My stepsister and I are in love with each other. Know each other for over 35 years we are best friends and more .What do we do?

What's the situation?? More info, please.

"niceguy4937 (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/niceguy4937.html) agrees: Well said"

Thanks for the greenie, but what's the story?

Is it legal in your country to be with one another?

I don't think it is elegal. My dad married her mom there is no blood here .

Can you give us some more detail?

You can't just say two words.

Were both in our forties both divorced both have kids my kids are out of the house her kids are still at home . We lived together for about four years when are parents got married then I went off to the service and stayed in touch over the years She's had a hard life always with the wrong guy and me always with the wrong girl. We are both single now and got together not thinking this would happen but it did . What more would you like to know?

If you want to get married, you will need to contact the county court where they issue marriage license and see if there is any issues

If she was leggally adopted by your dad , there will be a problem even if there's no blood in there. Anywhere in the world. If your parents are still together and there will be no illegality marrying her, I think the only awkwardness there will be your siblings and of course your parents if they are still together. What do they tink about it?

There was no adoption no blood. Parents are still together. Whitch I don't think they would be that out raged.They I think would be releaved in a sense to know that we would be there for each other. For we both have had difficult lives and never could find the right partner. But we also have kids she is very close to hers where mine one lives in Europe nare her mom,and the other is in college and hardly has contact with me anyway that's the way her mom raised her and chastised me any chance she could. I'm trying to bring her back into my life slowly. We are just at that last bend in the road of life and want to be happy with what we have left . And we want to do that together. Our sisters and brothers they would just have to except it. I am closer to her sisters and my sisters and brother than she is. I think they may have a hard time at first but would after awhile learn to live with it.

We have not talked about marriage We are takeing this one step at a time. Dotting are I's and crossing are T's along the way.

I don't know about the legality of your situation. But you must think about what will happen to your family if you begin a relationship with her and then it doesn't work out.

Well that is on my mind to. What will happen if it doesn't work.? My dad called me tonight and he asked me if her and I were getting involved .Now mind you my dad is very open minded.And him I have this policy don't ask and I won't tell you. Well he ask and I told him and he's OK with it .She is also very close to my dad. She can tell my dad anything and he will keep things to himself, with me to he will keep it to himself .

So what seems to be the problem??

My stepsister and I are in love with eachother. Know each other for over 35 years we are best friends and more .What do we do?
Depends on your family. I suggest you do what you got to do... and don't tell anyone. It's none of anyone's business anyway... and it's not incest as you're not blood relatives.

Consider this story.. hope I can leave a link here.

Cops: 90-year-old living with 3 bodies - Life (http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/27608783/)

Were they?? Four siblings living together all those years? Even if not... which is sadder... to live all those years... without mates?

Sure I realize their mates could have died and over the years one after another they could have all moved back home... but it's still unusual isn't it?

So move in with your step sibling... and just don't tell anyone about the "other" part of your relationship.

"I think they may have a hard time at first but would after awhile learn to live with it." I

think you just answered your own question... =-)

I have answerd a lot of my own questions on this mater . But it is helpful to get others input.
And we are takeing our time with this. Thanks everybody for your positive and negative answers. Everyone has an opinion and everryones opinion mean a lot to me thanks again.