So I have this friend. She's 18, has an 8 month old little girl and is happily engaged. But just recently she's been feeling some pretty strange things for an ex boyfriend she dated a while back. He's an amazing guy. But she feels obligated to stay with her fiancé to keep things together for her daughter. Her fiancé and her have no current problems... other than sometimes he's out doing his own thing and she kind of feels like a single parent, and when he is home, she still feels like he doesn't contribute to their daughter enough, plus he's the financial support in the relationship. She makes very little, practically nothing

Here's the problem with the other guy. Since they dated before. Her parents do not like him. And they love her fiancé... a lot. She feels that if something were to happen they would hate her for it. She loves her fiancé very much... but she still feels a lot for this other guy, she kind of feels trapped. And she doeant seem very happy anymore...

Can you give me any advice...

Your friend needs to make the responsible choice and work on her relationship with her fiancé. She can not even list any reasons or problems in the relationship, just a the grass is greener on the other side scenerio. She has a daughter and a fiancé and although she is young she needs to grow up, the right thing to do is work on her relationship.

BTW, it is sad to say in the same sentence that he isn't contributing to his daughter enough and than state that he is the financial caregiver because she earns "practically nothing." It is not healthy to move from relationship to relationship, if she is unhappy in her current relationship she needs to deal with that. Not leave him for someone else, what happens when she regrets that decision... than she wants her fiancé back. It's a clear choice.

Your friend is only 18. Sounds like she is very confused. Honestly she is probably not ready to marry anyone. She needs to wait a few years and see how she feels then. I strongly suggest she doesn't get married right now. If she does she will end up in a divorce. I can't tell her who to be with. She needs to listen to her heart and her head. Whoever she ends up with needs to have a good job and be good to her and her daughter. I know when you have a baby before marriage there is a big guilt that makes you feel like you have to be with the dad. It is not always the right thing though. I went through the same thing.

Love,
Michelle