HKlinger
Nov 5, 2008, 09:15 AM
I'm in a sticky situation here. My husband and I split up earlier this year and I was involved in a new relationship. I went back to my husband and we are making it work, things haven't been better. Unfortunately when I came back, I found out about a week and a half later that I was pregnant.
The other guy is obviously the father. He has 2 children already with his ex-wife which he has custody of. His son doesn't live with him yet he collects child support for him (the son lives w/ his great-grandmother). My issue is that I know for a fact that he is not a good father; he can't support the children that he has; child support money goes to his truck (gas, insurance, payments), he has been physically abusive to his daughter (verbally abusive to both kids), he is unemployed, and hasn't paid rent for quite some time.
I know that the best thing to do for this child is to place it up for adoption. The father is making it incredibly difficult. I have had to file a PFA against him for harassment (phone calls, showing up to my home and job) as well as calling my doctors office to find out when I have my next appt (he told them he was calling on my behalf) and then following me from the office and he has made threats against my family in the past so I am very concerned for the welfare of myself, my family, and my unborn child. I don't know what he is capable of, especially with a baby involved.
I have been in touch with an adoption agency and I gave him the number as well so he can find out his rights (I want to make this as peaceful as possible). The counselor that I am working with has the same impression of him as I do... that it isn't about what is best for the child, it's about him getting me back and that the baby is the only way to do so.
What do I do?
Thanks so much and sorry so long!
Heather
The other guy is obviously the father. He has 2 children already with his ex-wife which he has custody of. His son doesn't live with him yet he collects child support for him (the son lives w/ his great-grandmother). My issue is that I know for a fact that he is not a good father; he can't support the children that he has; child support money goes to his truck (gas, insurance, payments), he has been physically abusive to his daughter (verbally abusive to both kids), he is unemployed, and hasn't paid rent for quite some time.
I know that the best thing to do for this child is to place it up for adoption. The father is making it incredibly difficult. I have had to file a PFA against him for harassment (phone calls, showing up to my home and job) as well as calling my doctors office to find out when I have my next appt (he told them he was calling on my behalf) and then following me from the office and he has made threats against my family in the past so I am very concerned for the welfare of myself, my family, and my unborn child. I don't know what he is capable of, especially with a baby involved.
I have been in touch with an adoption agency and I gave him the number as well so he can find out his rights (I want to make this as peaceful as possible). The counselor that I am working with has the same impression of him as I do... that it isn't about what is best for the child, it's about him getting me back and that the baby is the only way to do so.
What do I do?
Thanks so much and sorry so long!
Heather