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brokenhearted1515
Dec 2, 2008, 01:19 PM
Hes a friend of a friend, over the last 2 years I have seen him 3 or 4 times. I hadn't seen him about a year and he added me to Facebook, sent him a message and it took him a while to get back to me. And in his reply no questions or anything just statements, he didn't give me ever much to go with, so I never replied. The next weekend we were all out for our friends birthday and ended up all getting a hotel room. Throughout the night we would just stare at each other and smile. I am not a shy person at all, I am off the wall, until you put him in the room and I am so shy. I don't get it, I have never been like this with anyone else. He is also very shy and reserved, but by nature, not cause of me. We ended up sleeping in same bed, nothing happened of course because he is a gentleman, and I am not that type of girl. The next morning I woke up early and got coffees for everyone. He said I was "pretty amazing". Everything went great, I do regret not talking to him more though. I can't help the shyness around him. So anyway I sent him a message after the weekend. He relpied next day... with a question at the end, to better help me reply :) I messaged back and ended with what are you up to this weekend. Then he didn't message till days later, I know he's on Facebook, and I think he has me on limited. I haven't replied yet... I don't know why. I think he's interested and then I don't. What should I do? Don't say be patient... I don't know what that word means... lol. Is he interested? What do I do?

MsMewiththat
Dec 2, 2008, 01:23 PM
From your title I'm confused... are you trying to attract him or attack him... LOL
I would say that as hard as it is you will have to ask. Ask him out, ask him to come over, ask him straight out if he is interested or if you are just picking up the wrong vibes, but just ask him something. Initiate the conversation, nothing to loose really, right? If he is shy than he may need someone to be forward and the aggressor... doesn't that sound like fun?

brokenhearted1515
Dec 2, 2008, 01:30 PM
I just don't want to get rejected that's all, and I kind of did ask him about plans for the weekend and he replied days later on Saturday and he said he was snowboarding and that he hoped I was having a good weekend. I have not replied... he gave me nothing to work with I figure if he wanted me to respond he would have asked a question or something, and if he wanted to do something with me I gave him the oppurtunity and he didn't take it. :S

MsMewiththat
Dec 2, 2008, 01:57 PM
True, so the balls in his court? ARe you satisfied with that or would you like to know one way or another? True rejection can be really difficult, but if you go into it with the spirit of "you can't be everything to everybody" you will be okay. Maybe he's not shy and he's in a relationship. Maybe he doesn't have the self confidence he needs to have. Maybe he thinks your too good for him, or not good enough, maybe, maybe maybe... see where I am going? IF you are anything like me it's on your mind. So bite it and ask him? "What's up, I see you staring at me and I'm just wondering? What's up with you?" Right?