My I have a question, please?

I do have a friend. I like to speak to her. She sounds sensitive, and is way past the age of making jokes.

She tells me that she can see deceased persons, often at their funeral, standing there among the mourners, and even speaks to them.

She told me that she can see and speak to her own deceased mother, (deceased decades ago), hugging her, kissing her, and also to her deceased husband, and not in her dreams !

As I said, I like her bubbly personality, she cheers me up when I feel down, which is often since I lost my own, very much loved and missed mom.

But, I still find it difficult to accept her experience. Not to mention, how much I, too, would love to see my own mom, even just for a second !

Could she be right, or is that all just a wistful imagination on her part ?

Thank you very much for any sincere answer. Wishing you all the best, too !

Well it is hard to believe something like that no doubt. See she has like a 6th sense, I do too but I don't actually "see" them, I get visions and messages... I tend to believe if I can get those then there must be people out there who can see them with their very own eyes. We are only separated by energy? (Well that's what I think anyhow) Does your friend give you messages from your mom? How do they make you "feel" and how does it "touch" your heart?

Well it is hard to believe something like that no doubt. See she has like a 6th sense, I do too but I don't actually "see" them, I get visions and messages...I tend to believe if I can get those then there must be people out there who can see them with their very own eyes. We are only separated by energy? (Well thats what I think anyhow) Does your friend give you messages from your mom? How do they make you "feel" and how does it "touch" your heart?

Thank you very much for answering ! I do appreciate it very much !

Yes, she told me about my mother, three times.

1. See her on a woody, mountanous area. Just see her walking on a road, smiling.

2. See her in a hospital-like room. She told me my mom is still recovering in a hospital like state, where souls are recovering after passing over, and she was more ill than I thought she was.

3. Recently, she told me that my mom is happy that I am accepted her passing.

And once she said, my mom had a message, telling about some personal issues.

My feelings:

For the first one, she gave a close enough description of how she looked. (medium built, medium weight, brown hair tied together) But, the first thing that came to my mind, hearing it, that somehow it was not so personal. She hardly ever went out without covering her hair, and she did not wear it tied together all the time.

For the second one I did not know what to think, but was happy to speak about her, I always am.

For the third time, I do not agree. I still miss her very much, I do not feel the pain lessened.

For the message, most of it was inappropriate, totally different from my mom's character, but she said, that people change in life, change also when crossed over.

Other than these, there are no personal message from her.

Thank you, again, and please, if it is possible, could you tell me your opinion? Wishing you, too, all the best. Kind regards: Liasdaughter

Well I think everyone sees spirits differently but if you do not feel a connection then chances are there isn't a connection and your friend could be trying to assist you in feeling better about it. Maybe she is being totally honest with you and is receiving the messages incorrectly. I find when talking about the deceased that it is a sensitive subject to the family member and to use extra care and ensure only correct information is passed as this could frustrate both the deceased and the living.

1. I suppose anyone can take an educated guess about what she might look like but they may change their appearance and be younger or older. They may also be accompanied be a companion as well. To see her on a woody/mountain terrain area evidencing abundant and lush greenery/forestry to me says that she is prospering, growing, full of life, neutered (in the womb of mother earth) and the word "fertility" and "youth" is coming to me... not sure why? Also for her to walk down a road signifies to me life - twists, turns, uphill, downhill, straight, clear conditions, bad conditions, road conditions, flowers by the road... it all means something about life and our path in life... not so much the path after life. It could resemble difficulties or successes or a difficult decision to make in a splitting road. To me it sounds like advice is being given in the vision. Are you expecting success? Or have you a really difficult personal decision to make?

2. When you say that your friend had a vision that your mother was in a hospital... it made a lot of sense for me. It is recovery and care. You are tremendously affected by your mothers passing and have had a very hard time accepting and moving on... you have only grieved some but she is telling you to heal. If she was ill then you will probably hear some unpleasant news about her and she may be telling you not to believe it. All in all, I don't agree with her assessment of spirits recovering after crossing over... they enter a better place death is by no means painful but peaceful... I suppose the circumstance of death would be arguable but if someone accepts their death then they truly live.

3. If you haven't accepted her passing then obviously this is not true... maybe she should have said "your mother is in a better place, be happy for her, celebrate her life and cherish her memories".

Is there anything in your life that could relate to what I said? If not then you have your answer. I believe that you may also be upset that she is receiving the message and you are not. I can promise you that you have seen her in many dreams (sometimes we forget them the next morning) pay close attention to the details surrounding it as well. She is always with you. I hope that helps and I am very sorry for your loss, warmest blessings this season.

Xox

I beliee when we lose someone we love and are very close to, we can believe we see and hear many things.

Well I think everyone sees spirits differently but if you do not feel a connection then chances are there isn't a connection and your friend could be trying to assist you in feeling better about it. Maybe she is being totally honest with you and is receiving the messages incorrectly. I find when talking about the deceased that it is a sensitive subject to the family member and to use extra care and ensure only correct information is passed as this could frustrate both the deceased and the living.

1. I suppose anyone can take an educated guess about what she might look like but they may change their appearance and be younger or older. They may also be accompanied be a companion as well. To see her on a woody/mountain terrain area evidencing abundant and lush greenery/forestry to me says that she is prospering, growing, full of life, neutered (in the womb of mother earth) and the word "fertility" and "youth" is coming to me...not sure why? Also for her to walk down a road signifies to me life - twists, turns, uphill, downhill, straight, clear conditions, bad conditions, road conditions, flowers by the road...it all means something about life and our path in life...not so much the path after life. It could resemble difficulties or successes or a difficult decision to make in a splitting road. To me it sounds like advice is being given in the vision. Are you expecting success? Or have you a really difficult personal decision to make?

2. When you say that your friend had a vision that your mother was in a hospital...it made a lot of sense for me. It is recovery and care. You are tremendously affected by your mothers passing and have had a very hard time accepting and moving on...you have only grieved some but she is telling you to heal. If she was ill then you will probably hear some unpleasant news about her and she may be telling you not to believe it. All in all, I don't agree with her assessment of spirits recovering after crossing over...they enter a better place death is by no means painful but peaceful...I suppose the circumstance of death would be arguable but if someone accepts their death then they truly live.

3. If you haven't accepted her passing then obviously this is not true...maybe she should have said "your mother is in a better place, be happy for her, celebrate her life and cherish her memories".

