cvanosten
Nov 9, 2008, 10:24 PM
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Me and my ex girlfriend met when I was in the Navy. I was stationed in Virginia and She lived in North Carolina. My brother and his wife introduced us. She already had a daughter and was pregnant when I met her. The baby's father was nowhere to be found. So make a long story short I adopted the baby. And took care of them.
We had a very strong relationship with each other. Best friends actually. I was rarely home and went home on weekends. I cheated on Her when I was in the Navy 3 times with the same girl. The reason I guess is because I was getting the impression she didn't want to do anything with her life.She didn't want to go to school or Work. She would sleep until the late afternoon. Not feed the kids in the morning and when I came home the house would be a mess after not being home for a couple days. I had several talks with her, stating that she needed to change. No change took place. She told me she didn't want to be there in that house anymore she said she hatted it. So She told me if we moved, She would feel better and start to change. So I believed her! We got a nice townhouse. She finally got a job, but she called out the 2nd day and then quit after a week. I told her this cannot go on.. She has to do something.. to help me pay the bills. So we ended up moving back to our old place. This is when I started cheating. And she knew I was but I never confessed to it. So we broke up for about 2 weeks and then got back together and we talked again about what needs to change. So this time while back together she decided to go to school. I was happy.. but then she switched her major 2 twice then dropped out.
At this point I'm really tired and fed up. I was finished with the navy and after I got out I moved back to New York by myself. She told me She didn't want to be with me anymore and she wasn't in love with me. She told me she was dating some guy in the Air force. So after around a month or 2, we talked on the phone and she cried. She told me she went into the bathroom and cried and said a prayer for god to watch over me because I've done so much for her. And she wanted me back. So I took her back. Prior to taking her back I told her she needs to make a serious change. So agreed. So I moved her from North Carolina and We got a townhouse in Connecticut. Now where happy again.
Then I started noticing that she was doing the same she was doing in north Carolina. Not wanting to work and sleeping all day and not feeding the kids. So I talked to her but this time I would talk bad to her and call her stupid and mean stuff like that. Then I started not coming home sometimes. Coming home late. Sometimes when I come home I would bring friends and then leave. And talking to other woman but never cheated. And she checked my phone while I was sleep and found text's to other woman. But I never cheated. I swear.
She then start replying that she wanted to go back to North Carolina because she didn't want to be with me anymore. She said I was saying mean things to her and talking bad towards her and criticizing her.And not showing her no attention. I told her why I was doing that because she didn't want to do anything for herself. Mean while I caught her talking on "my space" to the Air Force guy. So she left back North Carolina, and called me like a month or 2 later saying that she's pregnant bye this guy. So she told me she didn't love this guy and basically she wanted me back. So me being a dumb . I took her back. While she was pregnant bye this guy. So eventually she had an abortion. And we talked for a while and decided to get back.
Now at this point we are in a long distance relationship. She was supposed to be staying at her moms house. And she did for a while but then she slipped up by accident and told on herself. That she was staying with her baby daddy's mother. So I got fed up and went down there and got her. I brought her back with me to New York. And we stayed with my dad. She didn't want to stay so she left again. Meanwhile before she left we got in a big argument and I ended up hitting her. That done it she was through. I know I was 200% wrong for hitting her but I just had so much anger build up in me from this woman. I sacrificed so much and lost a lot. But anyway I felt like and I even cried. Now she say she don't want to be with me anymore. She don't want no relationship. Because of what happen. She told me she forgave but she still feels the same. So I took the initiative to go see her in Carolina. She didn't want me too go but I did. When I did we argued but she stayed with me for 4 days and found out she's pregnant again. She says it's mine this time. When we went to the doctor. The doctor said she was a month pregnant. She was with me in New York that whole time so I kind of believe her. But now she's telling me she still don't want me after I said sorry and pored my heart out to her. She tells me she don't want to be with me anymore again and she's fed up with the way I talk to her and always tell my family our business. She tells me she tells me she don't know what to do about the baby. I want her back so much. I call her like crazy, and she answer but she tells me she don't want to talk. Can anyone make any suggestions or even help?
