Fiona2003
Nov 6, 2008, 01:58 PM
You'd think that by 30, I'd understand lads, but I am stumped on this one.
A few weeks ago, my boyfriend and I went to get chinese take out. I waited in the car and when he came out with the food, he also had a gumball machine "bubble" containing a ring. As we were driving home, he handed me the ring and when I put it on, he asked me "Will you marry me?" in Gaelic (we both speak it, I'm an intermediate learner and he's more advanced). I didn't know what to say at first and did that girly blushing and laughing thing (can't help it). He asked again, with more dramatic flair, so I said yes in Gaelic.
I wore the ring the rest of the evening, and even had it on the next time we met up, and he commented jokingly "That's some rock you got there" I figured that if he went out on a limb, there might be some true feelings there, and I didn't want to hurt him by just tossing the ring.
My question is this, do you think he did this as a way of saying "I'd like to get married but can't afford it right now" or "Commitment freaks me out so I'm going to make a joke out of it"
Background: We have been dating for one and a half years and he's sometimes been a little flaky (a.k.a. telling me he feels pressured about various things, once when I surprise visited him he was not happy to see me but pretended to be but later told his mom the truth, inviting me over but then is annoyed when I do come over) but we do have a lot of the same values and he does invite me to family functions, has brought me to work parties, his favorite bar, etc. We have gone on short vacations together and got along well on those. We are not living together (I am living at home because of a back injury right now) and are not sleeping with one another (trying to save it for marriage).
Is it possible that he is trying to tell me something but can't say it directly, good or bad?
A few weeks ago, my boyfriend and I went to get chinese take out. I waited in the car and when he came out with the food, he also had a gumball machine "bubble" containing a ring. As we were driving home, he handed me the ring and when I put it on, he asked me "Will you marry me?" in Gaelic (we both speak it, I'm an intermediate learner and he's more advanced). I didn't know what to say at first and did that girly blushing and laughing thing (can't help it). He asked again, with more dramatic flair, so I said yes in Gaelic.
I wore the ring the rest of the evening, and even had it on the next time we met up, and he commented jokingly "That's some rock you got there" I figured that if he went out on a limb, there might be some true feelings there, and I didn't want to hurt him by just tossing the ring.
My question is this, do you think he did this as a way of saying "I'd like to get married but can't afford it right now" or "Commitment freaks me out so I'm going to make a joke out of it"
Background: We have been dating for one and a half years and he's sometimes been a little flaky (a.k.a. telling me he feels pressured about various things, once when I surprise visited him he was not happy to see me but pretended to be but later told his mom the truth, inviting me over but then is annoyed when I do come over) but we do have a lot of the same values and he does invite me to family functions, has brought me to work parties, his favorite bar, etc. We have gone on short vacations together and got along well on those. We are not living together (I am living at home because of a back injury right now) and are not sleeping with one another (trying to save it for marriage).
Is it possible that he is trying to tell me something but can't say it directly, good or bad?