Is there anything in your life that could relate to what I said? If not then you have your answer. I believe that you may also be upset that she is receiving the message and you are not. I can promise you that you have seen her in many dreams (sometimes we forget them the next morning) pay close attention to the details surrounding it as well. She is always with you. I hope that helps and I am very sorry for your loss, warmest blessings this season.

xox

Comforting words, coming from a sincere heart. Thank you very much !

May I have just one more question, please?

"She is always with you." May I ask you, please, what do you mean by this, her memory, her love, or her soul ?

Well though she is no longer here in her body; her energy is. When we die, our souls go back to where we came from... she is with you, her spirit is with you. She may not be with you every minute but she is with you every step of the way. If you need her, talk to her... she can hear you and maybe in some stubble way, she will send you messages... sweet and so small but you will know and your heart will smile.

Well though she is no longer here in her body; her energy is. When we die, our souls go back to where we came from...she is with you, her spirit is with you. She may not be with you every minute but she is with you every step of the way. If you need her, talk to her...she can hear you and maybe in some stubble way, she will send you messages...sweet and so small but you will know and your heart will smile.


May the Lord bless you for this ! I want to believe you, and I am finally able to, because what you said feels right. It feels like a message from God and my mom. I will cling to that when life presents its difficulties, and I will think of that if good things happen. I am will no longer feel abandoned and forsaken from both God and my mom.

I will try to think of my mom's passing's as it might really have been unavoidable. It maybe really was her time to go, and not just as failing on my part. I used to think that my desperate praying and pleading were ignored, because I was not worthy enough to be heard. If she still, - in some way, - is with me, and not suffering as much as her body did, I might be able to deal with that.

Thank you for giving that to me !

I will show your message to three other persons: one, who still could not cope with losing her son (many years ago), another who recently lost both her mother and husband. We often cry together. And maybe to one who lost and miss also her mother, too sophisticated to tell, but I feel he also in pain. I hope your message will help them, too !

I will also frame your message,and put it near my mom's picture to see it, even though I closed your words in my heart.

Wishing you, and all your loved ones, too, a blessed seasons, and a wonderful New Year.

GOD BLESS YOU, MY FRIEND ! YOU HAVE HELPED ME TO FIND MY COURAGE TO CARRY ON !

I beliee when we lose someone we love and are very close to, we can beleive we see and hear many things.

I thank you, too, Sir ! And wish you and yours, too, a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year !

May the Lord bless you for this ! I want to believe you, and I am finally able to, because what you said feels right. It feels like a message from God and my mom. I will cling to that when life presents its difficulties, and I will think of that if good things happen. I am will no longer feel abandoned and forsaken from both God and my mom.

I will try to think of my mom's passing's as it might really have been unavoidable. It maybe really was her time to go, and not just as failing on my part. I used to think that my desparate praying and pleading were ignored, because I was not worthy enough to be heard. If she still, - in some way, - is with me, and not suffering as much as her body did, I might be able to deal with that.

Thank you for giving that to me !

I will show your message to three other persons: one, who stil could not cope with losing her son (many years ago), another who recently lost both her mother and husband. We often cry together. And maybe to one who lost and miss also her mother, too sophisticated to tell, but I feel he also in pain. I hope your message will help them, too !

I will also frame your message,and put it near my mom's picture to see it, even though I closed your words in my heart.

Wishing you, and all your loved ones, too, a blessed seasons, and a wonderful New Year.

GOD BLESS YOU, MY FRIEND ! YOU HAVE HELPED ME TO FIND MY COURAGE TO CARRY ON !

God and your mother will NEVER desert you, you can count on that. Your mother passed away because it was her time, it was her life purpose and truly unavoidable (I think everything happens for a reason, even the bad and ugly things to really nice people) it’s your ability to recognize, flourish and have hope/faith in the future and in God. I can only imagine how proud she is of you, your growing faith, unconditional love and strength. Please do not feel accountable or responsible in any manner for her passing, as it is a higher power at work and you will not be forgotten, allow yourself to be taken care of once in a while and trust in that. You have not failed anyone, unless you have been unfair to yourself…be kind to yourself and take care of yourself. Your prayers are never ignored and will be answered; just remember to be patient, I find that God works in time. I am always available to talk if you have any concerns and I can’t even begin to tell you in words how touched I am by you and your story. I am thankful to have met you and you have by far given me more then you could possibly imagine.

Thank you for the wishes and again, from my family to yours and your friends, have a wonderful Christmas and Happy New Year.

god and your mother will never desert you, you can count on that. Your mother passed away because it was her time, it was her life purpose and truly unavoidable (i think everything happens for a reason, even the bad and ugly things to really nice people) it’s your ability to recognize, flourish and have hope/faith in the future and in god. I can only imagine how proud she is of you, your growing faith, unconditional love and strength. Please do not feel accountable or responsible in any manner for her passing, as it is a higher power at work and you will not be forgotten, allow yourself to be taken care of once in a while and trust in that. You have not failed anyone, unless you have been unfair to yourself…be kind to yourself and take care of yourself. Your prayers are never ignored and will be answered; just remember to be patient, i find that god works in time. I am always available to talk if you have any concerns and i can’t even begin to tell you in words how touched i am by you and your story. I am thankful to have met you and you have by far given me more then you could possibly imagine.

Thank you for the wishes and again, from my family to yours and your friends, have a wonderful christmas and happy new year.

Thank you very much ! And thank god for persons like you!!

God and your mother will NEVER desert you, you can count on that. Your mother passed away because it was her time, it was her life purpose and truly unavoidable (I think everything happens for a reason, even the bad and ugly things to really nice people) it’s your ability to recognize, flourish and have hope/faith in the future and in God. I can only imagine how proud she is of you, your growing faith, unconditional love and strength. Please do not feel accountable or responsible in any manner for her passing, as it is a higher power at work and you will not be forgotten, allow yourself to be taken care of once in a while and trust in that. You have not failed anyone, unless you have been unfair to yourself…be kind to yourself and take care of yourself. Your prayers are never ignored and will be answered; just remember to be patient, I find that God works in time. I am always available to talk if you have any concerns and I can’t even begin to tell you in words how touched I am by you and your story. I am thankful to have met you and you have by far given me more then you could possibly imagine.
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Thank you for the wishes and again, from my family to yours and your friends, have a wonderful Christmas and Happy New Year.

