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pimp_mah_alpaka
Nov 28, 2008, 01:48 AM
:( It all started when my best friend started dating one of my guy friends and know I'm finding him attractive. I can't stop looking at him, and sometimes I wished it was me and him together. Today on the bus we were sitting pretty close and I felt so comfortable, the most comfortable I've ever been around a guy. But I don't want to tell my friends and definitely not my best friend, because I don't want my friend to know I like her boyfriend because I don't want it to ruin our friendship. I feel so guilty. Please help, I want to see him as a friend but deep down I want to be more. :(

Forever2b
Nov 28, 2008, 09:30 PM
Oh.. that's a bad situation, find out how deeply your friend cares for this boy... if its not too big maybe you can tell her... or wait for things to cool down... good luck

LifeChangesMan
Nov 29, 2008, 02:42 PM
If she's your BEST friend, guess what you should be able to talk to her about anything!

Tell her how you feel, I feel honesty is the best approach to anything, if you feel like your best friend will bug out or not talk to you or something, avoid it... maybe try that sarcastic approach like, "hahaha your boyfriend is so dreamy, i wish he was my boyfriend hahaha" and see how she reacts to that.

Hope this helps you!

pimp_mah_alpaka
Nov 30, 2008, 03:10 AM
Oh.. thats a bad situation, find out how deeply your friend cares for this boy... if its not too big maybe you can tell her... or wait for things to cool down... good luck

She's told me she likes him a lot. She even dumped her now ex boyfriend to be with the guy she's with now. And he's told her that he really likes her to. Hmm

talaniman
Nov 30, 2008, 09:16 AM
Boundaries. If she is your friend, then you know the guy is off limits, so you do nothing. Its okay to have those feelings as they are honest and natural for humans. The thing is to no better, and not act on them.

If you hated someone, do you think its okay to shoot them? Same thing. Cope with your feelings, and control your actions.

Forever2b
Nov 30, 2008, 05:21 PM
It's hard, I know...
But she's your best friend
Boys come and go
Don't let one ruin your friendship