melissajean0
Nov 30, 2008, 01:05 PM
I travelled to the UK in March w/ every intention of moving there to be with my boyfriend. We met on xbox live about 2 years ago now. We'd never been w/ each other in person. I know it sounds stupid to a lot of you, but please put those opinions aside. After months of not knowing what to do, I still do not know what to do. I still have no answers. Basically this is what happened. When I go to Heathrow immigration and they asked how long I wanted to stay, I was confused. Yes, I know, I didn't do the proper research. But I can't really do much about that now. Anyway, I asked how long I could stay and she said I needed to know how long I was going to stay. Since I didn't plan on coming back I had no return ticket about $2000 and that's it. Yes, I realize, it was a mistake. However, I did not lie, I told the honest truth. I told the interviewer everything. She went to the Chief IO and came back and said I was denied. In March he was on incapacity benefits, but was able to work the next month. In fact, about 15 days later. I think they thought I was going to try to work illegally but that wasn't the case. I honest to goodness thought that I had to go there, interview for a job, then apply for a visa. I didn't know I had to have the visa first. I wasn't going to try to work illegally. When the IO asked me about work I told her that he and I were going to try to go see about a work visa within the next few weeks. Because he didn't want me to have to work when I first got there, he wanted me to see the sights first. After 22 hours in detention I was sent back to the US. I know I was naïve in thinking it was that simple. I ask questions in forums and they keep sayign what I did wrong, but no one is really offering me any advice on what I should do. He got into some trouble about 14 years ago when he was 20, nothing major, but nevertheless it's on his record. We've talked about him coming here, ONLY for a visit. We DON'T want to mess things up worse for ourselves. I cry, every single day. I don't know what to do. Who to talk to. I really just feel like no one is willing to listen to us. We had only good intentions. It makes me so angry to know that people come in and out of the US and the UK illegally, and they stay here and I'm paying their taxes. I am a good person, and I try to make myself happy and it doesn't matter to anyone. I feel like people that want to move to other countries with good intentions are getting screwed over by all of the idiots that made their way through and messed it up for people like me. I'm a person, and the worst part is, my family immigrated from Sweden, Wales, Ireland to the US. Why shouldn't I be able to travel freely? I just don't understand. Should I apply for a visa? Should he come here? What do we do? I know we haven't met in person and I know it's very skeptical for a lot of people. But we are people, and we have hearts, and we hurt, and we only want to be together. I just wanted to give a little background on our situation. I know a lot of you will have not so good opinions on the way things happened, but we still need answers. And I promise you, from the bottom of my heart, I will be eternally grateful for any help anyone can give us on what to do.