Thank you very much, again. I re-read your answers time to time, drowing hope and strength from them. Thank you for that, too.

May I have a somewhat related question, please ?

What is your thoughts or feelings about reincarnation, please?

May I wish you and yours, too, a Blessed Christmas and a Happy, Healthy, and Prosperous New Year !

Liasdaughter

Thank you very much, again. I re-read your answers time to time, drowing hope and strength from them. Thank you for that, too.

May I have a somewhat related question, please ?

What is your thoughts or feelings about reincarnation, please?

May I wish you and yours, too, a Blessed Christmas and a Happy, Healthy, and Prosperous New Year !

Liasdaughter

Well everyone believes in something different when it comes to reincarnation. I think if we don't get things right the first time around... we come back until we do learn our life purpose or rather the true meaning of life. This is why a lot of people have dreams, flashbacks and past lives. I too have been told that I am an "old" soul. Or, when you meet someone and feel this major connection... they could have been linked to you in your past life. I have a male friend for 13 years and we tried dating when we first met but it felt wrong... we maintained friendship instead, we still talk for hours and hours on the phone... I feel he was a sibling of mine in my past life.

As it goes for the dreams I was a Lieutenant in World War 2 (even the dress, time, place was consistent with WW2), a team of five men and myself where sent out on a mission but ended up hitting a minefield and two survived... I remember telling my men to go back to abort the mission... I was screaming for my men but was not afraid. One of my men tried to warn me but I stepped on a mine... I had lifted my foot knowing my death was to happen "Lieutenant ______!" I try to make note of my name but forget EVERY time. My sister had a dream about it and looked into it and sure enough found a story consistent with mine... I do forget the name now... not sure why I can never remember... they are re-occurring dreams (I have this dream in certain times in my life).

Reincarnation - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reincarnation)
Carol Bowman - Past Life Center (http://www.childpastlives.org/)

I have given you 2 web sites for better explanation but what is leading you to ask this question? Have you had dreams? I have some helpful suggestions for remembering past lives if you are interested... not to say it is easy... I find it difficult, its like pieces of a porcine vase and you have to journal it.

Well everyone believes in something different when it comes to reincarnation. I think if we don't get things right the first time around...we come back until we do learn our life purpose or rather the true meaning of life. This is why a lot of people have dreams, flashbacks and past lives. I too have been told that I am an "old" soul. Or, when you meet someone and feel this major connection...they could have been linked to you in your past life. I have a male friend for 13 years and we tried dating when we first met but it felt wrong...we maintained friendship instead, we still talk for hours and hours on the phone...I feel he was a sibling of mine in my past life.

As it goes for the dreams I was a Lieutenant in World War 2 (even the dress, time, place was consistent with WW2), a team of five men and myself where sent out on a mission but ended up hitting a minefield and two survived...I remember telling my men to go back to abort the mission...I was screaming for my men but was not afraid. One of my men tried to warn me but I stepped on a mine...I had lifted my foot knowing my death was to happen "Lieutenant ______!" I try to make note of my name but forget EVERY time. My sister had a dream about it and looked into it and sure enough found a story consistent with mine...I do forget the name now...not sure why I can never remember...they are re-occurring dreams (I have this dream in certain times in my life).

Reincarnation - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reincarnation)
Carol Bowman - Past Life Center (http://www.childpastlives.org/)

I have given you 2 web sites for better explanation but what is leading you to ask this question? Have you had dreams? I have some helpful suggestions for remembering past lives if you are interested...not to say it is easy...I find it difficult, its like pieces of a porcine vase and you have to journal it.


Thank you very much for answering so quickly, and also for the 2 websites. I will look them up, but before I do, I would like to tell you what I do believe.

I have never had a problem believing we had a soul; now, I do believe that even more. I liken people to a batch of clay prepared for pottery. Products, made from the same batch, fired for the same time, in the same kiln; will have different sizes and shapes, but, they all will have the same properties.

We, humans, are also made up from the very same atoms, molecules, substances. We have different shapes and sizes, so, it would be logical to think, we have the same properties. But, we don't. All and every each one of us are different emotianally. That difference could not be explained by our body, as they are exactly the same make-up. So, it must be a SOUL that makes us different !

So, if the soul, that makes us different, is such a powerful thing, that could change the world, could destroy nations, or build up nations, could even, - up to a point, - could control nature, then why would it be housed in such a weak, easily decaying material as the body? It is like putting a precious diamond onto a can's ringpull ring.

It just doesn't make sense to me.

Somehow, I hoped that the soul, this powerful essence of life, would not die with our much less worthy bodies, and might could be "recycled".

I am thinking about that for a long time, more so since I lost my beloved mom, just I did not have an opportunity to ask someone, I trust enough to ask, before. Now, I have ! What you say is, somehow, sounds right, believeable. Thank you, April !

Myself, personally, I do not have any déjà vu, dreams, or feelings, hints, or signs, showing in any way, that I have ever existed before. Only, my mind is working on its own questions.

Thank you, again, April ! All the best, you, too!

April said this so well... she is wise beyond her years... listen to her.
Many blessings!

Thank you very much for answering so quickly, and also for the 2 websites. I will look them up, but before I do, I would like to tell you what I do believe.

I have never had a problem believing we had a soul; now, I do believe that even more. I liken people to a batch of clay prepared for pottery. Products, made from the same batch, fired for the same time, in the same kiln; will have different sizes and shapes, but, they all will have the same properties.

We, humans, are also made up from the very same atoms, molecules, substances. We have different shapes and sizes, so, it would be logical to think, we have the same properties. But, we don't. All and every each one of us are different emotianally. That difference could not be explained by our body, as they are exactly the same make-up. So, it must be a SOUL that makes us different !

So, if the soul, that makes us different, is such a powerful thing, that could change the world, could destroy nations, or build up nations, could even, - up to a point, - could controll nature, then why would it be housed in such a weak, easily decaying material as the body? It is like putting a precious diamond onto a can's ringpull ring.

It just doesn't make sense to me.

Somehow, I hoped that the soul, this powerful essence of life, would not die with our much less worthy bodies, and might could be "recycled".

I am thinking about that for a long time, more so since I lost my beloved mom, just I did not have an opportunity to ask someone, I trust enough to ask, before. Now, I have ! What you say is, somehow, sounds right, believeable. Thank you, April !

