This past Saturday my girlfriend didn't show up and now its more than a week since I last had contact with her I haven't received a phone call or nothing and I'm just worried in where this relationship is going. There is less then 2 weeks left before her job ends so, what can I do? Should I just wait till she arrives and hope she calls me. When I see her should I even bring up why she didn't call me. She has no cell phone but she was able to contact me before.

Or when she arrives ask why she didn't call and depending on her answer how should I react I was thinking depending on her answer to just tell her that to think about our relationship and if she still wants to be with me and to call me when she is ready to tell me. I was thinking it was that she wanted space but we don't hang out all week long only 5-6 days a week I'm not controlling I let her do stuff with her friends she told me that I was the nicest guy she has met but I'm starting to think she just said that to make me feel good. Another thing I haven't caught her lying to me about anything (yet)and I haven't lied to her about anything I stayed true to her about things. If anyone knows in how I should handle this that would be great and thanks.

How long have you been with her? Do you have an understanding that you will keep in contact all of the time? It sounds to me that the both of you are quite young, and you're not sure how a relationship needs to be an agreement between two people. It also seems like there isn't good communication between the two of you.

It sounds like she may have lost interest, and may be occupying her time with something, or someone else. I think the best way for you to handle it would be to wait until she calls, and tell her that you are happy to hear from her, and although you're a little disappointed that she hasn't called, that you have been very busy with your own stuff yourself. You can let her know that although you would like a relationship with her, you need to be in one with someone you can count on to at least call.

When she asks you what you've been busy doing, just stay a little mysterious. Don't lie, but don't say that you were sitting and waiting for her to call either.

Tell her that you have a lot of other things going on, and you need to know if she is serious about your relationship, and ask where she sees it leading.

Good luck!

We have been dating for 4 months now she only lives about 10-15 minutes away from me but she went to a job that is 3 hours away from here and the place she is in her brothers cell phone doesn't get signal there so she has to find other ways of contacting me. I think the job will be over in less than 2 weeks so she'll be back living here again I'm just really confused on this situation. Girls that I've dated before weren't like this yet they never had to go to a job that is far away like that. So I'm having trouble in how to deal with this new situation I'm in I'm stiill open for ideas.

I don't think she lost interest in me because the Saturday before this last one that passed she came home and she called me saying that if we can hang out. I came and she told me that her job is going to last another 3 weeks. So we went to dinner and she showed that she was interested in me still. We stayed at her house for a little while longer because that same day she was going back to where her job is. Before I left I gave her a hug telling her that I still really really liked her and she returned it back to me.

I told her that I would wait for her here to return and she told me that she would call about 2 times a week

And now its been about a week and half since I last had contact with her

I don't know if maybe her job is not letting her enough time to call or what but she told me that her job starts from 6 am and ends about 6 pm so I have no clue why she can't call

She told me that she had a friend but she told me that he was gay and that he actually lives in the same town her and me live and that he has a boyfriend so I wasn't worried on that

Can I get more advice on how I should deal with this I'm just sad and I really miss her a lot we have such a good time with each other every time we hang out she showes interest in me I never caught her lying to me about anything I just don't see how she would lose interest in me just out of nowhere

I know the town she is in right now its only 3 hours away but I don't want to arrive there and find out that she isn't doing anything bad and make it look like I'm stalking or that I have trust issues.

Can anyone give me some more advice in how to deal with this

I know that you like her, and you are sad that you haven't heard from her, and I'm sorry about that. But take it from a girl. If she liked you that much, she would have done anything she could to be able to call you. I'm also a girl that used to be with a guy that worked out of town. I had lived with him, and thought I knew him very well. We were together for yrs. Not months. He would hug and kiss me, tell me how much he loved me, before he was off to work out of town, and said he would call at least every second night.

Well, he got with his work crew, and they would party after work, and he wouldn't call. When he would, he would make up excuses about having to work extra long hrs. and about how he didn't have a cell phone signal. I finally found out the things that go on when people are working out of town, and it wasn't a good thing.

I was blamed for being suspicious every time I brought up that he hadn't called when he should have. He was up to no good, but denied up and made up every excuse in the book.

