What's really going on? Is it possible for soldiers to have affairs while deployed??

Other soldiers "men and women what ever your flavor is.
A man who is going to cheat will cheat if they are living at home or in Iraq.

Normally in Iraq they are more worried about living till tomorrow, but why do you think he could be cheating.

Think of it in these terms. He is living in a muslum country where women are treated like property. Single women are not allowed to even speak to a man outside of her family. If a single woman were to have sex with a man outside of marriage and her family found out, she could be killed because she disgraced her family. In many parts of the world where our soldiers are deployed sex is freely traded, but not in the middle east. Remember it is also against the law for them to even have alcohol. Now tobacco is legal! Go figure?

It is possible for soldiers to have affairs in Iraq, but it is not probable.

Most soldiers live and fight for their friends and family. It is that love that keeps them going.

When they have some down time, they can usually be found talking about their loved ones. Some never have any down time, and have to 'sleep with one eye open'.

Do you think something is going on?

You guys would be surprised how many soldiers have affairs while they are away, Lonely, and all going threw the same thing... Yes it can and does happen. If you want to cheat, you will cheat, Soldiers, presidents, priests...

What about cheating with someone stationed with him... that could happen... then again I wouldn't know...

It can happen, it happens at the local grocrey store, at the local walmart store, it also happens to soldiers in the military.

The truth about this is not pleasant. I myself have been through all this and am speaking from experience. They cheat and they get away with it. My husband had more than one girlfriend while we where married and they where all soldiers he worked with. A lot of those female soldiers are really "open" to put it in a nice way. He gave me gonorrhea, which happens all to often, because all these soldiers sleep with each other.

They also get a lot of help covering up their dirt. If a wife complains about abuse, cheating or mistreatment, the chain of command is very quick at quieting the wives... ex. You are hurting his carrer, how will you support yourself and your kids, if you become too much of a problem to them they are quick to tell you that you will be sent home (the place you came from before you married the soldier). The soldier is very rarely punished.

Also, my husband blamed me for the gonorrhea. He said he never gave it to me. I never strayed on my husband and alost went crazy over this isssue. He even came with a handwritten note from a nurse in Iraq and it said he was all negative. I went to the Health Department and asked the nurse where this could come from. She told me that soldiers will forge medical documents and also receive antibiotics before they are tested if they talk to the medical staff and make up some story. My friend was an Army medic and told me that this is very common practice. The STD's sometimes are so wide spread amonst the sodliers, that anything is done to keep it quiet and not make "waves" so to speak.

The only advise I have for spouses is... maintain your independence and stay close to your own friends and family. If something goes wrong do not rely on the Military to help you.

Trust him he needs your support. Be faithfu; and pray for his safe return.

Yes and no... it depends on where he is deployed. If he loves you though then he probably won't.

Here's the honest ugly truth though...

The soldiers are human beings and they have human tendencies. The military can be one of the loneliest jobs out there. There are plenty of lonely women/men out there too. So yes it is possible for them to cheat while no one is looking. But this depends how much privacy they have... where they are based and all sorts of factors. Obviously it be hard if you were in a very open area with 25 other guys (like barracks). However if there's a will there's a way.

The soldiers' wives'/hubbies' cheating tales are the worst though. The hubby/wife is gone for months and surrounded by lonely desperate women/men and they have a entire bed to themselves... So if you are there and you're not cheating. He probably isn't either.