Myself, personally, I do not have any deja vu, dreams, or feelings, hints, or signs, showing in any way, that I have ever existed before. Only, my mind is working on its own questions.

Thank you, again, April ! All the best, you, too!

I agree, I am not sure we are different emotionally par say but maybe different in spirituallity. Emotionally, life experiences will change the course of our decisions in life but we all do feel the same to an extent since we potentially have the same driven human emotions. What we each believe... what separates us from each other but brings us closer to our inner being (core (soul)) and to the Divine Force... to God. We all derive from the same place too from the God/Universe if you will. Our bodies do pose a obstacle for us; just a container for our energy so I completely agree with you on that point but until we realize our potential I think that that is just the point... our bodies are much less capable then our minds... if we can get past all the illusions in life. It is amazing to think that we could manipulate nature, as nature is energy and so are we; why couldn't this be a possibility? This is why I am so sensitive to people... energy, I can like them or dislike them immediately. It is what you project that you will attract... the law of attraction, so ensure you are doing everything true for you and place yourself in the trust of God/Universe... let that be the source of worrying for you. Know you are taken care of. Soul is what makes us unique as no one is like anyone out there... having said that... know you are loved because you are special. I am Catholic by the way... just a refined one :).

God bless, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

I agree, I am not sure we are different emotionally par say but maybe different in spirituallity. Emotionally, life experiences will change the course of our decisions in life but we all do feel the same to an extent since we potentially have the same driven human emotions. What we each believe...what separates us from each other but brings us closer to our inner being (core (soul)) and to the Divine Force...to God. We all derive from the same place too from the God/Universe if you will. Our bodies do pose a obstacle for us; just a container for our energy so I completely agree with you on that point but until we realize our potential I think that that is just the point...our bodies are much less capable then our minds...if we can get past all the illusions in life. It is amazing to think that we could manipulate nature, as nature is energy and so are we; why couldn't this be a possibility? This is why I am so sensitive to people...energy, I can like them or dislike them immediately. It is what you project that you will attract...the law of attraction, so ensure you are doing everything true for you and place yourself in the trust of God/Universe...let that be the source of worrying for you. Know you are taken care of. Soul is what makes us unique as no one is like anyone out there...having said that...know you are loved because you are special. I am Catholic by the way...just a refined one :).

God bless, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

Artlady is definitely right ! So wise while so young, you really must be an "old soul". Thank you very much. What you say is the closest to what I feel. I am Catholic, too. Not refined, but enhanced by my feelings.

God bless, you and yours, too ! Thank you very much, that conversation lift my mood and made me feel somehow better. Thank you for this present!

Well everyone believes in something different when it comes to reincarnation. I think if we don't get things right the first time around...we come back until we do learn our life purpose or rather the true meaning of life. This is why a lot of people have dreams, flashbacks and past lives. I too have been told that I am an "old" soul. Or, when you meet someone and feel this major connection...they could have been linked to you in your past life. I have a male friend for 13 years and we tried dating when we first met but it felt wrong...we maintained friendship instead, we still talk for hours and hours on the phone...I feel he was a sibling of mine in my past life.

As it goes for the dreams I was a Lieutenant in World War 2 (even the dress, time, place was consistent with WW2), a team of five men and myself where sent out on a mission but ended up hitting a minefield and two survived...I remember telling my men to go back to abort the mission...I was screaming for my men but was not afraid. One of my men tried to warn me but I stepped on a mine...I had lifted my foot knowing my death was to happen "Lieutenant ______!" I try to make note of my name but forget EVERY time. My sister had a dream about it and looked into it and sure enough found a story consistent with mine...I do forget the name now...not sure why I can never remember...they are re-occurring dreams (I have this dream in certain times in my life).

Reincarnation - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reincarnation)
Carol Bowman - Past Life Center (http://www.childpastlives.org/)

I have given you 2 web sites for better explanation but what is leading you to ask this question? Have you had dreams? I have some helpful suggestions for remembering past lives if you are interested...not to say it is easy...I find it difficult, its like pieces of a porcine vase and you have to journal it.

Hi, April,

I was just thinking of your dream, and something popped into my mind. It might or might not be true; I do not know much about this subject. It is not ignorance in my part, but, probably hesitations of wanting to know what was before. Yes, I would very much like to know what I have asked, because if it is true, than there is a chance (even if it imight be 1 to a million), still a chance, to be with my mom in an earthly life.

But, for the past ! If I was a good person, suffering of terrible fate, I rather do not want to know. And, if I was a rotten rat, I would not want it on my present conscience, either. Maybe, that why I do not have any sign whatsoever.

But, back to your dream.

World War 2 was not too long ago. Many people, who went through it, are still living. Could it be, that someone, or some families are still harbouring sadness or hurt associated with that person, that you think, could have been you? If you know the identity, you might be tempted to search for proof, and might, unwillingly, tear up the wounds. Could that be maybe the reason for your mind (or soul, or God) block the name?

Just a thought.

Hi, April,

I was just thinking of your dream, and something popped into my mind. It might or might not be true; I do not know much about this subject. It is not ignorance in my part, but, probably hesitations of wanting to know what was before. Yes, I would very much like to know what I have asked, because if it is true, than there is a chance (even if it imight be 1 to a million), still a chance, to be with my mom in an earthly life.

But, for the past ! If I was a good person, suffering of terrible fate, I rather do not want to know. And, if I was a rotten rat, I would not want it on my present conscience, either. Maybe, that why I do not have any sign whatsoever.

But, back to your dream.

World War 2 was not too long ago. Many people, who went through it, are still living. Could it be, that someone, or some families are still harbouring sadness or hurt associated with that person, that you think, could have been you? If you know the identity, you might be tempted to search for proof, and might, unwillingly, tear up the wounds. Could that be maybe the reason for your mind (or soul, or God) block the name?

Just a thought.

