What are the mistakes ladies make in relationship and ways to correct them in order to have a healthy, steady and lasting relationship

Mistake: Thinking that she can change her man.
Correction: Work on her own weaknesses and bad habits first.

Woman make so many a man can't keep count.

Mistake: Expecting you to know what they want, when they don't even know what they want themselves!!

Correctable: NO!

Mistake: Interrupting me while watching the football game and drinking a beer.

Correction: Sit down and shut up (no stupid questions)

As if guys don't make mistakes? I can tell this thread is going to be good

I proclaim myself to be perfect :)

Just don't ask the ladies I have dated.

Guys are never wrong. We are the logical, straight thinking sex! :D

Here's a mistake that I often make: I believe that on my husband's day off work when he says that he's going to clean up a little and do some laundry that he's actually going to clean up a little and do some laundry.

ZoeMarie, you obviously have a lot to learn about us guys. If you ever hear me say that I am going to do laundry, you can pretty much assume I will be doing the exact opposite of that! By laundry, I usually mean laying on the couch and watching some really boring television.

here's a mistake that I often make: I believe that on my husband's day off work when he says that he's going to clean up a little and do some laundry that he's actually going to clean up a little and do some laundry.
My wife falls for that one too.:D Another mistake that ladies make, they believe us guys are really going to work on our day off!! :eek: Around the house no less!:rolleyes: Sheeeeeeeeeeeeeeezzzz!

Is that correctable, I doubt it as she falls for it all the time.

It's like they expect us to be perfect... who in the hek works on their day off?

You guys are a bunch of jokers. Lol. I work on my day off all the dang time. I would hate to see what the house looked like if I didn't.

Lol when I saw the post title, my first thought was : this smells like trouble :P

Mistakes we ladies make? Well... I'd say like the guys who answered that we're perfect little angles ;) full of all sorts of glorious characteristics

That is me roxy, an angel all the way!!

KC: lol, don't doubt it ;)

Mistake: Interrupting me while watching the football game and drinking a beer.

Correction: Sit down and shut up (no stupid questions)

What about sit down, shut up, and have a beer with me? Oh yeah, and watch the game!

I like that one better. This girl likes beer and football.

I can do that. Sound like my type of gal!

I can do that. Sound like my type of gal!

Awww... you made my day. I agree with you 100% :) I know I am a good catch ;)

All girls are good catches! It is just sometimes the guys who think too much of themselves that make those girls second guess that...

All girls are good catches! It is just sometimes the guys who think too much of themselves that make those girls second guess that...

True!

Ah now... in fairness there's a lot of women who are fairly s@*t!! :P


Joke... only a joke :)

Of course it is :) I laughed ;)

#1 Mistake a woman makes in a relationship is starting one.

Wrong Kitten!! You just haven't met the right guy. It is never a mistake to date someone like me! :)

Ah kitten... that's no way to be. You'll never get your M.R.S with an attitude like that?

Oh its mostly a joke...
I am a bit scorned but I a more a hopeless romantic.

Mistake : Blow things out of proportion and then fight about it for too long, never let it go, then bring it up years from now in a totally unrelated argument

Correction : Stop, think, work it out logically and calmly, and when solved, forget about it and not bring it up again

Kc: lol. True! And I think all the girls on here should take that as a compliment. I actually watched a soccer match today and had a beer. Lol not with a boyf though but with some guy friends. ;)

A mistake a lot of women make (not me of course) is they come off too desperate and act as though they haven't had a man in years.

Men just hate that

A mistake a lot of women make (not me of course) is they come off too desperate and act as though they haven't had a man in years.

Men just hate that

Really? Men hate that?

Damn.. something's wrong with me... I actually want a woman to want me... :(

Really? Men hate that?

Damn.. something's wrong with me... I actually want a woman to want me... :(

Yes but do you want someone who is too needy? And doesn't give you, your space? Really?

Yes but do you want someone who is too needy? And doesn't give you, your space? Really?

Hmmm now I know there is something very wrong with me... see, I like a woman to want me.. like really want me... and I like it if she spends a lot of her time with me... if I love her, I'd want to spend all my time with her, and if I'm not with her, I'll be missing her too much... I need help... :(

BlackVY: nah, you don't need help... you're not alone in that..

blackVY: nah, you don't need help... you're not alone in that...!

Hmmm thanks... but its way too hard to a find a woman who wants to be with me all the time...

I've always said, I wish I was born like 100 years ago... when a man was a man and a woman was a woman.. no like now... when men are metros, getting their nails done and legs waxed, and where women have short hair and wear suits and just want to climb the corporate ladder...


Oooo I know this post is going to get me in trouble... :(

Woman make so many a man can't keep count.

