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Reicheru-006
Dec 7, 2008, 12:22 PM
here's the down low. I was brought up catholic and my mom believes in it hXc. That's totally fine with me... up until a few years ago. It just occurred to me that she never really discouraged things I did, just saying "oh i would love it if you tried to do this". Sounds like a great mom. As a teen, I feel like she can't understand me because, that's all she ever does is encourage. I'm almost annoyed that she doesn't think anything I do is stupid. She gets "dissapointed" like when I gauged my ears she just said they were gross. When I wore skinny jeans she's all "those r interesting". Its not like I'm trying to get attention as it may sound, that's not my intention. I just want a reation that a normal mom would give. I'm already a 4g and she says "thats gross". WHAT THE HELL!! Woudnt stretching your ears out make any mom creeped out and tell me to get rid of them?

I know she's like this because she's into god so much and his ways of forgivness and stuff and giving me this whole lecture on god... but I feel like... I don't want to be that way when I grow up. I don't want to live in a perfect world and have my kid be suddenly annoyed and turned off by this. I feel like I don't want to be catholic because I don't want to be like my mom giving a jesus lesson on my values and how I can improve them. If my daughter comes out of her room with a mid-drift and she's all of 9, I'm going to say, "your not wearing that to school. march back in there. now" with a stern voice. I want my kid to have charictor instead of being posativly lead in the right direction like I was.. kinda saposed to be... but anyway, is this wrong of me to want this? And I feel like if I tried ecnoring this all and give my heart into paying attention in church, I'll end up like her.. . I'm almost scared to be like that.

N0help4u
Dec 7, 2008, 12:42 PM
Sounds like you maybe could try and figure out why your mom is raising you like this. Maybe she feels that conflict of saying No will make you rebel. Maybe she feels that being the nice mom is the way that you will respond best.
If she is around my age it may be that in the 60's generation parents were shocked by things like their son growing long hair down almost to his shoulders. So your mom sees it just as a kid phase you will eventually grow out of.

I think you should have a talk with her. Start by asking her doesn't anything I do bother you to the point you just want to say NO to me?

Fr_Chuck
Dec 7, 2008, 08:56 PM
Her behavior has little to do with her being Catholic, many Catholics I know would have slapped you silly for doing anything to your ears and would have never let you leave the house driessed wrong,

This sounds like a parenting issue, or the refusal to face or accept the issues,

Moparbyfar
Dec 8, 2008, 03:36 AM
Have to agree with Chuck on this one. If your mother was taking advice from the bible, she'd realize that what you wear reveals the real you. True Christian followers of Jesus aren't concerned with the latest fads and trends but instead focus on their inner selves. They are more interested in what makes them attractive to God not people. (1 Peter 3:4) Sure God forgives but he also wants us to try and live by his standards which are actually quite high. Throughout much of bible God can be seen as a discipliner and reminder when his "children" lowered their standards. Christian parents should want to do the same.
Whatever the cause, if you half expect or want her to tell you off or be disgusted but know she won't, why not try reverse psychology on her? Dress like a total straitlaced nerd and see what she says then.