Well the war started in 1939 and ended in 1941 with the cold war for the next 45 years. I was born in 1982 so the dates are consistent... another thing that really bothers me is that I know all the words to songs in this era from heart... I sing it and my husband asked "how do you know the words...in 9 years I have never herd you listen to it?" I said, "I don't know...I just know it and it makes me happy". I don't think we should know who we are in our past lives... what would be the point of coming back as new? What your saying could be possible but if that was the case I wouldn't be tearing up old wounds but maybe giving some family out there somewhere conclusion because I think these soldiers died at the hands of the military's mistake... causing unnecessary death. Hard to say but so much makes sense about my personality... I had a bee bee gun at 6 and shot gofers (this is coming from a girl), I also had more guy friends, I drink most people under the table (which I am mommy now so can't do that but in early 20's I did) and handle myself well (well I would imagine I drank back in ww2), blunt, to the point/direct, leadership is easy for me, have no problem taking control of a situation or training people (actually I am the #1 candidate bosses prefer to train newbies) and go to shooting ranges and prefer 4 x 4's over sports cars... there are just too many things off about me. I don't know but I know that because I forget... I shouldn't remember so I leave the past in the past.

Aprilwine and the other people who have already posted answers on this have said so many good things there's really not much I would add.

With regard to your friend, I would only say that it comes down to respect. You can be accepting that the experiences your friend has are meaningful to her and important to her. Believe me, growing up psychic can be frustrating. You're always afraid that if you tell someone, they will either think you are crazy or possessed by the devil. So it's good that she trusts you enough to share this with you. But what you do with it is up to you. It's like if she gave you scented bath soap as a birthday present. If you like the smell, you might decide to use it every day. If you don't like the smell, you still take the present and thank her. Although maybe later you might want to find a positive, friendly way to tell her the fragrance wasn't to your taste, so she doesn't get you the same thing the next year! With regard to this, it works the same way. It's important that she understands that she is safe in sharing her paranormal experiences with you, that she can trust you to not laugh at her, or spread gossip about what a weirdo she is. ;) She also needs to know you won't tell her that what she experiences isn't real.

The respect thing works both ways, of course. Your friend needs to know that you have the right to listen to what she has to say, but also to make as much or as little of it for your own life as seems appropriate, and she needs to accept that. Once she gets a little older, she will hopefully also learn that part of being a mature, responsible psychic means not trying to help people until they ask for help. But for now, she may need to share, and I'm sure wants to help you through the grief of losing your mother. She's doing a lot better than I did at that age when one of my best friends' dad died. I was so afraid of saying the wrong thing to him I just avoided him. I feel very bad about that now.

I noticed that April said to you that your mom will always be with you, and you asked her what she meant. She gave you a very eloquent answer to that, and I could add to that by going on and on about the bond of love and the interconnectedness of all being. But in the long run, the way in which your mom will stay with you isn't going to be something you understand because of what we say, but because of your feeling her there in your heart. It's OK if you can't put that feeling into words. And, of course, living in the skeptical society we have, it's hard not to keep asking yourself, "Is it real? Am I just imagining it?" We're taught to ask those self-doubting questions as we grow up in this culture. Remind yourself that it's OK to trust your feelings. And it may take a long time to sort out those feelings. Grieving takes as long as it takes. There is no need to rush.

I loved what you said about "recycling" spirits! That's a synchronicity! I was just thinking about that myself. A lot of people post on this site saying, "I have a spirit or ghost in my home, how can I make it go away?" It reminds me of the attitude we had toward paper and plastic and aluminum twenty years ago. When we were done with it, we just threw it "away." But now we realize it's better to recycle. So I was kind of jokingly thinking to myself that I wanted to get people thinking about recycling spirits instead of driving them away, learning ways to live in harmony with them so they can find peace, and even give us their blessings and guidance as they are able. Maybe in another twenty years that idea will sink in, and people won't always be talking about banishing them. ;) Anyway, that was what was going through my head when I opened up your post, and found you had used the term "recycle" in a similar context. Funny.

Blessings to you, and your friend.

Alder

Aprilwine and the other people who have already posted answers on this have said so many good things there's really not much I would add.

With regard to your friend, I would only say that it comes down to respect. You can be accepting that the experiences your friend has are meaningful to her and important to her. Believe me, growing up psychic can be frustrating. You're always afraid that if you tell someone, they will either think you are crazy or possessed by the devil. So it's good that she trusts you enough to share this with you. But what you do with it is up to you. It's like if she gave you scented bath soap as a birthday present. If you like the smell, you might decide to use it every day. If you don't like the smell, you still take the present and thank her. Although maybe later you might want to find a positive, friendly way to tell her the fragrance wasn't to your taste, so she doesn't get you the same thing the next year! With regard to this, it works the same way. It's important that she understands that she is safe in sharing her paranormal experiences with you, that she can trust you to not laugh at her, or spread gossip about what a weirdo she is. ;) She also needs to know you won't tell her that what she experiences isn't real.

The respect thing works both ways, of course. Your friend needs to know that you have the right to listen to what she has to say, but also to make as much or as little of it for your own life as seems appropriate, and she needs to accept that. Once she gets a little older, she will hopefully also learn that part of being a mature, responsible psychic means not trying to help people until they ask for help. But for now, she may need to share, and I'm sure wants to help you through the grief of losing your mother. She's doing a lot better than I did at that age when one of my best friends' dad died. I was so afraid of saying the wrong thing to him I just avoided him. I feel very bad about that now.

I noticed that April said to you that your mom will always be with you, and you asked her what she meant. She gave you a very eloquent answer to that, and I could add to that by going on and on about the bond of love and the interconnectedness of all being. But in the long run, the way in which your mom will stay with you isn't going to be something you understand because of what we say, but because of your feeling her there in your heart. It's ok if you can't put that feeling into words. And, of course, living in the skeptical society we have, it's hard not to keep asking yourself, "Is it real? Am I just imagining it?" We're taught to ask those self-doubting questions as we grow up in this culture. Remind yourself that it's ok to trust your feelings. And it may take a long time to sort out those feelings. Grieving takes as long as it takes. There is no need to rush.

I loved what you said about "recycling" spirits! That's a synchronicity! I was just thinking about that myself. A lot of people post on this site saying, "I have a spirit or ghost in my home, how can I make it go away?" It reminds me of the attitude we had toward paper and plastic and aluminum twenty years ago. When we were done with it, we just threw it "away." But now we realize it's better to recycle. So I was kind of jokingly thinking to myself that I wanted to get people thinking about recycling spirits instead of driving them away, learning ways to live in harmony with them so they can find peace, and even give us their blessings and guidance as they are able. Maybe in another twenty years that idea will sink in, and people won't always be talking about banishing them. ;) Anyway, that was what was going through my head when I opened up your post, and found you had used the term "recycle" in a similar context. Funny.