Me and my ex girlfriend met when I was in the Navy. I was stationed in Virginia and She lived in North Carolina. My brother and his wife introduced us. She already had a daughter and was pregnant when I met her. The baby's father was nowhere to be found. So make a long story short I adopted the baby. And took care of them.
We had a very strong relationship with each other. Best friends actually. I was rarely home and went home on weekends. I cheated on Her when I was in the Navy 3 times with the same girl. The reason I guess is because I was getting the impression she didn't want to do anything with her life.She didn't want to go to school or Work. She would sleep until the late afternoon. Not feed the kids in the morning and when I came home the house would be a mess after not being home for a couple days. I had several talks with her, stating that she needed to change. No change took place. She told me she didn't want to be there in that house anymore she said she hatted it. So She told me if we moved, She would feel better and start to change. So I believed her! We got a nice townhouse. She finally got a job, but she called out the 2nd day and then quit after a week. I told her this cannot go on.. She has to do something.. to help me pay the bills. So we ended up moving back to our old place. This is when I started cheating. And she knew I was but I never confessed to it. So we broke up for about 2 weeks and then got back together and we talked again about what needs to change. So this time while back together she decided to go to school. I was happy.. but then she switched her major 2 twice then dropped out.
At this point I'm really tired and fed up. I was finished with the navy and after I got out I moved back to New York by myself. She told me She didn't want to be with me anymore and she wasn't in love with me. She told me she was dating some guy in the Air force. So after around a month or 2, we talked on the phone and she cried. She told me she went into the bathroom and cried and said a prayer for god to watch over me because I've done so much for her. And she wanted me back. So I took her back. Prior to taking her back I told her she needs to make a serious change. So agreed. So I moved her from North Carolina and We got a townhouse in Connecticut. Now where happy again.
Then I started noticing that she was doing the same she was doing in north Carolina. Not wanting to work and sleeping all day and not feeding the kids. So I talked to her but this time I would talk bad to her and call her stupid and mean stuff like that. Then I started not coming home sometimes. Coming home late. Sometimes when I come home I would bring friends and then leave. And talking to other woman but never cheated. And she checked my phone while I was sleep and found text's to other woman. But I never cheated. I swear.
She then start replying that she wanted to go back to North Carolina because she didn't want to be with me anymore. She said I was saying mean things to her and talking bad towards her and criticizing her.And not showing her no attention. I told her why I was doing that because she didn't want to do anything for herself. Mean while I caught her talking on "my space" to the Air Force guy. So she left back North Carolina, and called me like a month or 2 later saying that she's pregnant bye this guy. So she told me she didn't love this guy and basically she wanted me back. So me being a dumb . I took her back. While she was pregnant bye this guy. So eventually she had an abortion. And we talked for a while and decided to get back.
Now at this point we are in a long distance relationship. She was supposed to be staying at her moms house. And she did for a while but then she slipped up by accident and told on herself. That she was staying with her baby daddy's mother. So I got fed up and went down there and got her. I brought her back with me to New York. And we stayed with my dad. She didn't want to stay so she left again. Meanwhile before she left we got in a big argument and I ended up hitting her. That done it she was through. I know I was 200% wrong for hitting her but I just had so much anger build up in me from this woman. I sacrificed so much and lost a lot. But anyway I felt like and I even cried. Now she say she don't want to be with me anymore. She don't want no relationship. Because of what happen. She told me she forgave but she still feels the same. So I took the initiative to go see her in Carolina. She didn't want me too go but I did. When I did we argued but she stayed with me for 4 days and found out she's pregnant again. She says it's mine this time. When we went to the doctor. The doctor said she was a month pregnant. She was with me in New York that whole time so I kind of believe her. But now she's telling me she still don't want me after I said sorry and pored my heart out to her. She tells me she don't want to be with me anymore again and she's fed up with the way I talk to her and always tell my family our business. She tells me she tells me she don't know what to do about the baby. I want her back so much. I call her like crazy, and she answer but she tells me she don't want to talk. Can anyone make any suggestions or even help?