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Droid2007
Nov 2, 2008, 02:39 PM
My girlfriend and I have been together 11 months and we are really in love, last week she told me she felt unhappy and that she needed some space to sort everything out, we have had quite a few arguments these past eleven months and she feels that all the arguments are catching up on her, she says for now I am her friend and she needs me to prove to her that I can be her friend, she says we probably will get back together, she says that she will always be there for me if I need her. But then she emails me a few days later saying she needs a break from bieng in a relationship, so I'm confused, what does this mean, have I lost my baby, or doeas she still want to be with me and save us.

Thanks

Droid

411Help
Nov 2, 2008, 02:55 PM
Giver her exactly what she wants.. . *SPACE*

Droid2007
Nov 2, 2008, 03:07 PM
Thanks for the help 411 help :)

Droid2007
Nov 2, 2008, 03:10 PM
I just can't help worrying, I'm so upset, I need her to tell me what she wants I just worry she's going to forget me

kctiger
Nov 2, 2008, 03:16 PM
Don't worry about what she wants. You shouldn't have to prove anything for her. Back off and leave her alone. If she wants you she can find you. You need not apply any effort!

411Help
Nov 2, 2008, 04:05 PM
Worry about one thing only, YOU.

oxyloron
Nov 2, 2008, 04:24 PM
view me as the other side. I've done what your girl has done to you. Unlike her, however, I never has the huevos to acutally break it off. Sorry to be harsh, but I don't think she wants to be with you anymore. She is just tyring to soften the blow of a breakup. Believe me, no one wants to be the bad guy in a relationship. I'm sure she likes you, just not dating you.

Again, sorry to be harsh. If you can, move on. Best of luck.

JBeaucaire
Nov 2, 2008, 05:29 PM
Your girl has broken up with you. All of your "I hope she comes back" stuff is you just adding fuel to the fires of frustration.

This stuff happens. Relationships end. The only thing worse than being in a relationship that is ending is NOT being the one who is pulling the plug. She's pulling the plug.

You will come up with 1000 ways to ignore this reality and add new "hope logs" to this fire every day. Only you can stop this.

Everyone is telling you to take care of yourself... what they mean is that all the pain you're feeling now is going to triple if you don't stop it from happening. It's going to hurt since you are the one who got dumped. It doesn't have to hurt as much and as long as you can cause it to prolong.

So don't add fuel, OK? You have no choice, none, you will have to start working on yourself and letting the healing start.

talaniman
Nov 4, 2008, 11:08 AM
She ask for space, give it to her, and move on to what you did before her.

You have nothing to prove, except that you don't play games, or jump through hoops for her silly a$$.

Yes even asking you to prove something to her, is an insult to you.

Disappear from her life, and don't look back!!

ylaira
Nov 4, 2008, 03:24 PM
From woman's point of view, there is something she wants that you are not giving. For 11 months you said you we're in love but she feels unhappy. This space means to me that she is giving you a chance to be what she's looking for and I don't know what that is.

Anyway, what are you fighting about most of a time? That will answer.