Blessings to you, and your friend.

Alder

Thank you very much Alder !

I have not received any notice about this site is still going, but I came on today trying to give some information (what I found) to a young lady on the alternative medicine site. Her mother is very ill and I feel very much for her. So, being there, I looked up this site and found your answer.

While I am still very unsettled and sad, I feel blessed to be contacted such wonderful, feeling, helpful, and wise persons as you, April, and Artlady are. You make the world a better place for those who need spiritual help.

May the Lord bless you all for your compassion and help!

Yes, it is a bit strange, that you a physic, and a seer, had the same (similar) thoughts that I, a non-physic, non-seer had.

Well, I never said I don't believe it, as my mind is open.

Many people do not believe in God, saying He can't exist if they can't see Him. To that I can only say, you can't see your thoughts, you can't feel your dreams, you can't even notice electricity in a live wire until you touch it. Does it mean, that all these things do not exist just because you can't see, touch, feel it? God could be the same, and so the spirits. Some are allowed to see them, others aren't. You belong to the first group, I to the second. But, unlike some others, I do believe in thoughts, dreams, and feelings. And I hope and hope over hope, that some way, my mom could be with me. She always have been through my whole life.

About my friend. I do accept her for the person she is. I am not convinced that she sees really what she says. I don't say she is liying. NO! She just might want to see it so much, that she convinced herself. Please, do not misunderstand me. I have no doubt about your experiences. But, being so far off from what I know, and feel, she cannot be right. No, I am not telling her that. Why would I take her what makes her happy. She does not hurt me with that. She is a good person, cheers me up, helps me, I repay her with listening to her and keeping my doubts from her. Who knows, maybe she feels other persons correctly.

Please, don't worry about that, I could never repay her kindness to me with taking her joy from her! But, one thing I have to say, she is not young, she is an elderly grandmother. Otherwise everything is correct.

Thank you very much, again, for your kindness. May the Good Lord bless you, and your loved ones, too, and provide you with strength and insight to help others!

Kindest regards: Liasdaughter.

I was so afraid of saying the wrong thing to him I just avoided him. I feel very bad about that now.

I noticed that April said to you that your mom will always be with you, and you asked her what she meant. She gave you a very eloquent answer to that, and I could add to that by going on and on about the bond of love and the interconnectedness of all being. But in the long run, the way in which your mom will stay with you isn't going to be something you understand because of what we say, but because of your feeling her there in your heart. It's OK if you can't put that feeling into words. And, of course, living in the skeptical society we have, it's hard not to keep asking yourself, "Is it real? Am I just imagining it?" We're taught to ask those self-doubting questions as we grow up in this culture. Remind yourself that it's OK to trust your feelings. And it may take a long time to sort out those feelings. Grieving takes as long as it takes. There is no need to rush.

Blessings to you, and your friend.

Alder[/QUOTE]

Dear Alder,

Please, forgive me for bothering you, but may I ask you a question, please. I just cannot NOT ask it!

Could you, please, explain it a little bit for me, please?

"..in the long run, the way in which your mom will stay with you isn't going to be something you understand because of what we say, but because of your feeling her there in your heart."

It does not matter if I do not understand it now, I will remember your words - as I do April's - and when the time comes, it will make me easier to understand. So, could you, please, explain to me what will happen, what should I be aware of. Something, anything, - but just the truth, please.

I know, truth is not a black and white thing, but has some shades, depending from which directions you are looking at it. But, if an honest person is convinced, that it is truly, honestly is what he/she is feeling, that is acceptable for me. Besides, I am a very simple minded person, never set out to misled anyone, try always to be honest to myself and others. And, that somehow has given me a feeling for truth. That is why I can not believe my friend. I feel she is not lying, she just looking it from the wrong angle.

But, you are wise, and honest; you are able to look at it from the right angle! Please, tell me something, I need to know it.

May the Lord bless you for your kindness to us!

Yours greatefully: Liasdaughter.

I noticed that April said to you that your mom will always be with you, and you asked her what she meant. She gave you a very eloquent answer to that, and I could add to that by going on and on about the bond of love and the interconnectedness of all being. But in the long run, the way in which your mom will stay with you isn't going to be something you understand because of what we say, but because of your feeling her there in your heart. It's OK if you can't put that feeling into words. And, of course, living in the skeptical society we have, it's hard not to keep asking yourself, "Is it real? Am I just imagining it?" We're taught to ask those self-doubting questions as we grow up in this culture. Remind yourself that it's OK to trust your feelings. And it may take a long time to sort out those feelings. Grieving takes as long as it takes. There is no need to rush.


Blessings to you, and your friend.

Alder[/QUOTE]

Dear Alder,

I don't know when (or if) you will come back to this site. I has been a long time you have written, and I was not aware of it. Thus, only came back accidentally, recently. If you come back, could you, please, answer my question, please?

I really do like my friend and I am grateful for her kindness, even if her messages could not be further from my mom character, it is still good to speak about her. And my friend listen. I love her for that, too. But I realised a long time ago, that no message would come through her, as nothing her said felt right. Maybe she is looking from a wrong angle, her sight distorted by eagerness and kindness to help me.

I respect her for that, too. But the stories she told me made me yearn from something, any message from my mom. She is trying but came up with answers that is like coming from a stranger, nothing reminds me of my mom, she cannot provide anything I can cling to. I have told you, many times, I do not blame her, I will never laugh at her, or tease her, or anything. She doesn't even know, that I am doubted her. It will stay that way!

But, my heart, my soul aches from something, some message from her.

At least, if you could try to explain what you said. If I do not understand it now, it is OK, as I said, I will memorise it, and will understand in time. Please, give me something to cling onto, besides April's wonderful message. What you hinted on is beyond what April said. May I know it, please?

One more thing, if I can tell you, please.

I have either very few dreams, or forget it by the morning. But since I read your email, I think of my mom constantly. Praying, pleading, begging for some message from her, through you. And last night I had a very short dream.

I saw my mom's picture, the one I have in our bedroom. Next to it was a small, round, glass vase. We have that vase, but don't use it for years. The vase was full of the most beautil flowers, short stemmed, just at the top of the vase, sort of covering the top of it.
The flowers were similar to Periwinkle, but much, much larger, and the most beautiful pink colour.

