Eres
Nov 7, 2008, 05:41 PM
I am 22 years old and have been with my husband for 5 years.In the beginning things were good, though his background believes women should be subservient to their husbands.he made it clear to me when we were dating that he did not share this view,so things were all right.
After we were married though,he began to get very controlling and has taken to talking down to me and treating me like I'm stupid.I get the feeling he resents me for not being the meek little wifey he wants me to be.we argue a lot over stupid things and he often pressures me to have sex when I don't want to.He's always angry about something and I'm always miserable because of the way he takes it out on me.he's also made it clear that he will never let me leave him if it came to that.I've often thought about offing myself just to get away from him.
Worse yet,I've discovered that I have feelings for a friend of mine that I've known for 17 years.we have not done anything,but I have this longing in my heart to be with him.This only adds to my guilt and misery.I have talked to my husband about our problems and have suggested counseling,and he agreed (although he was apprehensive at first).Is there anything else I can do?
After we were married though,he began to get very controlling and has taken to talking down to me and treating me like I'm stupid.I get the feeling he resents me for not being the meek little wifey he wants me to be.we argue a lot over stupid things and he often pressures me to have sex when I don't want to.He's always angry about something and I'm always miserable because of the way he takes it out on me.he's also made it clear that he will never let me leave him if it came to that.I've often thought about offing myself just to get away from him.
Worse yet,I've discovered that I have feelings for a friend of mine that I've known for 17 years.we have not done anything,but I have this longing in my heart to be with him.This only adds to my guilt and misery.I have talked to my husband about our problems and have suggested counseling,and he agreed (although he was apprehensive at first).Is there anything else I can do?