I used to tell my friends different ways to get over their ex gfs, but when I am in their shoes, I just can't deal with it. I had a historic break-up in April-08 and even after seven months I can't get over my ex. I tried everything I used to tell my friends (once), but no luck. Since then I dated few girls, I traveled in states, I occupied myself with different projects, I even went on an Europe trip to change my mind, but I just can't forget my ex girlfiend. Everywhere I go, I see her. I go on these long drives and don't even realize how far have I driven, I take these walks in downtown and don't even realize that I am walking in circles, I go to the lake and keep staring at water for hours and hours.

It definitely has nothing to do with the fact that she has moved on. I think It doesn't even bother me, in fact I am happy for her; at least one of us is moving on with their life. But, I am concern about my life, I think like I may not ever fall in love again. This thought is not good; no matter how sulky thought it is, its not good for my future. I need to get over this and move on. How would you guys deal with the situation like this?

Note: I haven't spoken to her since last 7 months. And although I think about her, getting back together is out of question because she has moved on and dating someone. I don't know if she is happy or not, but she is with somebody else, that's for sure

Few questions. Do you still talk to her? And do you still think about being with her again?

Oh boy were in the same situation...
My advice to you is stop yourself from thinking about it, nights, long walks, any time your alone is the perfect opportunity for those thoughts to crawl inside your head, occupy yourself with friends, date other people, of course its hard but you're the only one who possesses the power to change yourself. She's obviously moved on.. that doesn't mean she didn't care for you but it only means she's continuing her life because there is lots ahead of it. So live your life and be open to new feelings and new people

This happened to my brother- it took almost a year to get over his ex but it didn't help that all his friends were in relationships or married so whenever he went out with people it was a constant reminder that he's single. "table for 5?" you know, things along those lines. My advice, make some new friends, don't cut out the old ones but make some new friends from work or wherever and go out and do things that you don't usually do. Take a break from the things you would normally do. My brother started going out with the guys from work once a week or so and eventually he seemed a LOT happier. He still hung out with his other friends but just not as much as he used to. And now that he's happier he hangs out with all of them about the same.