That was all, just a glimps of my mom's picture, with the little vase full of the most beautiful, fresh, pink flower. I didn't felt any scent, just the short glimps. When I wake up, I could remember that sight, I loved it, and somehow, I felt better.

Was that any sort of a message, please?

Please, forgive my eagerness. Mom's anniversary is coming up, sadness is slowly increasing for me, as usually before holidays, birthdays, name days (we celebrate name days) and mother's day. I usually cry through them, still.

I know, it is too much to ask, and probably you might hate me for it. Please, don't!

God bless you, whether you answer, or not, I am grateful for your kindness.

Liasdaughter.

Well, I think when he say's "but because of your feeling her there in your heart"... its like when I said "your heart will smile". You will know and since everyone experiences something different... because our connections are different I can't tell you how... just trust that you will. For example, last week I had a friend of mine bring her boyfriend by... after they left and I talked to my friend I said "I feel that his Grandma is very close, she was almost over his shoulder and I had a sense of lilac, has she passed or passing" (meaning ill - I acknowledge lilac with death). And she said, "his grandmother is extremely ill and they don't think she will make it why?" I said "he should visit her more often, she has something to tell him". Even though his grandma has not passed; she can still send messages (this is also an example of the bond/connection). So though he had no idea, his grandma was still making the connection.

I know you feel pain but you won't get messages by asking or praying for them. Know she is there. As it goes for the dream. I haven't looked into the flower meaning but I am going to ask you... have you visited her resting place or held a memorial lately? Maybe you should plant a tree for her in her memory at the nearest state park (if they have those services in the states).

Hello, Liasdaughter! So sorry to leave you hanging for a week or two there. Sometimes between health, caring for parents, caring for children, career, I end up being away from this site longer than I would like, particularly because I don't want to just disappear in the middle of a conversation with someone. Anyway, my apologies for the delay.

If I understand your question, you were responding to my comment that you would sense the presence and love of your mother on a personal "heart" level, even though it might be in a way that would be hard to explain or understand in words; and you had asked me how you would know when that happened, what form it would take?

Boy! Tough question! The truth is, it's different for everyone. It's what works well for you. Everyone is capable of many kinds of spiritual awareness. It's not like some people in our world are psychic or magical, and others are not--are, well, muggles. Everyone can live a spiritually meaningful life, everyone can find their own way of tuning into that inner voice or feeling we call intuition.

The hardest lesson for most of us is learning to use our imaginations, learning to not be afraid to play with it. We were all taught that if I am imagining something, that means it's not real. But imagination is useful. Imagination lets us see patterns in things, and put random bits of data together into meaningful ways. In other words, scientists use it to imagine theories and behavior of atoms and so forth, so they can explain what they see in their laboratories. Often when it comes to spiritual matters, you know something to be true--like knowing that the love you and your mother share is stronger than death--but you know it on such a deep-down level that it is hard for you to give it some form that you can see or explain. So you use your imagination to give you something your conscious waking mind can hold onto. In other words, you are using your imagination to put an image on, put clothes on top of, something that underneath is very real.

You said something very insightful regarding your friend: That she believes in the spiritual experiences she has, but she may be seeing these things merely because she desires so badly to see them. Well, that's a tricky thing. Because our intuitive senses and our ability to imagine and dream are so closely connected, it is always a challenge to separate the role our own desires play in our experiences. Heck, that is true even if we are dealing with flesh and blood people, instead of spirits. How many times have you had a friend who thought her boyfriend was just wonderful, when everyone around her could tell he wasn't so great. She was letting her own yearning for a fulfilling relationship color her judgment.

Sure, we're all susceptible to letting our desire make us see things, and, just as likely, sometimes when we want to have a spiritual experience, we yearn for it so much we can't relax into the open, intuitive state of mind we need in order to actually have that experience. I'm sure you've heard the expression "inner peace"? Well, that's what it's all about. The way you do it is to let yourself be silent on the inside, just sit back and trust and be patient, and let your intuitive knowing of your mom's presence happen. Notice I said "let it happen." You can't "make it happen." The harder you try, the less you succeed.

Which brings us to your dream. Your dream of the flowers, of course, answers the question you asked me about the form that your mother's presence in your life would take. You wrote on this site, "I believe in dreams," and declaring that to the Universe did the trick. In response, you received this very beautiful dream about the flowers. You are entitled to believe that this dream came from your mother, that this was her answering your call and your wish. She sent you flowers.

So now you have the opportunity to make this dream real in your own life. Go get some flowers and put them in that vase, and put it next to your mother's picture. Then every day when you see them you can say, "Thanks for the flowers, Mom! I got the message, and I love you too." Then you can rest easy knowing that your mom is keeping the connection of love strong on her end, and you have done all you need do to keep it strong on your end. You have, in effect, hit the "reply" button in response to the dream-mail message she sent you. She might send you more dreams, and it's okay if you want her to, but try not to get into a state of yearning so desperately for a dream from her that you actually disrupt your own brain from being able to do it. Dreams often come from things not fully worked out yet, and if you manifest the flowers in your life, in your home, then no more dream may be necessary.

I hope this answers the question of is it real, how do I know if it's real? What we are doing is turning it around so you are the one in control: You have the right to make it real in your own life by believing in it and by making it real for yourself--by buying "real" flowers that you can "really" see and touch and even had to spend real money to get (in our culture, if you spent money on it, it must be real, right?). You get to choose to make it real for you by your own actions. There's a little part of your brain that handles the words and the numbers that will always doubt and say, but am I just tricking myself? And you may have other skeptical people in your life who say the same thing. Well, that's their business. You can choose to believe, and that's fine.

Here's the final point: The test of your beliefs is what you do with them. If your beliefs lead you to live a wonderful, vibrant, meaningful life of reaching your full potential and showing kindness and compassion for all beings you meet, then they are good beliefs, regardless of whether they are "real" according to some skeptic's analysis. The final test of whether your ancestors are fully manifesting in your life is whether you make something beautiful out of your life.

Well, it's like I said--your own experience trumps anything I or anyone else here can say. Your own dream is a better response than anything we can give you. In our culture, you might feel pressured to say, "It's just a dream, it doesn't give me all the answers." But you don't have to look at it like that. You're free to instead accept the dream as a gift, and to honor it and bring it into your waking life.

