View Full Version : I am hopeless, I just can't get a boyfriend , I can't even flirt
bitofanoddbod
Nov 30, 2008, 07:35 AM
Well I haven't been with someone for ages and it's really depressing while all my friends are seeing someone new every month and have many lads vertualy chasing after them !
I feel horrible . I don't think there's anything wrong with me, but I'm starting to wonder.
I am pretty clever. I am quite sporty , don't know about funny . Maybe a bit diiferent to most people, but I know one thing and that is I just can't flirt.
I just can't even when I'm around people I like , it just doent happen naturally and I can't force it
I get told by other girls in my year that I'm the prettiest out of all my frinds , I don't know to believe them ,half of them can't understand why so many lads like my mates (which is quite a horrible thing to say ) but then this makes me think that I've got a horrible personality.
But I'm not horrible, and I don't even think I'm boring , I've got plenty of mates ,[B] but seriously what's up with me? Help me flirt? Or just tell me what I can work on?
J_9
Nov 30, 2008, 07:47 AM
How old are you?
bitofanoddbod
Nov 30, 2008, 07:49 AM
I'm fifthteen . 15
J_9
Nov 30, 2008, 07:55 AM
i'm fifthteen . 15
Oh, well, girl!! You have a lifetime ahead of you to have boyfriends!! You should be proud of yourself that you don't look like the easy girl in school, or the neighborhood tramp!!
Why do you think you need a boyfriend?
Hey, I have a 15 year old daughter, we discuss this all the time as she is the only one of her friends without a BF.
Chicky, you don't need a boy to define who you are. The last thing you want right now is to go from boy to boy. Eventually the right one will come along, but there is no need to worry about it now.
THEpurplepeanut
Nov 30, 2008, 08:37 AM
Just be yourself. You don't have to flirt to get a boyfriend, and just because the boys at your school aren't chasing you asking for a date doesn't make you a bad or ugly person. There are plenty of fish out in the sea. Plus if you do get a new boyfriend every month it just makes you look bad. So don't worry there's nothing wrong with you, it's the boys! Trust me I know this for a fact because my older brother is 15, teenage boys are immature, like a lot! So good luck :)
barbiechick123
Dec 1, 2008, 06:05 PM
Yeah. I agree with the above, you are still so young and you truly don't need a guy to define you. Plus, as you get older, guys will want the girl that didn't have 34324 boyfriends through high school... Just be yourself and talk to guys like their your friends, soon enough one of them will like you. Seriously, usually relationships that started with friends first do last longer.
NallaNeedsYou
Dec 2, 2008, 09:00 AM
I have to add that not all teenagers are immature. But when they are (which is 99.99% of the time) you don't need to worry about it one but. You should be pleased that you arnt just some other girl being a slave to obsesive and ignorant boys. Theses guys will screw you over and leave you for someone else almost certinaly. If a guy LOVES you, it is unlikely to be a cool person and more importantly a 'fit' person. It depends what you want from your relationship. If you want a guy you can trust, a guy who is going to stick by you, someone who is going to shield you from the stupidity and immaturity of the 'cool' guys then in my opinion you shouldn't settle for anything less. Flirting isn't an issue unless you make it one. If you find a sensitive and supportive guy that can see that your beautiful and smart then it just happens. You can't make yourself flirt but if you just want some attention be blunt, be in yourface, show off your body to there extreme and then you will get the attention you desire. I am the opposite, I am a guy looking for a girl who is understanding, mature, caring and sensitive to be the guy that she wants me to be. Im 14 and I offer more relationship wise as the idiots that go around beeting up little kids and smoking crack but no matter how mature and sensible I am the people our age arnt ready for it. I tear myself up about it but there is nothing I can do but wait and try to find people who are like myself. I hope this helps. Be happy with yourself! Show the guys your not just another person they can mess around and prove to yourself that you can do better than a messed up guy looking for sex.
roxy8120
Dec 11, 2008, 01:44 PM
They might be shy around because your shy around them and they don't know how to talk to you just talk to them like a friend and see how they act around u