So I don't know what to do with this girl. Met her at work, she came on very strong, asking me to come with her and co workers out to eat, made me food and brought it to work, then I eventually agreed to go out with her. We hung out pretty much every night since for two weeks. I went to her house till about 3 in the morning daily, as she only lives about 3 minutes away. We connected really good, when she went on vacation before we hung out, we talked constantly. She seemed immature at first though, in calling me perfect and saying that I knew all the right things to say.

Things moved VERY fast, I had already gone almost all the way with her three times, but both of us agreed not to. There were absolutely no problems or conflict what so ever.

Until I started one. We always looked through each others phones when we were bored. I saw a message to her ex, only one in which she sent to him "I love you." Now she still had all his pictures and everything, so I didn't freak but I didn't really want to talk the rest of the night. She explained before to me that he was still a big part of her life, but she was never going to go back out with him. And after that she promised me for the second time, and said that she wouldn't even talk to him NOTE: I DID NOT MAKE IT A BIG DEAL AFTER I Didn't TALK, SHE TOLD ME SHE WAS JUST GOING TO STOP TALKING TO HIM I DID NOT TELL HER TO DO ANYTHING LIKE THAT.

Anyway, after that she slowed talking to me tremendously. We stopped hanging out quite a bit and she started hanging out with friends more. She had told me before, when things were good, that 1. When she gets upset back the off. And 2. She hates fighting.

So I guess after I broke both of those boundaries things died. She told me she needs space, that she wants a relationship with me but she is tired of getting hurt after she had just broken up with her ex after dating for 3 years 6 months ago, and this other guy dumped her only a month ago while just seeing each other.

So days passed and things just kept getting worse she just didn't want to talk, so every other day I would try to start a little conversation but she hardly tried to talk back. Then I told her I'm backing off because I want a relationship with someone. She flipped and said "You have no idea how much I love reading your texts and looking forward to seeing you next" and then told me that when I ignored her the night before "I almost cried because you wouldnt even look at me."

So now I'm here. She hardly texts, never calls anymore. Its been about a week and a half since we did anything. Should I give her space? Or just leave.

I am not the type of person to let someone look around at their options, which is what I fear the most. But she says she's not seeing anyone else. I don't pry but I try to talk to her.

What should I do next? Thanks. And yes, I won't make any effort to talk to her until she tries to contact me from here on.

I would let it go. I've been in a place like her, I've gotten out of a long relationship with a guy that I dearly loved, I had no idea what I wanted, I started dating other guys, the relationships moved very fast but died very quickly because I had no idea what I wanted and was just desperate.

This girl really needs time alone, which is the last thing she wants, your attention makes her feel good, but it doesn't help her deal with her problems

I agree with Noodles here give her space and let it ride. I dealt with a girl and she done me the same way only not as quick. The thing is when I read your question and noodles response a light came on in my head. That was what was going on okay someone finally explained it.

RED FLAG- She is moving way to fast, and your following along.

Stop, and back off, as she has a lot of healing to do from the past, and being with you ain't helping.

Sorry guy, but she isn't ready for you, or any one else, until she has dealt with her own issues.

To much, to fast, crash and burn.

Yeah all right. I completely agree.

We will just have to see what happens, I feel for all those who have this happen to them though. Really is a pain to have to just back off when you feel fine yourself. Weather they want to break up or just space. Even though in this case Im sure they are going to be the same thing hehe