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NancyFox1
Nov 3, 2008, 08:54 AM
I fell In love with my exboyfriend last summer. We dated for 6month it was intense, I was with him 24/7 I slept at his house nearly everyday, he lost his virginity to me, he asked me to be with him for the rest of his life until one day it was around 4month into our relationship I started to get very protective over him and it was fight after fight after fight, we were in love but it was just too much, it became a habit for me to say ‘’okay fine, its over then.’’ Just to get his ‘’no! I love you please lets stop fighting.’’ And we’d get back together. I literally broke up with him everyday for like half a month. Until one week he started being very drifty, he’d make plans with his friends before me, which never was the case before, he wouldn’t call me or text me that much, obviously I got worried and felt so insecure, I called him up around 12 before I went to bed one night, and we got in an argument about how he didn’t love me anymore he would reply saying ‘’ugh I do, can I please sleep now’’ so I got furious and said my usual line ‘’fine, if you really want to go, go but that’s it for us forever, its over’’ ( I wasn’t serious, I never was) and he responded to that saying ‘’ok.. fine good night’’ I started shaking, it was not the same response as the usual.. it was something totally different, I called him back right away crying asking what's wrong, and all he would say was ‘’im sick and tired, but I'm so madly in love with you, you have to know that’’ and he started crying. He cryed for over half an hour over the phone I was so confused, I said to him ‘’okay I've been such a this month I promise things will change, if you love me that much, please just be with me’’ and he would say no. and that went on for about an hour.. so I got up and drove to his house I asked him to come down and we just sat there crying, I begged him back, he would just cry and say he couldn’t do that.

And that’s how we ended. And I wish it just ended there.

But that’s not it, its been 8month since we broke up…and during that 8month he dated 2 girls, one girl he went out for a month or so and now he is currently in a relationship with the other one and its been like 3 month.
During that whole 8 month including the time he was dating someone else and including now with his current girlfriend, we have been seeing each other Almost once in every 2 days…as we hang out with a bunch of same friends, I never got to get over him properly because Ive been having to see him every ing day of my life, and plus that, he texts me constantly and when he has problems he comes to me crying, and when he gets spare time all he wants to do is sit and go for a smoke or to go get coffee… and to make things so confusing is that his current girlfriend absolutely hates me. It just doesn’t make any sense. I want to get over him, how the hell do I do it without losing my friendship with him…and also I forgot to mention I live in a country where there's one decent looking guy in every 100 guys, to the fact that I'm an expat living in the probably the smallest country in asia and to find decent guys my age is impossible.

Not just that I also want to know, what do you think is going on in his mind?
To me I just see no hope of us getting into a relationship ever again but he keeps bringing my hops up, sometimes down. And it hurts. And of course I've asked him where I stood in his mind but he has never given me a proper answer.

Help me please

Advicegirly123
Nov 3, 2008, 02:42 PM
Try that's all you can do is try.Try though thinkabout him in a different way look at hinm as a best friend or even a brotherkind of love try to forget about the fact that you really do like him. If you really can't help yourself then listen to your heart wait and watch till he is done with this girl you never know he could be just doing this to make you jealous you never know good lluck!
Byee

Marriedguy
Nov 3, 2008, 03:11 PM
Those who play with fire with eventually get burnt. Do say things you don't mean.

The best thing you can do is leave him alone, create a distance between you two. I know it hurts but trying to keep this revive this relationship will not work.

You need to break-up for real refer to the break up rules and fall back.

If he loves he will come running back but you have to actually leave first.