Now, I'm not saying that everyone does this. Maybe your girlfriend has a legit reason, but I would pay very close attn. when she comes back. See how many excuses she has, and also watch her body language, and how she reacts when you ask her why she didn't call when she said she would. Again, if she was really into you, she would have found a way to call. Pay phone, hotel phone, friends phone, email, text... many ways.

If she has time to pee, or eat, she has time to call when she promised. DO NOT go to where she is. Even if you don't mean to be a stalker, that is what you will be accused of.

I wish I could give you a happier outlook on it, but I don't get a good feeling. Like I said, a girl who is really into a guy will move heaven and earth to call you.

Sorry for the downer advice. Good luck!

OK so when she comes back how should I handle this like when she calls should I just pretend I'm not bothered that she didn't call and just go over there. Then should I just bring it up or should I just wait and hope she says why she couldn't call. And about her body language what would show that she is lying to me or would she be nervous when she is telling me her reason. So depending on how many excuses she has like if she tells me a lot of different reasons she couldn't call. I'm in a spot where I don't know how I should handle this

I'm just confused right now I just don't say that I like her a lot I show her that I do by getting her thing like a teddy bear which I sprayed the favorite cologne she likes that I wear. I put in small details on the stuff I give her so she knows that I like her a lot

A thing that I'm really confused about is that she told me that because I treat her so well she said she doesn't need to find anyone else because I'm so nice to her

I think I would really be sad if she just said that but didn't really mean it.

Can you give me advice on that and thanks for helping me deal with this I really appreciate it.

Well I think I would wait until she calls, and then set up a time for you to meet with her. Give her a big smile, and maybe ask how work went. I think after that, you should mention that although you've missed her, that you are bothered why she didn't keep her promise to call.

Tell her although you were busy yourself, and didn't sit and dwell on it, that you did wonder about the status of your relationship, and want her to tell you truthfully how she sees it. Maybe say something like... I don't know if you are as into this relationship/friendship as I am, and I need you to tell me, so that we can both be happy where we are and know if we are moving forward or backward. You don't have to say it just like that, but I think you get the idea.

Tell her communication is important to you, and it shows respect for the others feelings. All relationships should have a solid friendship based on respect and trust first, and then it can develop from there. Without friendship, there is no basis for a romantic relationship.

If she starts making a thousand excuses for why she didn't call, that is a big red flag! If she reacts in a nervous, angry, or indifferent way, that flag has a big red flashing red light behind it. Then she is hiding something. If she starts to turn the blame on you for any reason, or tells you she doesn't want to talk about it?. run in the other direction. She is not being honest with you.

As for the body language. Yes, if she is acting nervous, that's not really a good sign. Watch her eyes. If you ask her something and she looks down and to the left or right, or if she hesitates and looks up, she is likely not telling the whole truth. Looking up means she is trying to come up with something, and lying. Looking down and to the side indicates she is making something up, maybe not completely trying to lie, but looking how to get herself out of the present situation.

Try it yourself, and I think you'll know what I mean. Think of a crazy lie, and imagine you are going to go sell this lie to your Mom. Practice your lie, and then either do it yourself, or try and tell it to you Mom or a friend (whoever). Pay attention to what you are doing with your eyes when you are trying to tell this lie. Also watch for fidgeting with her hair, or things like touching her face a lot, or nervous actions like that. Some people are easier to read than others, but many are fairly easy to read if you pay attention.

All right I will follow your advice on that. There is only like about less than 2 weeks before she comes back home. I will just wait for her call then set up a time to meet.

We will go someplace where we are alone so there won't be any disturbance and I will look her in the eyes and I will just ask her why she couldn't call and I hope she tells me the truth and a good reason why she couldn't call. She hasn't lied to me as far as I know but you can never know when someone will. I totally agree with you on that trust thing I have told my girlfriend when we just started dating that there is no relationship if there is no trust.

Thanks for all the advice you have given me this really helps me it opens my mind a lot better in how I should handle this I really appreciate it.

Yes let her contact you and depending on how she explains why she couldn't call would determine how I would react and proceed.

Yeah that's what I was thinking of doing just ask her why she didn't call while she is telling me I will just see her body language and I will look at her eyes and see if she has a good reason then I will react based on her answer.