I was going out with my girlfriend for 8 mouths. We knew each other from high school; in fact we were in the same year together, and I was very good friends with her brother. Though we went to the same school, we went out with each other. That was Intill we both went to university 3 years later. I knew she liked me; her brother would tell me all the time. So one night we bumped into each other, on Valentine’s Day. From there on, we started seeing each other. I didn't fall in love with her intill 2 mouths into our relationship. And from there on everything seem to be going really well. And I knew we were truly in love. We use to argue a bit, though no more than any other couple. But about 7 mouths into our relationship I felt things starting to change. I play a lot of rugby at quite a high level and now that I’ve finished university and I’m working, so it’s hard to make time for her. Looking back I think that’s why she decided we weren’t right for each other. You see, she’s still in university going out all the time. Different to what I’m doing now. So one night we meet up, I knew things were bad because she crying her eyes out. She said she wanted time on her own to think about things and we shouldn’t be a couple for now. She wanted to be friends though, which I thought was weird? Is there a chance we could sort things out or is it just not meant to be. And I should move on, Though I have never felt this way about any one before. I did try and talk to her about things but she still felt the same.

Hey pal, if you think it's meant to be it's meant to be, in my own opinion who know's this girl better then you? If she loves you she'll be back. I'm actually experiencing it with my own relationship right now, if you want to read my thread I believe it's called is she gone forever? And write something on my case, itd be cool. I would say definitely don't contact her as hard as it is, I would also suggest shooting down the friend BS, because that'll probably just hurt you to see her like that, right? If you have any other questions I'd be glad to help

My best advice for you would be respect her wish for time and space. Give her all the time and space in the world. Do not contact her. Let her contact you. And when/if she does, it will be up to you to decide to talk to her. Let her sort things out for herself. No matter how much talking you do, you will not change her mind.

Leave her be for a bit, so you both can figure out where you want to go.

If she loves you and wants to be with you, she will come back to you and let you know.

I would not wait around expecting this to happen. Just do what you do and find some who is more compatible with your life.


If you wait for her to figure things out, you will get hurt.

Time to move on and see what else life throws at you.