrate on you and your education and leave him where he belongs,in the past.

Tell him straight up to leave you alone.

I've told him so many times 2 leave me alone but he never listens

Then IGNORE HIM

If he can't get the message, then don't give him anymore attention.

Every time you talk to him, he might think that he still has hope because you're giving him attention.

Block him from everything. Change your number. If he's blocked, he can't communicate.

Can you change your mobile phone number? Are you in the same college?

No not at the same college and we don't live close to each other. So I can't bump into him

Ignore him, and delete his texts, and stop making excuse for him disrespecting your wishes. You should be mad he ignores your wishes, and does what he wants to you. Why are you not mad enough to text him a long cuss out letter, and threaten to call the cops, and send then the texts, if he doesn't leave you alone?

Why have you not threatened him with telling his mates, and girls at his college, that he is cyber stalking you.

Why have you just gone along with this guy, and not stood up for your dignity, and self respect??

I like a guy and we've known each other loads and he says he really likes me and wants me. But he's said this before but he got with a girl and then told me he was bi and started seeing this guy. Which really hurt me and I couldn't talk to him for ages. But we got back in contact again and he told me he was engaged to him. Now he's single again because it didn't work out and he's at uni. And tells me I'm amazing and gorgeous and that being at uni has made him realize what he wants. And he wants me now. But I'm scared that he'll just find someone at uni and I'll get hurt again

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He let you down before,so why trust him this time around? Confusing is right and I think you're right to fear getting hurt so leave him in the past where he belongs.

But I don't want him out my life because I've liked him for ages. I just don't know what 2 do anymore

Proceed with caution. You'll probably regret not giving him a chance, now that he's into you. But at the same time, he's let you down before, so again, proceed with caution.

but i dont want him out my life coz ive liked him for ages. i just dont kno wat 2 do anymore

Then stay very good friends with him to give yourself time to see where he really wants to go with things. He's hurt you before, and he could do it again much easier this next time around because you would take him back so easily. Don't let him think you are that easy or you are some toy to be played with. Make him earn your trust this time.

You have had enough crushes to know they come, and go, so don't panic. Don't jump into something your not sure about and he may say one thing to you but do something entirely different, so don't get carried away by your own feelings, especially since you know he probably says the same thing to a few girls... and guys.

Maybe. I've decided I'm just not going to talk to him for a bit, because right now e only really talks Friday night to Sunday morning or at like hafl 12 in the monrin. Which sort of makes me think he's with sum1 else during the day or something

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That maybe a good way to go, as he is definitely someone to watch, and has his own agenda for his actions. They have nothing to do with caring about anyone, but himself.