I dated a guy when I was around 17 years old for 3 years. We broke up and married diffirent people. Unfortunately, he had to get married do to the girl he started dating got pregnant and (the girl) was suppose to be a friend of mine. I'm pretty sure he was cheating on me, but he never admitted to it. This guy was the love of my life and I never got over him, even when I married - I thought of him often. After twenty-three years we ran across each other - both now divorced - we immediately fell for each other again. He said he never had forgotten about me either and wished he had never broke up with me. I am now 46 years old (I just looked at our past was because he was young) and figured we would eventually get married this time. I did get an engagement ring and we dated for 3 1/2 years. He had his place and my sister and I (both divorced) had our own place. I went back and forth to his house every night since I was not working at the time and fixed his supper, his breakfast in the morning, did his bills, errands, clothes and what ever he wanted me to do and went back home. At the time I had plenty of money and he made pretty good money, but was paying a lot on his divorce, but still had some money. I bought him very expensive gifts and he hardly spent any money on me. He never would make a commitment and I guess I got tired and became less attentive and he started not being as nice because I would get over to his house later and later. I just got tired of going back and forth every night. I felt like a ping pong ball. His daughter didn't seem to like me very well, probably because of her mother (which has now remarried)-but this did not seem to be a problem with him at the time - but when our relationship seemed to be going down hill, his daughter starting calling all the time. I asked him about it and he never really gave me an answer. Then one day when we were over at his sister's house she let the cat out of the bag and said that her and the daughter had been talking a lot and was worried about her daddy because we were fussing a lot. The daughter use to call only when she wanted money - now she called all the time. Trying to buy things (groceries, recreation things, etc.) for two places (and I had a daughter at home and her dad had passed away) I eventually starting running out of money and could not supply both places and not hardly my own anymore. This was what we spent most of our time fussing about, as much as I had helped him, he didn't seem to want to help me. Or maybe it was me or his daughter. Regardless I found out he was talking behind my back and went and got all my stuff and all the expensive stuff I had gave him (which I know he is very upset about) and I guess that really is what ended it, besides he was starting to be verbly abusive, not saying anything nice about me and I couldn't do anything right anymore. Use to I was perfect. I have been in love with this guy all my life. It's unreal how much we have in common, (same food, we leave the same thing on our plate when we get finish eating, young at heart, love to hunt and fish - both of us love the outdoors and nature, we think the same way, etc. etc. etc. and I could go on and on. I'm sorry, but it took me along time to get over him years ago and I don't know if I can again. Should I completely give up on him or should I call him and try to work things out or was he ready to get rid of me anyway. I could tell by what his sister (which seems to have a lot of influence on him) said he had been telling her or his daughter and she was telling the sister things about our relationship which really got me mad. When I called his sister, the first thing she asked was "had we broke up" and I said "no, I just come home". We talked and she said she thought we should just break up and we went to fast in our relationship. Please advise me what to do - should I call him, or get on with me life. My family does not seem to be much help - all they say is I told you so.

Leave him alone, and clean up the mess of your life. You don't need this do you?

Okay, I appreciate the advice. Now tell me, how do I get some of my personal things back that I forgot. Some of these things mean a lot to me, they don't seem like much to another person, but they were my father's and he passed away in 1997. What do I do about this?

Well you can send an email or text message and say you would like you stuff. If that isn't going to work... or you're worried... just call the police... they will go over with you while you gather your stuff together. A friend of mine was in a bad relationship and she was scared of going in to get her stuff... so she called the police and they said they would assist her. Just an idea... you could also ask for your stuff to be boxed and left for you.