Dear Helping Person,
I read a book on getting my exback book , but still feel unsure of how to handle my situation. I thought there would be more information and strategies included. Not at all what I expeted and I need help. I have no no contact with my ex boyfriend since he broke up with me a month ago except when I bumped into him to pick up my things as we were living together.
Here is my situation. I don't have contact with him or any of his friends or family. I moved here from Florida 2 years ago to start a life with him. He made it clear he wanted to spend his life with me and so I took a chance. I started school soon after I moved here as that was also part of the plan. Things went well untl about 3 months ago things started getting hairy. He started acting indiffernt towards me and started staying out late with friends.
During the summer I had a major operation and had to quit my job. He told me not to worry about and to just get through this next semester and that he'll take care of my finances till then. Well the semester started and it has been my most intense one yet as I am in an intensive program. I became overwhelmed and lost myself for a while in my school work, had no time to even see what was happening. I think he started building resentment towards me, as he stated when breaking up with me ,That it didn't feel good to help me and that his friends thought he was crazy and that I should have a job. He takes to heart what they think. He said he felt embarrassed. I know now that he had every right to feel this way, I just wished he would have told me instead of letting it build to the point of wanting to break up. He said that I had to get my life back together and that we could maybe revisit this relationship once I graduate as he wants someone stable financally. He went on about the economy etc... He was so cold and matter of fact. That tok place a month ago and have since then got a job and getting myself back to feeling independent again. I had always lived and been independentt prior to moving here with him. I have been getting myself back on track and want to send him some money towards the help he gave me and let him know that I am taking resonsibility for my actions. What should I do? What should I write if anything? I know he is dating other women and probably moved on. Is there anything I can do to salvage this relationship and what can I do to get him back. I need help.I would appreciate it as I could not find anything in your book to target my sistuation and I don't want to mess this up as I have not done all the bad mistakes of calling or anything like that. I don't know how to reach out and don't want to make him run. What do I do?
Thank you for taking this time to hear and respond to story . All the best wishes.

Your first task, is to realize that you need to take care of yourself first.
1) Stay with no contact.
2) Do not send money
3) Did you graduate? If not do so.
4) Make sure you are stable financially, and emotionally
5) The most important thing is to balance your life, between work, school ,and a social life that you enjoy, and that makes you happy, so you have something positive to share with someone who deserves it. This also gives you an emotional support system for the hard, lonely rainy days, and opportunities, and options, as to activities. That makes for a well rounded healthy balanced life. (And you will feel great about yourself.)

Oh, as to the ex, if he doesn't come back on his own, with a better attitude, and willing to put you above his friends, trust me, he ain't worth it at all.

Trust me follow the plan, as I have laid out for you, and someone who is worth your time, will come along, and appreciate who you are.

Don't send him any money! That's for damn sure

He said he would look after you. Then when it came to doing it. He got cold feet and chickend out

Hey its what you do when you live with someone you take care of them.. both partners do.

Go No contact on this guy. He is dating another girl sod him.

Get your life in order first.
And look after yourself!

All the best