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jjamjm
Dec 5, 2008, 12:44 PM
I have been in a relationship for 10yrs. We have been together since we were 18. I had a 6mnth child from a previous relationship. Things went well for 7yrs until he became addicted to prescribition drugs. We ended up breaking up for 2yrs and got back together after he decieded to receive treatment and was drug free. We have been back together now for 3yrs just bought a home. Everything seemed to be okay except our sexual part of the relationship. He never seemed to be intrested in having sex. He always used the excuse that it was his drug treatment. Now he says that in the last 6mnths he doesn't feel attracted to me. He wants to be with me and my child and loves me but that it sucks he is having this problem with sexually being with me. He says he sees me more as his sister than his girlfriend lately.

What can I do to make this work? I love him to death but with the way things have been going I'm not that happy. Its hurts to be told this.

Justwantfair
Dec 5, 2008, 12:48 PM
Well a normal option would be to visit a doctor, but there is an extreme likelihood they may want a prescription to help improve his libido. Considering his history, this is not the optimum solution.

Have you tried some herbal remedies to help him improve? Is he willing to work on the sexual part of your relationship? It is often that when you fall into a routine of not having sex, the act become less desirable and if you are actively having sex, you actively desire it. Sometimes it just takes adjusting that routine initially to get the ball rolling again.

talaniman
Dec 5, 2008, 04:36 PM
How old are you and are there any stresses in your life, or major changes?

jjamjm
Dec 5, 2008, 07:35 PM
30 and no major changes.