help do you think a 11 year old can date I need answers please well like holding hands holding each other

No, I think 11 is too young to be seriously dating. You are still a child and need to be a child a little longer.

What do you parents say?

Yeah, maybe not date, but be friends? Sure!

Holding hands and hugging is not a date.

Besides, like Scott said, eleven is much too early to be thinking about the opposite sex. Learn how to diagram sentences, know your multiplication tables forwards and backwards instantly, and learn the location of all the world's countries and their capitals. And are you ready for your state history test? Did you make your bed this morning? Did you eat three nutritious meals today? Have you finished your homework for Monday? Have you been behaving like someone everyone wishes they knew better? Have you obeyed your mom and dad? If not, you don't have time for "dates" yet.

Holding hands and hugging is not a date.

Besides, like Scott said, eleven is much too early to be thinking about the opposite sex. Learn how to diagram sentences, know your multiplication tables forwards and backwards instantly, and learn the location of all the world's countries and their capitals. And are you ready for your state history test? Did you make your bed this morning? Did you eat three nutritious meals today? Have you finished your homework for Monday? Have you been behaving like someone everyone wishes they knew better? Have you obeyed your mom and dad? If not, you don't have time for "dates" yet

Hey I'm 4.0 I've known the guy for 4 years what's it opinion now

hey I'm 4.0 I've known the guy for 4 years what's it opinion now
Same.

At your age, I knew all sorts of guys for four years and more. I didn't date alone with a guy until I was 16. Meanwhile, I did my homework, did my chores at home, won scholarships for college, and ended up with a very nice career. Hugging and dating happen soon enough.

I notice you didn't answer my questions...

No way. 11 is too young. You are still in primary school, you need to study on school and freindships, and family. You have no room in your life at the moment for kissing etc and you all know that kissing leads to sex, which you are definitely too young for. I think 11 is too young.

Hey don't go crazy!!

:rolleyes:hey u guys just wondering could a 11yr old girl be bffs and then say they both like each other pass notes saying hey want to hang out no into kissing but still kind of u know say they like each other it will be nice if to leave answer ah I know 11 not a age for kissing and sex ;):eek:


Hay I'm not dumb 4.0 student

You I think that it is fine, I had my first boyfriend when I was 12. It's fine as long as you don't get 2 serrious (at least until you are older)

ya i think that it is fine, i had my first boyfriend when i was 12. it's fine as long as u dont get 2 serrious (at least untill u r older)

Hey thanks so bord u

hey don't go crazy!!!!!
You either. Do your homework for Monday.

Yeah that's fine & cute. It's good practise for when you aer older :)

Why the heck shouldn't 12yearolds date?
I mean they can't really drive to the movies, but they could hang out and kiss and share a soda or whatever

If you find the right person at 11 years old then you should do everything u can to b with them.

But probably 99.999 percent of the time it isn't the right person when your that young!

Just see how things work out. Do what feels natural to you, listen to your heart

do what feels natural to you, listen to your heart
That's how we end up with unwed mothers or girls getting abortions at age 12 and 13.

That's how we end up with unwed mothers or girls getting abortions at age 12 and 13.

I said heart, not penis/vagina
I never said 11 year olds should be having sex. I said if you think you love someone, you shouldn't let them go

That's how we end up with unwed mothers or girls getting abortions at age 12 and 13.

There is nothing wrong with an 11 year old girl dateing an 11 year old boy, I did when I was 11(which was 2 years ago) and nothing bad ever happened to me. By what she said its just harmless fun and that's what it was for me. Not every thing leads to "unwed mothers or girls getting abortions at age 12 and 13" any smart girl knows how to protect herself from that.

First of all, what is the definition of dating at 11? Holding hands? Passing notes that say "your face looks like butterfly wings"? If that's it, then go for it. I also started dating someone when I was 11, so was he. We were together for 7 years. We didn't kiss until we were 15. And never had sex. If this is just a boy and a girl hanging out, then OK. With parental supervision, EVEN BETTER!!



not every thing leads to "unwed mothers or girls getting abortions at age 12 and 13" any smart girl knows how to protect herself from that.Accidents and bad luck happen to smart girls too.

there is nothing wrong with an 11 year old girl dateing an 11 year old boy, i did when i was 11(which was 2 years ago) and nothing bad ever happend to me. by what she said its just harmless fun and thats what it was for me. not every thing leads to "unwed mothers or girls getting abortions at age 12 and 13" any smart girl knows how to protect herself from that.


why the heck shouldnt 12yearolds date?
i mean they can't really drive to the movies, but they could hang out and kiss and share a soda or whatever

Spoken like young people who don't have the knowledge or experience to understand the maturation process.