Women's fault are many
Men have only two
Everything they say and everything they do.

Women's mistakes:
Thinking she can change him
Thinking he will change
Ending up losing her own self worth when he doesn't and she is stuck in the situation.

Hehe blackvy it prob will. I'm happy to live in the now, prob b\c I don't fit into the womanly way to act. I burp, I fart, I drink beer, I can't clean up after myself... my philosophy is 40\60... i.e. 40 percent work for me, 60 for the other person...

(in reality 30\70)

I'm in possible and very independent and I like to fix things: whether it be a computer or a broken lamp. And of course I scare guys of, b\c I can handle myself I don't actually need someone to do it for me. :P

I have to admit. I've never tried to change a man. Mostly b\c I liked the person I fell in love with. I do somethimes have a prob with change... however...

hehe blackvy it prob will. i'm happy to live in the now, prob b\c i don't fit into the womanly way to act. i burp, i fart, i drink beer, i can't clean up after myself.... my philosophy is 40\60... i.e. 40 percent work for me, 60 for the other person.....

(in reality 30\70)

i'm in possible and very independent and i like to fix things: whether it be a computer or a broken lamp. and of course i scare guys of, b\c i can handle myself i don't actually need someone to do it for me. :P

i have to admit. i've never tried to change a man. mostly b\c i liked the person i fell in love with. i do somethimes have a prob with change.... however....

Hmmm I see... well you do sound like a woman of today... lol.. but that's my problem... I'm an old fashioned man... not someone u'd find these days... so makes things hard for me... O well...

Mistake: asking him "Do I look fat in this?"

Correction: TELL him "I look FANTASTIC in this!"

Mistake: Telling him if there's a problem at the time it can be solved.

Correction: Store them all in a compartment in your head to use at a later, more advantageous time!:rolleyes:

Haha... that's evil... hey what's the deal with this..

Women tell us there is something wrong, or there is a problem, but they don't want us to fix it or make things better... they just want to complain about it, and want us to sympathize with them... and when we try to fix the issue, we get in trouble!

Men are fixers, Women are talkers.

I really believe in that sense we are just wired differently. A woman voices an opinion simply to voice it and for it to be recognised. A man, when he does decide to voice it (as his final option!) does so because he has tried every other way and can't do it alone :p

Women want to be heard, understood. Men want to be admired, appreciated and worshipped.

It's rarely a mistake for a woman to "worship at the throne." But when we are always telling him what a stud he is, while we are faking enjoyment? Lying is a mistake!

Women want to be heard, understood. Men want to be admired, appreciated and worshipped.

It's rarely a mistake for a woman to "worship at the throne." But when we are always telling him what a stud he is, while we are faking enjoyment? Lying is a mistake!

Yup... lying is not good... but it is nice for a man to feel appreciated... but then again, a woman wants that too...

Hehe omg I'm a butch gay man trapped in a woman's body... or well... no I was a woman of today that's right... panic attack over!

Haha... very funny... but nothing wrong with being a butch gay man trapped in a woman's body... lol... some guys might find that quite appealing... lol ;)

Try for years to change everything in her man's life that she doesn't like
And after that years, speaks sadly, "You have changed so much, i think you are not the one i was in love with before"

BlackVY: hehe oh there might be. Geez I hope... ;)

Btw I got a funny email from a friend of mine today:

(1)FineThis is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.


(2)Five Minutes:If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.


(3)Nothing:This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.


(4)Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

(5)Loud Sigh:This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)

(6)That's Okay:This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

(7)Thanks:A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' that will bring on a 'whatever').

(8)Whatever:Is a woman's way of sayingF--YOU!

(9)Don't worry about it, I got it:Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.

KC: BTw comment on your rep comment hehe good to hear that I'm not a lost womanly case hehe :P

Haha... thats evil... hey whats the deal with this..

Women tell us there is something wrong, or there is a problem, but they don't want us to fix it or make things better... they just want to complain about it, and want us to sympathize with them... and when we try to fix the issue, we get in trouble!!

You know what's hilarious? This is really true. And yesterday I was complaining because my wrist hurt. I was going to wait until I got home to put on my brace because I forgot it. Well the guy at work was telling me to rearrange my whole work area thinking it would be more ergonomic. Like raise my chair, move my keyboard, mouse, computer screen. I looked him and said, "oh I'm just complaining, I wasn't looking for suggestions." we both just started laughing.

Tru... from the last few posts, I've observed something...

If women were lot more straight-forward and told men what they really mean, or gave them a warning before a female instinct kicks in, things would be a lot better for men and women... ie: telling us when you are just complaining, not looking for a solution, or when nothing means something, or when go ahead means don't u dare...

