Well, I'm back and I need to vernt some steam.I'll keep it short

Me and my ex of 2.5 years broke up 8 months ago... she initiated it, I was hurt, worst pain ever, never thought id get better etc etc...

So the past month I've been extremely happy, new car, great in school, new girl(call her L)...

Now I told this girl to take things slow because I was still emotionally uneasy but I really liked her and saw us going places. She understood completely and agreed... I knew her for a while and we dated for 3 weeks until my ex(call her B) calls and says how she missed me/us and how her life isn't as happy as mine etc...

I told her to just try to be happy... 2 weeks later I find myself giving in to her BS, I told my new girl I wasn't ready for anything and I started to miss my ex and truly convinced myself that she misses me and I miss her... I ended up sleeping with her and we hung out went for dinner for about 2 weeks straight... but never once did she mention getting back together or anything, and when I asked her if we would she merely said that " im not ready to commit to anything" and "i dont need a boyfriend right now"

Last night I call girl L and we talk and I apologized and I told her it was unfair of me to do what I did. And this morning I walked my ex B to the train and told her make up your mind of we're done for good...

So I'm sitting here, back on these pages, feeling down about myself for the first time in a long time... having those same feelings I had during breakup

Sigh...

That was a vent? Sounded like a confession. You broke NO CONTACT and must get back to it. DUH!!

Ouch dude...

All right Let's keep it simple.

If girl "L" really likes you, give it a shot, we all have feelings for our ex's when they come back whining, don't let this mess something new and possibly better up.

"B" needs to bounce up out of your life and go torture someone else.

I think "B" is playing you...

"B" lured you back to get what she needed - Someone comfortable to pay attention to her. You are playing her games... she pulls the string, and you "give in to her BS".

You shouldn't be trying to make something happen with "L" until you are over "B".

I don't feel like I should just go back to NC, I want to tell B something... what should I say?

Awe, I really feel for L. she was willing to take things slow for you... I don't know if id have that kind of patience for a guy. Did she accept your apology?

B wanted to make sure she could get you if she tried... its like an ego boost, she doesn't want to get back with you though, she just wants to make sure she still has "it".

I'm sorry you got dragged through it..

Now to answer your question, you should tell B that you met someone that makes you happy and your turned off my her (B) indecisiveness and show her your upset that she was a setback in your life.

If B cared, she would let you live your life and not interfer with it...

Hope this helps

i dont feel like i should just go back to NC, i want to tell B something....what should i say?

After falling for her BS, and finding out she ain't going to be yours officially, the only thing you can say is " Can we still have sex". :eek:, but if she says NO! you will really feel bad.

No Contact, is your ticket to freedom, with no confusing drama.:cool: Did you ever think the only reason she contacted you was to make sure you didn't have any future with the new girl?

It is clear that your not over your ex because if you can drop the girl you was seeing on the drop of a dime, that proves it.

Now since things didn't play out as you thought it would you want this other girl back. Now you see those two weeks you spent with your ex wasn't worth it. A girl that you was happy with but had no problem dumping to be with your ex. Now you want her back but meanwhile she is kept in the dark about what really happen. How selfish! How would you have like it if this was done to you.

You allowed and open yourself to your ex bs and I can only wonder what would happen the next time.

Clear your head and be alone again for a while because now you see what you did wasn't worth it. But this new girl doesn't deserve to be your yo-yo. You would be a man if you come clean with this girl and then let her choose if she wants to be with you or not.