I would like other peoples view on this, what is worse, a man lying about his past, in the way that he did this and that, loved,had sex, was happy, engaged a few times, kissed, and then finding out that it was not true at all, or the opposite lying about never doing stuff then finding out they really did?

Lying is lying to me. Either way you cut it. It shows poor character regardless.

Like kctiger said, lying is lying. Why did this person even lie about it to begin with?

Didn't tell you about his past = Thought you would be freaked out...

Lied and said his past was something it wasn't = Why in the hek would you do that anyway?

My partner lied about his past, said he did all this and that, told me it all, in great detail himself, I never asked, then I found out none of it was true. I don't know why he did. But some people have it the other way round, and I just wondered which is worse.