I mean not all men are smart enough to decipher this code women have... and we don't all know how a woman's mind works... I know its fun for women to confuse the hell out of men, but maybe once in a while, you could cut us some slack and tell it like it is... just a suggestion... thanks... :)

I love the go ahead.

And then you do

And then she is all

Oh No you did.. Int!

Sigh :)..

Well men and women both have the same issues
I think if it was easy. There would be no fun in relationships :)

I don't think that women are the only confusing ones, you men are hard to figure out too. ;)

Communication is key, if both sides say what they think, tell how they feel, let it be known what they like and dislike, then there are less problems.

The thing is, most couples don't want to talk about negative things because they think it brings negativity into the relationship. So they remain quiet, soon they start to resent the other person "if he/she really loved me s/he'd know this bothers me" and then they get angry. If both parties had just talked about it from the beginning it would have been okay.

Talk, talk, talk, it really is the most important aspect of any relationship.

Say what you think

Mean what you say :)

It's pretty cool, actually that women and men are so different in the way they see things. Relationships are everything. So relating is what we seek to master. What is sad is that some feel that there is only one way to communicate... Everything else is other people's crap.

My pet rock and I still have plenty in common. The talking is all one way though. When the rock has something to say, it's crap, so no one listens. Women are less like rocks than they used to be in Western society.

I couldn' help but post these in regards to women and men...

When Dan found out he was going to inherit a fortune when his sickly father died, he decided he needed a woman to enjoy it with. So one evening he went to a singles bar where he spotted the most beautiful woman he had ever seen. Her natural beauty took his breath away.
"I may look like just an ordinary man," he said as he walked up to her, "but in just a week or two, my father will die, and I'll inherit 20 million dollars."
Impressed, the woman went home with him that evening and, three days later, she became his stepmother.

Women are so much smarter than men..

AND...

SHORT STORY

Man driving down road.
Woman driving same road...
They pass each other...
The woman yells out the window, PIG!
Man yells back out window, B I T C H!
Man rounds next curve.
Crashes into a HUGE PIG in middle of road and dies.
Thought for The Day: If only men would listen......

No matter what, I still love you guys!

Hmmm, so now the problem is that a woman doesn't train her dog properly? Well ladies, just hope that you live with a Retriever(easily trained) and not an Afghan Hound(stubborn). Be firm, confident and consistent, yet loving and patient in order to build trust and obedience. If necessary use stand over tactics to show them who's boss. And when you take them out, make sure they're always a step behind you.
You should have them eating out of your hand in no time. :D

And to show that I love you guys, here's one for you...

A store that sells husbands has just opened in Dallas, TX, where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a
Description of how the store operates.

"You may visit the store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the attributes of the men increase as the shopper ascends the flights. There is, however, a catch. You may choose any man from a particular floor, or you may choose to go up a floor, but you cannot go back down Except to exit the building!"

So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband.. .

On the first floor the sign on the door reads: Floor 1 - These men have
Jobs.

The second floor sign reads: Floor 2 - These men have jobs and love kids.
The third floor sign reads: Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love kids, and
Are extremely good looking. "Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep
Going.

She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads: Floor 4 - These men have jobs,
Love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework. "Oh,
mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"

Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads: Floor 5 - These men
Have jobs, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and
Have a strong romantic streak.

She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign
Reads: Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no
Men on this floor.. This floor exists solely as proof that women are
Impossible to please. Thank you for shopping!

BlackVY: hehe oh there might be. Geez I hope... ;)

Btw I got a funny email from a friend of mine today:

(1)FineThis is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.


(2)Five Minutes:If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.


(3)Nothing:This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.


(4)Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

(5)Loud Sigh:This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)

(6)That's Okay:This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

(7)Thanks:A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' that will bring on a 'whatever').

(8)Whatever:Is a woman's way of sayingF--YOU!

(9)Don't worry about it, I got it:Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.

Roxypox that is so funny and yet so incredibly true.
I don't understand how men just don't get it. I use some of those expressions and my boyfriend simply can't grasp where I'm coming from, which usually leads to an argument later on.

I like this post but to be fair there should be one for men!

Mistake: Trying to control the mans shortcomings and make him a better man

Corrections: Let go and let God.

Mistake: Women always thinking the man is the problem

Correction: Perhaps they should look in the mirror for once

:)

Women look into the mirror too much. What they see is all wrong compared to what they see on porn sites and in magazines. They cannot win... except with the person sitting on the couch, doing nothing...

Couldn't agree more with Simon..

