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kay9191
Nov 17, 2008, 07:27 PM
So far for about lets see... three months now me and my ex have been trying to get used to things now that we've "broken up". It all seemed to work out fine in da beginning we still talked and joked around, liked two friends should.he even shared a locker with me because mine was broken.but soon after, about a week things between us started to get a little heated.now we have had conversations in the past where we would ask the "what if we broke up" scenario and I answered honestly "if we broke up i dont think that we would be able to continue to be friends or that it just wouldnt be the same.now during that week he really started to do things that i found really immature or he acted as if we never broke up to begin with.for example like trying to kiss me more than once and embarassing me in front of his friends that i didnt really know that well.both which i didnt feel comfortable with for the fact thaat we were not together and that if were going to be friends we have to act like it.and that begins with both people having respect for one another (am i right?)Also during that week there was a lot of tension building between us and it hasnt gone away since.ive tried confronting him and telling him that i dont appreciate the way he has been treating me and i do not feel that he respects me as a person anymore.but of course he didnt really care about how i felt right before that he decides to let me know about his little sexual experience with some girl i knew from school as if i was one of his "boys".now again we had only been broken up for about two weeks during that time after being together for almost two years.i definitely felt as though i had been slapped in the face after that.what was i supposed to say to that!i tried to blow it off and act like it waas nothing, but its really hard trying to go on with your life after having that image burned in your brain for all eternity and also having to see that girl everyday for the next year.even after that we still communicated but soon our conversations turned into arguments (this is y i hate txt msgs sometimes) evrytimed we talked.then one day he decides to send me a msg one day explaining how he stil has feelings for me and that this built up tension is from us wanting to be together but not being able to.things btwn us after that seemed to be okay until the arguments started up again about stupid stuf.we tried to work it out again but it didnt go so well and i soon felt that there was no hope in this relationship as "friends".then about another week or two or however long went by and I send him a text message about this past election.but when he responded he asked who I was.I felt even more hurt than before and assumed that he deleted my number after having it for two years.I refuse to talk to him to ask why he didn't know who I was.actually, now I just refuse to talk to him at all.but just recently I got a new phone and I've been fighting with myself whether I should give him my new number or just leave it alone.for some reason when I assume something about him it always ends up being the total opposite of what I thought and I regret not saying anything about it sooner.now its been almost three weeks that I've had my new phone and my question is should I give it to him even though I think that he deleted my old one and would definitely not want anything to do with me anymore or just leave it alone like I have been and continue wondering if he really does still care?(he has the tendency to not show you how he really feels by not showing anything at all)

Justwantfair
Nov 18, 2008, 09:49 AM
Do not give him the phone number. Continue with the no contact, this is not a relationship worth saving, accept that you have lost a friend with this boy.

BMI
Nov 18, 2008, 09:55 AM
You don't want to be with him but you want him to miss you. Your considering giving him the number to create an avenue in which he can reach out and tell you how much he misses you and needs you. For all his behaviour you object too, your no better.

He deleted the number to get a reaction from you, givinghim the number indicates you miss him and want him back. Like the above post, get over it.

kay9191
Nov 20, 2008, 08:39 PM
I guess that's true.I never really thought about that(me wanting him to miss me).but I will say that I am sort of handling it a lot better than the last time.I refuse to sit around and feel sorry for myself and worry about what he thinks about me all the time.im doing my thing and he's doing his and there's no communication at all.and for the first time I will say that it will be better this way.I really don't need the drama

Justwantfair
Nov 20, 2008, 08:54 PM
Good for you, you are doing all the right things. Hang in there.