Children today are trying to grow up faster and faster. They see intergender relationships glorified in the media and want to emulate what they see. They want the experiences they see without having the emotional maturity to handle it.

That's why its not a good idea for children to date. I strongly suspect that in the OP's case she wants to date NOT because she likes the boy but just for the sake of dating.

Whenever questions like this crop up, you get three groups of answers. The adults who want to protect the childhood of the askers advicate waiting. The kids who don't believe an adult can understand what they are going through, say go ahead. And the third group is in their late teens or early 20s who had a good or bad (mostly bad) similar experience.

If one is asking for advice, they generally want the advice from older and wiser heads.

Often at that age kids say 'I am going out with... ' it can be cute because it is mostly innocent hand holding and just verbally acknowledging that they have a strong like for each other.
Then 'going out' or hanging out in a group can be a good start for getting to know and socialize with the opposite sex.

A lot depends though on their maturity level and how physically developed they are. I have known a lot of pregnant 13 yr old girls that if you didn't know better you would swear they were 18.

I also think that you might be best to look at the other kids her age and on up to around 13 or 15 at her school. If they are into sex and all then it is a little more likely that she could end up going the same route because with what I see teens follow what the others are doing and it isn't necessarily peer pressure but what is considered normal to them.

Accidents and bad luck happen to smart girls too.

What I meant was if she is smart she won't even do anything like that until she is older

what i meant was if she is smart she won't even do anything like that untill she is older
I remember those days well. Curiosity, peer pressure, defiance toward parents, overconfidence, and egocentrism all trump her (an 11 y/o's) being smart.

I remember those days well. Curiosity, peer pressure, defiance toward parents, overconfidence, and egocentrism all trump her (an 11 y/o's) being smart.

Not eveyone is like that!

not eveyone is like that!
Of course everyone is at that age! At least one characteristic on my list will apply to an 11 y/o to cause him/her to be "less smart" in attitude and/or behavior. It's all part of growing up, gaining life experience, and maturing.

OK thank u!! this was a survey for my friend who is 11 and is into all that I'm concerned so I'm going to guide her in the rite directionh

You are an adult who has an 11 yr old "friend" and writes in text speak. Okay sure.

shantans agrees: thanks I'm a adult looking after my children

I thought this was the case... now it's a study?
Hmmmmm.

bored987 disagrees: what dose that have to do with any of this?
Everything. Are you 11 too?

ADDED: Ah! I see you are 13. Do you know the difference between "dose" and "does"? Did you know that "I" should be capitalized when it refers to yourself? Have you finished your homework for tomorrow?

Everything. Are you 11 too?

No I'm 13, and why dose it matter any way

no im 13, and why dose it matter any way

It does matter because your advice comes from a lack of real experience

no im 13, and why dose it matter any way
Read what I added above.

What does it mean? It means your future, your success in life.

Everything. Are you 11 too?

ADDED: Ah! I see you are 13. Do you know the difference between "dose" and "does"? Did you know that "I" should be capitalized when it refers to yourself? Have you finished your homework for tomorrow?

Yes I know the differnce between dose and dose and I know that I should be capitalized but I don't think that it really matters for something like this and yes my homework is done I'm a 4.0 student, thank you very much

It does matter because your advice comes from a lack of real experience

I may not have as much experience as you but at least I know what I am talking about. I know what kids and teens do at 11, and at the schools I've gone to its nothing like what you are thinking

yes i know the differnce between dose and dose and and i know that i should be capitalized but i dont think that it really matters for something like this and yes my homework is done im a 4.0 student, thank you very much

Actually it DOES matter. The rules of this site prohibit using text speak. Using such exhibits a laziness and lack of courtesy to others.

