Recently, I've been in a relationship with a woman that I've known for 11 years. The relationship has been going on for 3 months. We had the most amazing time together and have had several sober discussions about the future and how we've both wanted each other this entire time. A couple of weeks ago, we had an argument and she has made no attempt to contact me on her own. However, if I contact her, she will respnd. She keeps telling me that things are very stressful for her right now and she just needs some time. Or that she feels we were rushing into things very fast and she hasn't had time for herself. (she just filed for divorce) In addition, I replied that I understand but I wasn't clear on her thought process and didn't know if she wanted her belongings from my house. She never replied either way. I'm not sure how to take this.

Well if she didn't take her stuff then she will probably be back for it, right now she needs a FRIEND ! But that's the building block to every strong foundation that successful relationships are built on ! Just be patient and let her have some space with out taking it too personal !

Listen to her! She is telling you she needs SPACE! Leave this alone for now. Do you really want to be "rebound guy?"... because that is what you will be unless you give her time.

Everyone here is right. Give her time and space, as she has bigger fish to fry right now and things started moving way too fast. Be the bigger guy and just be a friend for her for now.

The relationship has been going on for 3 months

90 days is way to soon to be crowding someone, and I don't care how long you have known them.


She feels we were rushing into things very fast and she hasn't had time for herself. (she just filed for divorce

Oh gosh, your to needy in such a short time, and its selfish to ignore that she has other things besides you on her mind.


What is she saying ?

Get your own life, and let her have hers, as you are to pushy, and needy, so back off as your making a pest of yourself.

Sorry guy, but its really obvious, your wrapping your whole existence around her, without considering her circumstances. Either change that, and give her space, or your outta there.