Great points Alder! Carefully thought out and beautifully delivered as always. I hope your doing OK and staying balanced with everything going on.

Best regards,

Hello, Liasdaughter! So sorry to leave you hanging for a week or two there. Sometimes between health, caring for parents, caring for children, career, I end up being away from this site longer than I would like, particularly because I don't want to just disappear in the middle of a conversation with someone. Anyway, my apologies for the delay.

If I understand your question, you were responding to my comment that you would sense the presence and love of your mother on a personal "heart" level, even though it might be in a way that would be hard to explain or understand in words; and you had asked me how you would know when that happened, what form it would take?

Boy! Tough question! The truth is, it's different for everyone. It's what works well for you. Everyone is capable of many kinds of spiritual awareness. It's not like some people in our world are psychic or magical, and others are not--are, well, muggles. Everyone can live a spiritually meaningful life, everyone can find their own way of tuning into that inner voice or feeling we call intuition.

The hardest lesson for most of us is learning to use our imaginations, learning to not be afraid to play with it. We were all taught that if I am imagining something, that means it's not real. But imagination is useful. Imagination lets us see patterns in things, and put random bits of data together into meaningful ways. In other words, scientists use it to imagine theories and behavior of atoms and so forth, so they can explain what they see in their laboratories. Often when it comes to spiritual matters, you know something to be true--like knowing that the love you and your mother share is stronger than death--but you know it on such a deep-down level that it is hard for you to give it some form that you can see or explain. So you use your imagination to give you something your conscious waking mind can hold onto. In other words, you are using your imagination to put an image on, put clothes on top of, something that underneath is very real.

You said something very insightful regarding your friend: That she believes in the spiritual experiences she has, but she may be seeing these things merely because she desires so badly to see them. Well, that's a tricky thing. Because our intuitive senses and our ability to imagine and dream are so closely connected, it is always a challenge to separate the role our own desires play in our experiences. Heck, that is true even if we are dealing with flesh and blood people, instead of spirits. How many times have you had a friend who thought her boyfriend was just wonderful, when everyone around her could tell he wasn't so great. She was letting her own yearning for a fulfilling relationship color her judgment.

Sure, we're all susceptible to letting our desire make us see things, and, just as likely, sometimes when we want to have a spiritual experience, we yearn for it so much we can't relax into the open, intuitive state of mind we need in order to actually have that experience. I'm sure you've heard the expression "inner peace"? Well, that's what it's all about. The way you do it is to let yourself be silent on the inside, just sit back and trust and be patient, and let your intuitive knowing of your mom's presence happen. Notice I said "let it happen." You can't "make it happen." The harder you try, the less you succeed.

Which brings us to your dream. Your dream of the flowers, of course, answers the question you asked me about the form that your mother's presence in your life would take. You wrote on this site, "I believe in dreams," and declaring that to the Universe did the trick. In response, you received this very beautiful dream about the flowers. You are entitled to believe that this dream came from your mother, that this was her answering your call and your wish. She sent you flowers.

So now you have the opportunity to make this dream real in your own life. Go get some flowers and put them in that vase, and put it next to your mother's picture. Then every day when you see them you can say, "Thanks for the flowers, Mom! I got the message, and I love you too." Then you can rest easy knowing that your mom is keeping the connection of love strong on her end, and you have done all you need do to keep it strong on your end. You have, in effect, hit the "reply" button in response to the dream-mail message she sent you. She might send you more dreams, and it's okay if you want her to, but try not to get into a state of yearning so desperately for a dream from her that you actually disrupt your own brain from being able to do it. Dreams often come from things not fully worked out yet, and if you manifest the flowers in your life, in your home, then no more dream may be necessary.

I hope this answers the question of is it real, how do I know if it's real? What we are doing is turning it around so you are the one in control: You have the right to make it real in your own life by believing in it and by making it real for yourself--by buying "real" flowers that you can "really" see and touch and even had to spend real money to get (in our culture, if you spent money on it, it must be real, right?). You get to choose to make it real for you by your own actions. There's a little part of your brain that handles the words and the numbers that will always doubt and say, but am I just tricking myself? And you may have other skeptical people in your life who say the same thing. Well, that's their business. You can choose to believe, and that's fine.

Here's the final point: The test of your beliefs is what you do with them. If your beliefs lead you to live a wonderful, vibrant, meaningful life of reaching your full potential and showing kindness and compassion for all beings you meet, then they are good beliefs, regardless of whether they are "real" according to some skeptic's analysis. The final test of whether your ancestors are fully manifesting in your life is whether you make something beautiful out of your life.

Well, it's like I said--your own experience trumps anything I or anyone else here can say. Your own dream is a better response than anything we can give you. In our culture, you might feel pressured to say, "It's just a dream, it doesn't give me all the answers." But you don't have to look at it like that. You're free to instead accept the dream as a gift, and to honor it and bring it into your waking life.

A rare and wonderful insight into life's journey. May the Lord help you in yours, too ! You made mine easier. Thank you !

What she could have saw could be very true. There are spirits that roam around you every day, except you have to really believe in them. If you don't believe in spirits and ghosts then most likely you won't see any or hear them or even see an orb. I have had plenty of paranormal stories and I'm totally comfortable about them. If you don't believe just don't judge.

I don't believe that a persons illness carries over to the other side. The flesh is nothing but a shell . Our spiritual bodies shouldn't feel physical pain. I also have a uncle that claims he talks to the dead. He is a no nonsense type of guy. He has always been a straight shooter. But I still have my doubts. They never give you a direct answer to your questions. Always kind of vague. Sometimes you want to believe so badly, but there answers just are not solid. I think your mother would have passed on something that you would definitely know it is her. Im not sure how well you know this girl, but keep your eyes open.

I don't believe that a persons illness carries over to the other side. The flesh is nothing but a shell . Our spiritual bodies shouldn't feel physical pain. I also have a uncle that claims he talks to the dead. He is a no nonsense type of guy. He has always been a straight shooter. but I still have my doubts. They never give you a direct answer to your questions. Always kinda vague. Sometimes you want to believe so badly, but there answers just are not solid. I think your mother would have passed on something that you would definitely know it is her. Im not sure how well you know this girl, but keep your eyes open.

Great combination: open mind + common sense