Actually it DOES matter. The rules of this site prohibit using text speak. Using such exhibits a laziness and lack of courtesy to others.

Just because I don't have the time to make sure that my spelling and grammar is perfect dosen't mean that that I "lack courtesy for others".

just because i dont have the time to make sure that my spelling and grammar is perfect dosen't mean that that i "lack courtesy for others".

So you claim. But that's the way it will appear to others.

So you claim. But that's the way it will appear to others.

Well then I am sorry I will be sure not to use text talk.

yes i know the differnce between dose and dose and and i know that i should be capitalized but i dont think that it really matters for something like this and yes my homework is done im a 4.0 student, thank you very much
You still didn't spell the word right. I don't believe the 4.0 based on what you post here. A teen earning a 4.0 would write well.

You still didn't spell the word right. I don't believe the 4.0 based on what you post here. A teen earning a 4.0 would write well.

OK just because I'm not making sure that I don't make any mistakes doesn't mean that I don't know how to spell or write well. I'm not a perfectionist so I don't reread this a 100 times to correct all of my mistakes and you can't judge someone's grades based on the way that they type

If you start “almost”dating early, you will probably and naturally get into romantic relationships early. That can be enormously satisfying and incredibly dangerous.

A preteen lacks emotional discipline and won’t likely consider consequences. Your heart is tender and if your boyfriend dumps you, even for a video game, it can be devastating.

I know you have heard about sex. You might be curious about it and when your own sex drive is stimulated, you might want to explore it more.

Nearly everyone has had the experience of losing all common sense when aroused. Your logical mind goes on vacation – if there is even one person who hasn’t done something really stupid when under that influence, I’d be surprised.

You don’t like to hear about being too young and you are probably not even thinking about anything close to an actual sexual experience, but once you’ve had one, it’s really hard to just say no.

I haven’t even talked about disease, reputation and pregnancy – or, for the loss of childhood – and how love and sex changes your life.

Yes, you are too young. You really don’t have the resources to handle those kinds of complications.

My advice is to ask how many people out there didn’t date or didn’t get romantically or sexually involved (not always the same thing) until they were at least 15.

How many will say they wish they had started earlier? My guess is not many. How many will say the truly and sincerely wished that they hadn’t started early. My guess is a lot.

Do as scottgem, wondergirl and others suggested, prepare yourself for the future and don’t miss out on all the things that people in your age range normally do. That’s what life should be all about for you now.

Jeret

No

I have a friend who lost her virginty at 11 to a 12 year old boy. 11 is way to early to date. Shoot for 15.

I say go for it I amm 11 tooo and I had a boyfriend when I was 10 but don't get too serious

When I said I had a boyfriend it wasn't serious
It was just nice he was like my best friend and we like talked a lot but I wasn't serious

Listen, if you date at 11 your going to grow up to ne a sluut, and your probubly thinking that's not true, it is. And plus, your in like the fith grade, or sixth grade, or whatever, I didn't start datin until this year, I'm a softmore in high school, and your probubly saying to yourself, I can't wait that long, you can, if I can, you can, because I started smokin when I was 11, I'm probubly going to die early because of it. What does my smokin hafta do with your wanting to date, think of it like this, I can harldly breath when I run, every one is going to want to get with you because you give hand jobs for free, because you started datin at 11, your going to get harassed, and your going to get an std, so wats worse, my future, or yours, hell at least I get to die young

I'd just like to point out that I was a 4.0 teenager once too.

I was on the Student Counsel, in the National Honor Society.

I started dating a guy, and we dated for 2.5 years. I thought I loved him.

We waited to have sex. When we did, I was on the pill, we used a condom, and had spermicide.

I got pregnant the second time I had sex.

I wasn't "stupid" either.

But god---I wish I'd focused more on school and less on dating that guy--or any guy!

Just be a kid. Have fun. Go out with friends in groups of both guys and girls. Forget having to have a "boyfriend". And regardless what anyone says, there's nothing WRONG with you if you don't have a boyfriend in your teens, anyway.

Put school first. Then put college first. Because with your degree, you can get a great job and not be dependent on anyone---and being independent will let YOU be the one to pick the guys you want to be with, not just the ones that happen to be around and available.

