I am a 19 year old male, and I had a previous experience with not being able to obtain an erection while getting oral, and it has really done its part on my head. I don't know what to think anymore. I get erections easily on my own, and when I am with my girlfriend (i.e. just cuddling will give me a hard on). However, it seems that if there is no stimulation for a few seconds after I start to get my erection, it will not get completely rigid, and then go away. But regardless of how hard I am, it seems that any touching, cuddling or kissing, when I am around my girlfriend causes semen to come out, or some kind of pre-ejaculate, or something, but I don't orgasm in doing so either. In any case, I feel that something is wrong with me and am afraid to do anything really sexual for fear of the embarrassing situation of not being able to get an erection that is hard enough and keep it when the time come to use it. I don't know what to do, it is really giving me a lot of anxiety and depression issues, and I don't know what to do about it. I was told to relax, and I try, but it is hard and I can't quite seem to just forget about it. In any case, it has also been affecting my sex drive because I think the fear overcomes the desire, because before all this I was so horny, I got my testosterone tested and it came back as on the top end of the healthy range for my age, I am an active athlete and exercise regularly. I don't know what to do and it is affecting my relationship with my girlfriend who thinks that I am not sexually attracted to her, I love her very much and don't want to ruin this. How do I become normal and just be able to forget about my fears and enjoy myself like everyone else my age?:confused:
Sorry for the long post, I gave as much information as I thought was needed. Please help me

Best to talk to a doctor. My best advice is not to think about it and just let it happen. The more you worry the more you will think about it and the less likely it is to happen.

If nothing is medically wrong, then my guess is that it is in your head. And our minds are so powerful that they can heal or just about cripple. (example claustrophobia) you are at the age where you are trying things that are new to you. You are finding out what you like and don't like. You may be uncomfortale doing this kind of thing in the bright daylight, or you are worried someone will walk in on you or whatever. I suggest that you relax more and it must be SO HARD to relax when someone is telling you to relax! I hate to imply this with you being only 19, but if you could just have a couple of drinks to relax, it may help. Now drinking MORE will only inhibit sexual performance. Be careful. You sound like someone with common sense... just use it.