Girls see this at very young ages and it's pounded in our brain! And they feel inadequte

Women and Men ALIKE have their problems.. I get so sick of men whining all the time about women controlling everything.. In fact I'm going to start a post right now about how men screw up relationships./

FYI I'm not a feminist.. but I get so sick and tired of hearing guys whine and complain about women... face it guys... you'd be lost with out us!!

Mistake: Playing out a scenerio in your head of what you expect he will do or how he will respond in a given situation and then being disappointed and hurt when he doesn't follow the script!


Correction: Stop setting yourself up for disappointment... speak up with what you want/need.

I honestlt think that us women have our little codes because every time we do say how we feel about things men just try to avoid the situation and all the sudden us women are emotional and as you men like to call it "crazy"
Maybe its not the women that need to do the talking. It's the men that needs to start doing some listening and maybe they need to sit down and shut up for a change and put down that remote control! I also don't understamd that when a women does try to state her feelings a guy tries to either flip the script or he simply acts like he cars for about 2 seconds and goes back to what he was doing.

One mistake that I believe a lot of women make is that they tend to think less of themselves all the time and no man likes a woman that is always downing herself. Confidence is key and men love a confident woman.

Mistake: Revolving their life around the man in their life.

Correction: Don't give up the things that you enjoy as women alone, it helps ensure yourself confidence and independence.

Think we see all too much of this out there.

Mistake: Talking to him every second of every day with text messages/emails/phone calls

You pretty much know how his day is going if you just talked to him 5 minutes ago

Correction: Put down the phone (being any device that can receive and send a voice signal and/or text message)

Pull the plug on the computer. (being any device that can receive this/or some form)

Limit yourself to short contact and maybe a phone call a day... He'll probably chase you more. Answer :p

So true about the expectations. he he. women do have a tendency to make up scenarios in their heads, but like true faith said, doesn't guys do something similar?

And the self image thing... it can get pretty bad for some people. It is pretty important to remember that the person you are with is more often then not with you b\c of your personality AND looks.

Hehe and starbucks is right on the money with the calling, texting etc. :P

I guess my mistake would be wanting my fiancé to turn the football game off sometimes. And limit his sport intake and realize life isn't over if the giants doesn't win the super bowl.

Next would be expecting him to do the laundry correctly. I done showed him a thousand of times on how to use our washing machine but he still don't get it. He pretending not to know how to to use it, maybe, but I know that last time he did it he turned all my white stuff pink.

Mistake, was me asking him to open up and expressed his feelings. Now he can't stop and sometimes I want to say shut up however I do say it in my head.

my dad did the laundry once and he ended up ruining a pair of pants that belongs to my sister and after that my mom made a rule: NO ONE!!!! does the laundry except me!

I made some mistakes in with my x boyfriend... we lived together and I was pretty much a WOW widow... I made the mistake of thinking that I could get him to step away from his game and go out with the garbage :P


another mistake I made... I never respected the fact that he likes to have a tidy house. I just threw my stuff around and left it for days until I cleaned it up. (I was a lucky gal though, he did 60\70 percent of the cleaning I did the rest :P)

Yeah, the video game is another issue. I can't get too mad because I play it too but I play a variety of games instead of one. All he does is play Madden 09. I used to be stuck on Grand Theft Auto but now all I play is Wii and Guitar Hero. I even went and brought the complete rock band set for everyone to play.

Hehe yeah that was our problem as well... he was totally consumed with Wow! I Played a little, but I could be 'consumed' for a week and then I didn't play for weeks, months and then I played for a week and so on. I like variation

World of warcraft for me lucky enough I got my girl into it hehe

hehe yeah that is pretty lucky, my x got me into it at first as well, but I don't have enough interest or game 'stamina' to keep it up in the long run :p

One mistake I've seen with younger women in particular is giving their all to a man and losing them self in the process.
They live only to please their mate and they become clingy and possessive.
You must be happy and healthy by yourself before you can be so in a relationship.

World of warcraft for me lucky enough I got my girl into it hehe

Your lucky because one of my exes was into those types of games and tried to get me into it, but I couldn't get into it.

I don't know if this was already said but another mistake some women make is having babies with guys that they know aren't any good but they still have babies with them in hopes that they will change. However that doesn'e happen but then they want to complain about them being a deadbeat. Duh, you knew that before hand.

OK. I have two more.

Mistake: Women always trying to change their man, so they are perfect to them

Correction: Accept your man's flaws and either deal with them or find someone more suited for you.



Mistake: Women trying to let there BF down easy during a break up.

Correction: Be straight and honest and tell them how it is. None of this "I need space...", "We need a break...", "I'm confused...." What the heck does any of that mean?

Instead just say "I don't love you anymore. We need to break-up" Simple, plain, blunt, and honest. No reason for hope there.