That's how we end up with unwed mothers or girls getting abortions at age 12 and 13.

My gosh!! :mad: Wonder, you think you know everything, don't you? People at my age are not going to have sex. We are a lot more mature than you think, and don't go blabbing on about how when you were 11 you didn't pay attention to boys, because kids are different now.

If you feel like you like this boy, ask him to hang out sometimes. Just don't overdo it. Just have fun, go somewhere like the park and have a picnic. Something like that. Maybe just go for a walk around the block. Talk to him, have fun, don't get too romantic. And yes it's okay to date him as long as your parents aren't paranoid about it. Don't get too cocky, tell your parents and don't be rebellious. Just say you're hanging out with some friends (which, by the way, you might want to bring along.) and it's nothing serious.

My gosh!!! Wonder, you think you know everything, don't you? People at my age are not going to have sex. We are a lot more mature than you think, and don't go blabbing on about how when you were 11 you didn't pay attention to boys, because kids are different now.
I am only reporting what I see all around me. Why have high schools added daycare programs for unwed mothers? Why do young teens who come to me to do court-ordered community service have to first find a sitter for their child(ren)?

When my friends and I were 11 back when rocks were still cooling, we had no clue that boys were anything other than annoying little monsters. Almost all of us didn't date until we were 16 (or older). We were very busy earning good grades in school. Yes, kids are different now. It is a whole different world. TV was just beginning to be popular with only so many shows on, mostly in the evening--variety shows for families and spy programs for dads, and then colored test patterns came on after the "Star Spangled Banner" played. Radio shows were "Big John and Sparky" and soaps and "Lem and Abner" and "Jack Benny." Rock music hadn't been invented yet. Frank Sinatra, Keeley Smith, and Louis Armstrong were big. There were only two or three magazines for kids and teens--Boys' Life and American Girl (which had nothing to do with the dolls). Birth control and sex were never discussed, especially not by parents with their kids. In fact, birth control wasn't even known about except for the rhythm method. The pill came much later for popular use. That's why we older teens didn't get pregnant, because we were abstinent and scared not to be! We weren't even sure what sex actually was. If someone got pg, she got secretly shipped off to a faraway relatives' house for so many months until the baby was born and given up for adoption. Yes, a whole different world.

Visit your public library and look at some of the timeline books on the '40s and the '50s to see if I'm right. Look at the clothes people wore. Women wouldn't dare leave the house until they had on full makeup, were wearing a dress and heels. Men wore suits everywhere unless they were common workmen. Then they wore dungarees. Jeans mostly didn't exist. We got polio and no one knew why. Nearly everyone went to church on Sunday morning. Stores were closed all day Sunday and usually closed by 5 or 6 p.m. on weekdays & Saturdays. You couldn't buy meat after a certain time even if the grocery store was still open. Children were just that, children. We girls played hopscotch, jump rope, jacks, and helped our moms set the table for supper. The boys were off on their own somewhere throwing a ball over the garage roof or goofing around in some empty lot playing softball or touch football or setting stones on railroad tracks, hoping the train would crash (it never did).

You'll be amazed at what you see and read about at the library.

My gosh!!! :mad: Wonder, you think you know everything, don't you? People at my age are not going to have sex. We are a lot more mature than you think, and don't go blabbing on about how when you were 11 you didn't pay attention to boys, because kids are different now.


I was going to remove this post for two reasons. First, this thread has had no activity for 6 months. Generally we don't like to revive threads that old. Second, because you are violating our rules by attacking another member. But I decided to let it stay because it deserves answering.

Yes kids are different now. But that is not always a good thing. For example, kids generally were more respectful when I was that age.

But the real issue is that kids are being forced to grow up too quickly. The reason why 11 yr olds shouldn't date is because they do not have the life experience or maturity to handle the emotional issues. Whether you believe it or not that hasn't changed. By allowing kids to get into the relationship thing so young, you change the dynamics and this does promote becoming sexual active sooner. And your statement that "people at my age are not going to have sex" just shows how little you know of the world. Its happening way too often.

So, when you grow up and learn what you don't know but what older people have experienced, you WILL change your tune.