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niptuckfan88
Nov 10, 2008, 07:29 AM
I don't see him that often cause we are in a long distance relationship but last time he came to see me,he didn't pay me much attention except the last day he was here.why do you think he was like that?do you think its because he has trouble expressing himself and because he's kind of shy?

kctiger
Nov 10, 2008, 07:34 AM
From my experience in a long distance relationship, people change and grow a lot, especially when they are young. When you see your partner for the first time in awhile you have been apart so long you become a bit detached and apprehensive on how to behave and react towards different situations. It takes a bit of the comfort level out, since it is almost like you are feeling each other out for awhile when you finally see each other. I would not put too much into it. It is something that takes a lot of time to get used to and sooo much communication and patience to make it work.

talaniman
Nov 10, 2008, 07:42 AM
How far away are you? How often do you talk and how, phone, text, online?

How often do you get together, and how long has this relationship been going on?? How did you meet??

DivaSCarter7888
Nov 10, 2008, 03:36 PM
well...

1st if he's not usually an affectionate person... then there's your answer

but if he is... then maybe there's something on his mind... men have trouble communicating those things if women don't ask first lol = )

but if while you were in that situation and you initiated the interaction, it might have gone better...

I am in a long distance relationship as well so I know that every minute spent is precious time!! Communicating how you feel and what you want out of the relationship is key... so u know whether the person your with cares to adjust or not..


hope that helps :)

LONE_DAD
Mar 18, 2009, 03:37 PM
I was in a long distance relationship once. We would stay up and talk like teenagers on the phone. When I'd go to Houston to see her, it was like we'd just met again. We were both nervous, but I was nervous to the point that she thought I was shy, uncomfortable, or disappointed, or something. The truth of it was that I grew to like her so much intellectually and personality-wise, that I was so-o into her. When in her presence I was awed by the fact that she was every bit as attractive on the outside as I found her (non-physically) in blind conversation. If I had been more secure in her interest in me, my visits would have been more comfortable and enjoyable.