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MztAi
Dec 4, 2008, 03:38 PM
What causes vaginal driness? When I have sex my vagina is very dry, and I have keep applying lube during sex, is this normal? How can I correct this, I'm only 25? Is there was a way to make myself naturally wet?
Justwantfair
Dec 4, 2008, 03:41 PM
The only way to be naturally wet is to be enjoying sex.
If you are worried about being too dry than you aren't going to be very wet. Are you getting enough foreplay? Foreplay for women is a very necessary stimulation for women.
What kind of lubrication are you using? It shouldn't need to be reapplied to often.
TexasParent
Dec 4, 2008, 03:46 PM
Please go to a doctor, at your age their may be a simple underlying condition causing your vaginal dryness.
I don't discount the post from "Justwantfair" as they are valid points; but it is not usual for a woman of your age to be suffering from vaginal dryness if you are not suffering from some psychological sexual impairment due to your sexual history, upbringing or culture.
TexasParent
Dec 4, 2008, 04:43 PM
Well if you get very wet during solo-masturbation and not so wet during sex with a partner; it may very well be nerves. That will take some communication with your partner and some trust and comfort on your part; which if your partner is a good person, in time things will likely work things out on there own. So don't add to the anxiety by worrying about it, just go with the flow (pun intended), relax and have fun and you will be swimming in no time... ;)
kp2171
Dec 4, 2008, 10:34 PM
The "common crowd" answer to this is to shout at you "MORE FOREPLAY"...
Mkay. Sure. Yes. Proper sensitization is important. And by foreplay I don't mean his tongue in your mouth or on your breasts... I mean taking time to sensitize your body for sex. Most of the things I want to do, as a guy, aren't the things my lover needs to best reach orgasm. Its just the truth. Yes... I enjoy rubbing her body down slowly after a hot bath... but my skin on her skin allows her body and mind to relax and be in the moment. My mouth on hers without taking time might feel nice, but rushed.
So... is your lover spending the right kind of time on you, doing things YOU want and like?
There... the foreplay angle is addressed.
Beyond that, there are a number of things that can play into this.
Are you well hydrated? Drink a lot of water?
Are you mentally turned on by your mate? Have you been able to reach orgasm consistently with him? Others? With self stim?
Some women are too concerned with "personal hygeine" and actually promote dryness with too much cleaning. Douches, bubble baths, too much soap... all can lead to vaginal dryness. So are you soaking in the tub too much? Cleaning perhaps too much? Sometimes a about of something like a yeast infection, which is common, can make you be more vigilant about this. Any history of this?
Also, natural hormone levels can affect this, as well as libido. Any issues tied to desire for sex?
Point is that this issue isn't one answer fits all.
Yes... a woman who is distracted, uninterested, and not in the moment might not be properly lubricated.
Then again... a woman can be absolutely interested in hitting the big O and have problems with lubrication... it can vary with your cycle, with your state of mind, with your health, etc.
If it's a constant problem, please, please, please... talk to you medical provider. Ask specifically about checking out your hormone levels. If he or she isn't familiar with this, ask to be referred to a specialist.
There are cases where a woman just consistently needs more lubrication...
Knowledge is good. Please don't be afraid to talk to your med provider about any issue. Its your body and your right.
Choux
Dec 5, 2008, 05:36 PM
M,
Dryness in a youngish girl is most likely not being turned on enough to produce flowing juices.
I would say, as an experiment, when you intend to have sex, do not let your partner engage in any oral contact with his tongue or fingers or anything at all except with his penis.
Keep your genitals as your own and make him engage in sexual play with you breasts, armpits, groin, legs and arms, body, face... everything but your genitals and require him gaining skill in this area.
Make sure you have 15 minutes to 30 minutes of sex play before he inserts his penis. He has to learn how to move his penis... get rid of the guy if he just hammers you with it-he's a dud. You need a better lover, then, girl. Lots of young guys learn about sex from porn... couldn't be a worse teacher.
Are you taking any medications? Is alcohol involved before the sexual encounters, or other substances?