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JohnD212
Nov 26, 2008, 02:56 PM
I had been in a relationship with someone for 6 years (3 of which we lived together). During that time it was never a perfect relationship and we had problems. I recently left a job I didn't like and instead of making him pay the entire rent I decided to move out to live with a friend until I could get a new job and get another aprtment. I knew my ex could never afford the apartment so I told him I thought this was best for us financially. One week after I moved out we had lunch and he told me it wasn't going to work. He told me it was my fault for leaving a job the way I did. While I know it wasn't the best thing to do I also tried to do what was right for our relationship and not put more strain on it. Now three months after that I have a new job and I've signed on a better apartment. My ex informed me he is moving to Florida for a few months to get away.

He is the kind of ex who says hi to me everyday on IM... tells me what he's eating.. what he's doing... etc. etc.. Should I start the no contact at this point? Since I know he's leaving in about a month for Florida I see no reason to try to get back with him but its so hard. He's visiting Florida this week for Thanksgiving and I haven't called him or sent any messages to him there (he hasn't either which really upset me). I just hate him for making me feel bad for leaving a terrible job. I didn't make him pay for things.. I moved out until I could get something better (when in a real relationship shouldn't your partner help support those hard times? ).

I'm just confused about how to proceed at this point. I'm hurting and he isn't!

talaniman
Nov 27, 2008, 10:36 AM
This isn't about a job I don't think, but your not communicating, and working together.

If a partner did that to me after all that time together, I would be out of their life for sure.

He is hurting, but is moving beyond it, and so should you.