I was just dumped after 4 yrs, she's 39 I'm 47. In this last yr she's dump me 4 times, this is the last. I haven't talk to her in a month, but what is odd is girls always look at me, hell so do guys. But she has always had a problem with it. I never look back or give them a reason to stare but they do. She says she can't live like this and the past 6 months I don't get invited anywhere with her, she can't relax because someone might stare, at partys she would even go talk to girls just so they don't talk to me, instead of being with me. So this last dump she got mad and said I was to insucure and tired of my crap. Lol. I was going to a tanning place with her kids, and she didn't understand why, lol. So is she blamming me for her own insucurity?

Yes she's the jealous type (good luck curbing that!)
And you're a bit vein (she's probably jealous of you too!)

Therefore you're both insecure!
Maybe bring that up, in the next conversation you have with her

No I'm not vain, I didn't mean to come across that way. When I say people stare we both had discussed this, we don't know why, it wasn't that everyone wanted me. We couldn't figure the reason. How am I insucure? I never got mad.

Really this jealousy issue is a whole different definition to being angry

You say others look at you. You both wouldn't notice or even care to notice, if you both felt strongly enough for each other.

Here's your decision, do you want to live with that forever?
Or do you want someone, who couldn't care who looks at what!

It's a big decision. Many people stick it out. But it will take both of you to deal with and forgive each other i.e. She can't help it, but you can!

I don't walk with my head down and I do notice people, or she will say do you know that person that's staring. It doesn't bother me one bit, I say hi and go on my way, she how ever makes a joke out of it and then gets mad. No I don't want to live that way, I'm out of there. I'm no longer with her. I tried working it out with her, there is no working anything out with her. Its either her way or hit the road. For 4 yrs I did it her way because I wanted it to work and didn't want to be a quiter, but after being dump again I'm hitting the road again. I'm tired of living with 2 sets of rules, mine and hers. And as far as you, I want to thank you, you made me open up a little and reading what I wrote just makes me stronger in not going back.

He's back! :cool:

And this time he's looking for enjoyment and not pain :mad:

Not her fault. You just want to have fun now, with someone who's a few percent more happy :)

You are vanity in bodily form... maybe you are unconciously or consciously attracting the attention to yourself... you are staring too... lol... everyone has different types... so something is wrong when EVERYONE

Is attracted to you... lol

She may be nervous of who you may pick up... lol

Pretty Boy!

Lol, no its not like that. Take guys for instance, they would look at me like they wanted to kick my , or just like they think I think I'm all that. And trust me I'm not. I do get approched by gays, lol. But I don't stare I just notice or she would, witch she always looked to see if people were looking. She would always tell me it's a good thing I'm pretty or she would have dump me, well she did, lol. Maybe I look like someone these people know, lol. But I've been gone for a month with no contact, well 2 weeks ago she wrote and ask, "how you doing" usually I would go chaseing her, but I said "thank you for asking, im doing good" she replied, "glad to hear it........" whatever that means. Maybe she wants me to chase her? No thank you. Lol.

She has her own problems, so enjoy the peace, and quiet, and the no drama.

http://i.pbase.com/o4/14/684914/1/63850662.k8HwxXL0.zzz.gif Not that much peace, and quiet :D